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[NSFW] When giving head, where do you head at the moment of truth?

Asked by ETpro (34202 points ) January 25th, 2013

Here it is Friday again. Sorry for the coy wording, but this is about giving head, and whether you swallow or spit. The texture and taste of male cum is close enough to that of things considered yucky that lots of people find it impossible to develop a fondness for eating it. It really isn’t bad tasting unless there is something seriously wrong with the person providing it. But nonetheless a fair number of people either pull it out at the moment of truth or immediately spit it out thereafter.

Bear in mind that female cum; while thinner in consistency, not milky, and milder in taste; is rather like what comes out of a runny nose. I don’t know if there are any spitters in the cunt lapping world, but I imagine it would interfere with a lady’s enjoyment of being eaten if the person licking her clit kept pulling away from time to time to spit her secretions into a spittoon, or immediately left for the bathroom to wash their throat out and gargle right after she got off.

So what’s your style; swallow with delight, grin and bear it, accept and spit, or finish them by hand? Has anyone ever come across someone who spits when licking pussy? Are any of you in that class?

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Shippy's avatar

Depends. On a lot of things, how much I care about him. But mostly how the consistency is. I know he can drink things etc., to make it thinner, have less odor for example. I don’t think that it is the same. Males shoot in a huge white ball of cum. Women cum inside then it trickles down afterwards. It is very thin. Not sure I would liken it to snot? Its clear has no smell at all, and is not lumpy like male cum.
I reckon most times I’d spit it out. Or he can shoot on my face tits or where-ever. If he drank a glass of his cum, then I might consider it.

livelaughlove21's avatar

Swallow, no question about it.

If you spit, you have it in your mouth longer than you would if you swallowed it, which kind of defeats the purpose for me.

If you finish by hand, you’ve got a mess to clean up.

Instead of letting it linger on my tongue or having to grab for the cum towel or throw my sheets in the wash, I opt to swallow.

If done correctly, you barely taste it. No one expects you to gargle with it. Girls that complain about it are just sissies. And, of course, spitters are quitters. If you’re going to do it, do it right.

If my guy spit after going down on me, I’d be offended.

ucme's avatar

I just put my cock in there at precisely the right moment, you’ve had your starter, now time for the main course.

Shippy's avatar

@livelaughlove21 good for you! anyone’s cum, or just particular cums?

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Shippy I’ve only gone down on 3 men, but I swallowed each time. I’ve given my husband oral more times than I can count over the past 6 years and I’ve never thought twice about it. I’ve perfected knowing when it’s going to happen and putting his penis toward the back of my throat and, doing that, I rarely taste it.

My husband’s diet is awful, but I’ve never experienced anything smelly, foul, or lumpy as far as his cum goes. I guess I’m just lucky.

My best friend rarely goes down on her boyfriend, but when she does, he cums on her boobs or stomach…I find that to be less appealing than swallowing it. Especially after she tells me about having to clean it out of her hair. Blech! I’ll stick to the neater option.

Shippy's avatar

@livelaughlove21 That makes sense the throat thing. I love cum all over me. On my face, hair boobs, anywhere. I will even play with it. I don’t even mind a cum bath. I have a thing for runny things in my mouth, I can’t even eat runny eggs.

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Shippy Lucky for me, my husband isn’t turned on by the idea of cumming all over me. I’m just not into that. I don’t even find it sexy on porn, and I actually find it pretty pornographic in nature. I equate it to a guy grabbing your head and shoving his dick down your throat so hard you’re gagging and slobbering and crying while he’s yelling “oh yeah bitch, suck that cock!” Not really my thang.

But hey, go you if you like it! Nothing wrong with getting a little dirty.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Shippy A new way to get a creme rinse for the hair.

Shippy's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe loll yes, and tittie cream

bookish1's avatar

Oh how I enjoy your TGIF questions, @ETpro.
I guess for me it is a question of intimacy and whether I want their life force inside of me, haha. I never mind it on my face or body, but I won’t swallow for just anyone. Oh man, next time I get to hang out with Frenchy, I’m going to…
need to lie down now.

Shippy's avatar

@livelaughlove21 I like it when they shout all that loll

ninjacolin's avatar

lol, this question is amazing, @ETpro.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Shippy I’ve heard it’s good for the skin. But tittie cream is going to make me laugh all weekend. Try explaining the laugh to someone else. :)

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Shippy I once saw a bumper sticker that said, “Let go of my ears. I know what I’m doing.” That’s me all the way. I’m in control and you don’t cum until I let you, so just lay back and enjoy, dammit! I don’t need any encouragement or demands, thanks. :)

Shippy's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe is it a low dirty laugh? ha ha

zenvelo's avatar

I love a woman’s moisture all over my face, I have a mustache, in a particular bit of phone sex the next day I told her I could still taste her in my ‘stache, and it was just like lapping up her pubes. she loved that.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

We always called a ‘stache a flavor saver.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Oh boy, it’s Friday! Let’s see… how NSFW do I really want to go with my answer? Eh, I’ll just answer without being porn-ish. :D

I’m a swallower. It’s kind of a mood killer to hop up and run to the bathroom, so I just let him explode and I gulp him down.

mazingerz88's avatar

It’s Horny Friday again on Fluther. I’m glad. : )

@zenvelo Forgive me but, are you sure there we’re no rather adventurous pubes of hers still clinging on your stache at the time?

To the OP…when the moment of truth comes while giving head, I grab my cell and take a photo of my partner’s explosion. Then send it to my buddies with the caption, “60 seconds flat bitches! Now try and beat that!” lol.

JLeslie's avatar

Well, I have a strong gag reflex, and have trouble swallowing in general. You might have seen past answers of mine on Q’s about how difficult it is for me to swallow pills, so even though I have swallowed in the past, and still do sometimes, it freaks me out a little because of the whole gag thing. I need to have a lot of control over what is going on. My husband thought maybe I was disgusted, but not the case, I am just freaked the same way I am in general about things in my mouth, choking, swallowing, or throwing up.

El_Cadejo's avatar

I’ve never been with a girl that didn’t swallow or allow me to cum on her. I do think I’d find the whole running to the bathroom thing pretty offensive though just as I think it’s a bit offensive when a guy pulls the whole “I’m not going to kiss you until you go mouthwash after going down on me”

Given preference though, I’d honestly rather cum on her than in her mouth. I can’t quite figure out why this is though. I mean it definitely feels much better to orgasm while still in her mouth but something is so much hotter psychologically about the idea of cumming on her. No clue what the hell it is though.

I’ve never come across guys who as you say spit during going down on women but I’ve met a few who won’t go down on women at all due to the taste and “messiness” to which I reply “What are you, completely daft?”

JLeslie's avatar

@uberbatman Do you watch a lot of porn? I haven’t in a long time, but O seem to remember porn has the guy always cum outside whether after sex or blow job. So, you might be conditioned towards that.

Shippy's avatar

Ugh! I feel so lacking that I prefer bouncing in it, rolling in it, and having it in my face. While having “Take it like a dirty whore” yelled at me.

I guess I have a lot to work on :(

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy that sounds like one level below recreating Cleopatra bathing in asses milk.

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine A bit yeah. But I am sitting here thinking a real swallower would you know, rinse it around a bit, chew on it, let it hang out then slurp it up again. In real joy you know what mean?

El_Cadejo's avatar

@JLeslie yea but I dont know, there are A LOT of things in porn that I find to be major turn offs as well. As far as I can recall I’ve always found this hot.

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy you mean like somebody savours a fine wine? Slosh it around inside their mouth, try to pick out that hint of strawberry and citrus?

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine Totally, in fact I wouldn’t mind a whole group of them doing it at once.. dam gotta go .. loll

Oh sorry! back to your point, yes, exactly, savoring like a fine wine, smell, swish, slurp, THEN swallow. Now that is a real swallower.

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy yes it is a real swallower and the experienced ones would probably be able to tell if it was a vintage year blindfolded as well.

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine Yes and during an orgy, we’d all share top notes, bottom notes and texture, volume and fruitiness.

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy Although with the way you prefer it then it does give a different slant to the shampoo Head & Shoulders

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine Personally I think they should build slippy slides. (into it)

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy or should that be shippy slides into it?

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine I so knew you’d say that. Are you flirting with me by the way?

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy You caught my attention with answers in this thread, but I do notice you are quick at replying to my answers so I should turn the question around and ask if you are flirting in return with me?

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine It depends? Do you expect me to chew, slurp, swish and swallow?

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy Not at all as instead I noticed that you prefer anywhere apart from your mouth so no swishing or swallowing is required.

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine So… I assume you would fill a bath with it instead?

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy Depends on the size of the bath.

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine And would you shout…“Take it all your whore” while shooting on my tits?

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy Absolutely!! whilst it blasts out like a firemans hose that has gone out of control.

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine OK, I admit I was flirting a bit.

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy Well so was I and the entire experience was enjoyable.

Shippy's avatar

@TheProfoundPorcupine I guess then you’ve done your fireman stunt?

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

@Shippy Depends on your bath.

ETpro's avatar

@Shippy If you thin lady cum has no odor, you either are lack any olfactory perception or haven’t experimented. I happen to adore the scent of woman, nit having been down on both, I can tell you that female cum is far more od an olfactory assault then male ejaculate.

Be that as it may, your answer indicates you are a trooper, and world needs more who at equally willing to play the game at hand.

@livelaughlove21 For me it’s swallow all the way. Whether we’re talking male of female jiz, I live to drink it.

Leanne1986's avatar

I always swallow unless we are in the shower and then I direct it over my boobs!

El_Cadejo's avatar

@Leanne1986 I would think in the shower would be the worst time to do that. Cum gets all nasty sticky when you try and wash it off. Better to just use a dry towel in my experience.

ETpro's avatar

@uberbatman Mine washes off fine in ordinary soap and water. Best check your diet. See if it’s high in waterproof, mostly petroleum based factory foods. :-)

El_Cadejo's avatar

@ETpro Didn’t mean it doesnt wash off but rather when it gets wet it changes consistency and tends to get more sticky

Leanne1986's avatar

@uberbatman I can honestly say we have never had a problem getting the cum off my boobs in the shower!

Shippy's avatar

@ETpro I was gay for 16 years. And had loads of female lovers, no smell. Bar one, very strong acidic PH I think.

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Shippy “Was gay”? As in, not anymore? How did that work?

ETpro's avatar

@Shippy I absolutely adore the vaginal scent of women. I’m not talking disgustingly dirty here, nor obsessively clean and douched (something there is generally no need to ever do).

But then, I’m a nose. I honestly could get a job in the perfume or wine industries where they hire people with inhumanly acute senses of smell. I not only can smell sugar the moment it’s opened up, I can smell a cup of coffee and tell you if it does or doesn’t have sugar in it.

Shippy's avatar

@livelaughlove21 I so knew someone would pick that up. I had meant to add living as. As in living as a gay person. I had also an 8 year gay relationship. I say was as I am no longer interested in women, zero, zilch. But as you know studying what you are studying (if I recall correctly). Sexuality is fluid, and changeable. (Not as in the fluids discussed here).

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Shippy I’m studying psychology. Fluid, yes. Changeable? That’s up for debate. Saying that you can just wake up and say, “meh, I’m not gay anymore” sort of takes away from the argument that being gay is not a choice. Engaging in homosexual acts is a choice. Being homosexual is not. If it were, no one would have to be gay and go through the turmoil many of them go through. Why have lit matches thrown at you in the locker room all through high school if you can just choose to be straight? Saying, “I fall in love with a person, not their genitalia” is different – it doesn’t mean one has a gay switch they can turn on and off. I’m not a huge fan for the term “bisexual”, but it doesn’t mean one goes back and forth from being gay to being straight.

Semantics, perhaps, but the wording just bugged me.

bookish1's avatar

@livelaughlove21: What does it profit us to have the argument that sexual orientation is not a choice? How does this liberate anyone, gay or straight? “Feel sorry for me because I was born this way.” “OK, fine, I guess I won’t beat the shit out of you for being an effeminate homo, since it’s in your DNA.” Not bloody likely.

Human experience is far more complex than either/ors. And I was bullied daily and had rocks thrown at me in high school, not to mention having oppressive parents who likely would have sent me to Jesus anti-gay camp/‘restorative therapy’ if my absence would not have been embarrassing to explain. Telling all my tormenters that I was ‘born that way’ would not have saved my ass.

I think the ideology of inborn immutable ‘sexual orientation’ is a trap. A very convenient trap that keeps consumer capitalism chugging along nicely. And the psychology you’re learning in college does not explain everything. If you were studying psych 30 years ago, it would have told you that homosexuality was a mental disorder. And it still gets so much of trans experience wrong, although some people in the field are trying their best.

It’s quite possible to be an accepting and progressive person without the dogma that sexuality is inborn and immutable.

JLeslie's avatar

@livelaughlove21 @Shippy @bookish1 Personally I dislike the need, pursuit, justification, labeling, regarding being born gay, choice to be gay, all of it. I understand from a scientific point of view it is interesting, but the argument today in America is centered upon trying to get the Christian right to back off and not try to put their view of the world into laws that limit civil rights. I don’t care why someone is gay, I don’t care that they are gay, all I care about is that people are good; good to each other, and good to themseves. I just don’t understand why it matters to anyone who loves who. I think the whole born that way is catering to the Christian Right instead of just fighting for civil rights, human rights, and equality. I believe sexuality is both fluid and changeable. Some of the people who have had male and female sexual encounters and relationships might label themselves bisexual, but I also think we change so much through our lives, our brains change, there is science on how our neural pathways continue to lay down and rewire, and sometimes we meet a particuler person who might make us rethink what we always thought about ourselves.

Pschology evolves also, as we see when you pick up a DSM from 40 years ago and one from today. Or, go back to Freud’s day, Jung, Maslow, many of their theories are interesting, have merit, some not. We should always be questioning; including questioning the text books.

livelaughlove21's avatar

@bookish1 and @JLeslie I’d like to clarify that I only mentioned my area of study because @Shippy mentioned it, not because I think psychology gives me answers regarding sexuality. I don’t think that, and I haven’t learned much about sexuality in class at all – not about sexual orientation in this context anyways. I only speak from my own life, individual research, and personal feelings on the subject.

It’s just a pet peeve of mine when someone claims that they or someone else “used to be gay”, just like the term “turning gay” is a pet peeve of mine. That’s the only reason I even said anything and, like I said, it could just be semantics. To suggest you can make the decision to be gay or not just bugs me.

On a personal level, I don’t care why people are or aren’t gay, but I think it’s important to a lot of people and to suggest it’s a choice feeds homophobia. It shouldn’t, because who someone has sex with shouldn’t matter to anyone that is not engaging in said sex, but unfortunately this is a huge issue that has social and political ramifications.

I didn’t intend to start an argument or come across as some type of self-proclaimed expert on the subject, so I’m sorry if I did. I just find the notion that you can CHOOSE who to be attracted to ludicrous.

I also don’t think being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or trans is “okay” just because I believe they’re born that way. It should be okay regardless of that. Just to be clear.

JLeslie's avatar

@livelaughlove21 Leg me clarify, I was not assuming you were making any sort of judgement about gay people. I assumed you were just stating how you look at it and was asking for clarification and explanation from @Shippy about how she looks at and has lived it.

My sister is bisexual and the gay community can be worse that the straight community on the topic. Some gay people really don’t like when people dabble in heterosexual relationships, because I guess they think that person is in some sort of denial or something. Anyway, the same way you have a pet eeve, I have a pet peeve about having to lock someone into a box, and not being able to live their truth. If someone chooses to be gay, I am fine with it. Why would it bother you? If a woman says she chose to date women, because she had so many bad experiences with men….so what? Some gay people think this takes away from their instances they were born gay, but I do not think it does. We all have our own path, both can be true in my opinion.

I think being gay probably has to do with genes and environment, like pretty much everything.

livelaughlove21's avatar

@JLeslie I believe saying “I used to be gay” is putting yourself in a box. If @Shippy said “I used to have relationships with women,” I wouldn’t have even said anything. I know people that refuse to label their sexuality, and I respect that and find it refreshing. Like I said, I believe strongly that sexuality is fluid. But saying, “I used to be gay and now I’m not” is reinforcing the labels.

And, again, who someone has sex with doesn’t concern ME specifically, but the phrasing itself can lock one into a box that feeds those who do concern themselves with such things.

Saying sexual orientation is a choice is just asking for that, “Well if it’s a choice, why ask for special treatment politically and socially? If it’s just as easy for you to be with the opposite sex, why would you need to change the law to marry someone of the same sex? And if you don’t like how we look at you at your partner holding hands in the park, do something about it and be with the more socially acceptable gender.” This, of course, is ridiculous, but I think the gay rights movement needs to feed this ignorant viewpoint like it needs a hole in the head.

JLeslie's avatar

@livelaughlove21 I think I understand. You are just explaining how things sound to many people. How they might interpret certain phrases and words.

My point is basically what you explained in your last paragraph, gay people talking about it not being a choice is for the part of the Christian right and others who are homophobic (I list those as two separate groups, sometimes they intersect) who might, maybe, possibly, back off because they are born that way. The whole God created me this way.

Shippy's avatar

Really? I can only speak for ‘me’. You cannot conclude or form any foundation or orientation based on one persons experience. If I were to say I am gay, but now like men (for the sake of this debate), what would you label me? But more importantly, if I were to say I am gay so therefor me alone, standing here, form the universal sample for objective study for that which makes one lesbian? As in Choice vs Nature? Would you consider that rational? Would you then group all Gay people together, as one experience? Mine?

Not all gay experiences are the same. I actually hate the word gay. I did correct myself and say ‘Living as a gay person’. Because I was; I was practically separatist.

When I said fluid I did not mean changeable as you put in your post. Fluid as in, at certain times in ones life, they might find a more nurturing feminine characteristics appealing at that time. Or a stronger more masculine characteristics more appealing at another. I did say characteristics before anyone loses their knickers.

I would consider myself bisexual, at this stage of my development, I have polarized to males. I love men. I have no interest in women. That is not to say I might meet a woman and become attracted to her. I am still bisexual, but my preference at this stage has changed.

Did I choose to be bisexual? No, I found myself attracted to both men and women. But the difference is I embraced it. That was in the early 80’s very shocking then. Strange how I am having to explain my sexuality to someone. Suddenly I feel like how a lot of other orientations must feel.

bookish1's avatar

@livelaughlove21 : Thank you for calmly explaining your position. I posted those questions earlier this morning before I had had coffee, and later on I regretted that I might have come across too harshly. I think we have the same goals, but we are thinking about them in different ways.

I do agree with your thought that to suggest that homosexuality/not-being-straight-ness is a ‘choice’ can fuel homophobic arguments. This is the reality of the world we live in.

The problem as I see it is that Gay Inc (the mainstream and assimilationist “LGBT movement” in the U.S.) is playing to the lowest common denominator (arguably, they have to, if their goal is to counter the claims of social conservatives who decry homosexuality as an abominable choice, etc). If they bawl loudly enough that ‘being gay’ (that is, pursuing arrangements outside of heterosexuality) is not a choice but is something programmed into us, maybe the system will grudgingly let us slip in. Because they hope that we will disappear and stop making them uncomfortable.

Myself, I do not care for the term ‘sexual orientation’ because it presents sexual practices as an immutable and essential identity. This idea had to be historically cultivated; it is not natural or self-evident that the kind of sex you have indicates what kind of person you are. I vastly prefer thinking of sexual practices as just that… practices. They don’t necessarily mean anything about you as a person. Your interests and preferences can change. For example, I have known so many guys who consider themselves straight, would never date a guy, etc., who will nevertheless look at gay porn, fool around with guys, check them out, etc. In fact, I think that the system of rigid inescapable categories we have actually fuels homophobia. Because the way to prove you’re ‘not gay’ is to be misogynistic and homophobic. I am oversimplifying here, but I have seen examples of this time and time again.

I have literally been all over the ‘spectrum,’ from a gay female to bi/pansexual, to a pansexual guy, and now I am much more interested in men and can’t really fathom having a relationship or even an encounter with a woman. But I’m open to the possibility of this changing again in the future. These traits changed based on the phase in my life, the hormones I was most influenced by, my past experiences, and how I perceived my own gender and was perceived. I consider these labels of sexuality to be descriptive rather than prescriptive for me. They describe tendencies, not something innate about me. Like @Shippy, I prefer to think of these traits as a preference. And I’ve known people, even friends of mine, to become very frustrated and confused when I refused to neatly and categorically state my “identity” or “orientation” for them.

But this is why Gay Inc tends to stay away from more complex views of sexuality…It takes away power from their political arguments in a very hostile environment.

redellbabymomma's avatar

@ETpro i prefer to swallow becasue if you keep stopping the pleasure part would go away and it wont make sex exciting as it is supposed to be!

zenvelo's avatar

To get back on topic, it is possible i would not want to give oral sex to a woman who was overly stinky.

ETpro's avatar

@redellbabymomma Hear, hear. I agree whether it’s my outflow that’s being swallowed, or I am on the receiving end.

@zenvelo Overly stinky either indicates someone hasn’t washed in ages, or they have an infection. Personally, I wouldn’t be doing any muff diving in either of those cases. Before getting married, I had a fling with a very sexually active young Chinese lady. Her normal vaginal odor was not at all strong. But one night we were about to play, and I noticed a distinctly different smell emanating from her sex. I demurred, and told her to see her gynecologist. She thought I was fricking nuts. She’d experienced no symptoms of any infection. But to prove me wrong, she did visit her doc. She had a yeast infection.

As far as cleanliness, when I worked for a time in Great Britain, I had a boss who was of the old British school that one should bathe no more than once a year. I worked in the very back of the basement of a large building, and I could smell his stench the moment he came in the ground floor level front door. As he approached my desk, it was all I could do to avoid vomiting.

So all my praise of the scent of woman or man relates to those who maintain sensible hygiene and are not infected with an STD.

zenvelo's avatar

@ETpro Did you look at my link to an article on Gawker?

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ETpro's avatar

@zenvelo Anybody that hates their mate enough to embed poison in their snatch is one sick puppy—or pussy. Didn’t she know her own flesh would start absorbing it?

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