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NSFW- Women, have you ever asked a partner to wear a particular outfit to bed?

Asked by Imadethisupwithnoforethought (14067 points ) February 12th, 2013

I was talking in a friendly manner with a female about the outfits she had worn to bed to make a lover happy. I realized, I had never worn anything or even inquired as to a preference as to what my partners would want me to wear to bed.

Does the concept of a man wearing something sexy to bed even exist?

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Sunny2's avatar

Never occurred to me. I nice warm body was all I really needed. A silly out fit would be fun, but never necessary. Now you’ve got me thinking.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@Sunny2 seriously, I am glad it is not just me wondering.

Unbroken's avatar

WOW how could I have missed that? Does a blind fold and handcuffs count? What about body paint?

Yeah not quite the same as a few of the outfits I wore. But I guess I sorta wore them for myself as much as my partners.

Unbroken's avatar

Meaning it was partially my initiative.

Earthgirl's avatar

Whatever he’s wearing, I’m happy to undress him. Its more fun that way. I hate it when men just strip off and cut to the chase. I like to be undressed and to undress him…with rare exceptions

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@rosehips @Earthgirl You have no preference at all prior to sex as to what the man is wearing? No secret sexual turn on like wow I wish he dressed like this?

Unbroken's avatar

Maybe the question is what would you like to dress up as.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@rosehips don’t try to turn this around. If you were gonna ask, what? And if you have not, why?

Unbroken's avatar

I am thinking.. something furry?? Nah I dunno.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Not really but I’m not opposed to it. I don’t however wear ‘outfits’ to bed either, unless he would too. The idea that a group of people (based on gender and sexuality) should ‘dress themselves up sexy’ and the other group should not, by default, is bs.

Unbroken's avatar

It would have to be his idea. Something he wanted to be. Something that fit him or was so against his nature that it would be comedic.

It really isn’t about the outfit. Not for me ..

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir It is fine to call BS. But have you requested an outfit vs. the number of times you have been asked to wear one?

rojo's avatar

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought maybe it has to do with men being much more visually oriented while women are more mental (yes, double entendre.).

Bellatrix's avatar

Well there was the time I asked my husband to come to bed wearing a Viking helmet…

He has Viking heritage but he wouldn’t play with me. Sighs…

rojo's avatar

@Bellatrix only related in a vague sort of way but somewhere I have a photo of three friends in viking helmets standing by a sign that says “Cattle Guard”.

Well, I though it was funny.

Bellatrix's avatar

Well you know, it would have really given me the horn.

rojo's avatar

It’s that beserker thing isn’t it?

ucme's avatar

I’ve never had a woman ask me to wear anything to bed, other than a hard-on & a cheeky grin.

Earthgirl's avatar

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought My preference is for a well dresssed man of course. Someone who puts care into his appearance and knows how to put an attractive outfit together. I happen to love suits, but they need to fit well and be cut right and be stylish.But no particular clothing item is a turn on per se. More like, there are bad clothes that are a turn off, like, for instance big ugly galumphy shoes. I’m not a big fan of running shoes or big cloddy looking shoes.
And most every woman will tell you that certain uniforms are incredibly sexy.

syz's avatar

Nope.

livelaughlove21's avatar

Does a cowboy hat count? I ended up wearing it anyways.

Leanne1986's avatar

No, I love my boyfriend’s naked body so I would rather he just wore his birthday suit for sexy time. I once bought a sexy outfit to wear for him but I ended up naked so quickly that it wasn’t really worth what I paid for it. Turns out, he would just rather I was naked too, no need for sexy outfits.

burntbonez's avatar

I was once asked to wear a Barney costume.

That relationship did not last. Although, now that I think about it, perhaps I should have been more adventurous. I mean, think about it? What would you do when stripping someone out of a Barney costume?

On second thought. Skip that thought.

rojo's avatar

Um, sure. Who doesn’t want to fuck a big purple dinosaur? is there even a word for that kind of kink?

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Ok, look at all my sexual encounters, I’ve been requested to wear certain things more than I’ve requested it of my partner. But, again, that has more to do with the fact that I just don’t need that kind of stuff as much…it’s like, I know all about lots of kinky things and I have lots of sex toys and strap ons and butt plugs and know what to do but I’ll rarely do any of it because I’m a minimalist in bed and because I’m good on my own and so is my partner. Finally, though many have requested, few have received what they requested.

augustlan's avatar

Nope, never. Now, if my husband still had the riding breeches and coat he wore to a formal faux fox hunt, I might be interested…

Unbroken's avatar

Oooo @augustlan sounds like fun. I was thinking and there was this guy that would have looked great in kilt. I think it would have been a fun role reversal too. Upskirt shots for men & )

rojo's avatar

Hey! I love my kilt but have never considered it an “outfit” even when wearing it during amorous activities!
Same goes for my Sarong.

Earthgirl's avatar

@augustlan Like I said, uniforms and suits are Uber sexy!

Let’s face it, I’m not sure what the OP means by “outfit” but any sort of dress up options existing for men just make them look ridiculous and undignified and that is far from sexy to me and to most women. I am not visually turned on by mens bodies for the most part(s),lol. There is one exceptionally sexy part and it doesn’t show when he’s wearing an “outfit” unless that “outfit” consists of a cock ring.

I do appreciate a tasteful looking robe and attractive underwear. I don’t like big baggy boxers or tightie whities. The sight of a man coming to bed and sliding his robe open to the nakedness beneath might be a mild turn on, but not nearly as sexy as the sight of him untying his necktie and unbuttoning his dress shirt while gazing deeply into my eyes…..mmm…like I said, I like suits and uniforms and the only thing that comes close to being as sexy as that is a white linen shirt. That is as close as it comes to a menswear fetish item for me.

Earthgirl's avatar

BTW @Imadethisupwithnoforethought Happy Valentine’s Day! Now be a good boy and go put this heart thong on for me, ok? you’ll do it if you love me!

Unbroken's avatar

Sarongs are multi functional: binding, blindfold, protection from sand and in a pinch they work for clean up. Good idea @rojo.

I entertained the idea of morph suits. But I am not convinced.

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