I'm having a big fight with my parents. What should I do?
It’s gonna be long, but I really need advices on these.
1. One day my mom cleaned my studying table because she thinks that it’s a sore eye for her to see such a mess. I was so angry at her because she made it hard for me to find my things. In calm situations, we also have previously had an agreement that she wouldn’t touch my things. So, I shouted at her for moving my things and we had an argument. She insisted that she didn’t do anything wrong and she didn’t move anything. My father watched the whole thing and believed my mother’s story. Both of them shouted at me and called me Bas***r*, B*t**.
2. I was furious, and had this habit of writing my feelings down to calm myself. One day my sister found it out and told my mom all curses and bad names that I use to call them when I’m angry. At the same day, when both of them weren’t at the house, my father accidentally dropped all my things on the table while trying to get something. I was startled and asked ‘what are you doing’. He instead SHOUTED at me to put all MY things back and argued that he didn’t do anything, may be the ghost made it fall down. I asked, ‘did you see a ghost?’. He slapped me a couple of times, cursing me ungrateful kid and said that he would kill me. I cried and went to sleep.
3. My mother, who found it out later told me to sit with her and said that I was a very impolite and asked me to apologize to him by kneeling in front of him. She said that these days I’ve been very impolite to her because I often shouted at her and him in frustration. She began to complain that she was so tired in doing all of the housework and laundries, and how i never helped and her and instead studying hard in school to become a top student, she also complained on how my father has sacrificed all that he had to work as building laborer. she said that they as parents are the one who fed me and gave living, and could kill me if they want. if i don’t apologize, she said that they would not let me go to school. I felt miserable because they both never practiced what they preached and never praised me when i get top score at school. They never support me to study as hard as i could. Long time ago, when I wanted to give up on something, they just let me give up. They aren’t there when I need an objective advice. they laughed at my dream to study at a top university in Japan. We are a family of poor economy. we seldom talked about our feelings deep inside and actually had a poor communication. What should I do? Am I the b*tc*?
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