Save your spouse or your parent if you had one choice?

Married.

Hubby.

My mother is a non-entity unworthy of the expended effort, and my father, well, to be honest it’s more important for my son to grow up with a dad than for me to see mine again.

Married. Mom. Because I love her more than anything in this world.

Married. Spouse.

Divorced. Girlfriend.

Single. Sauve qui peut.

Social psychology research shows that most most people would choose to save a blood relative over another person, even if that person is their spouse. Evolutionary psychology at work. This, of course, probably wouldn’t apply to those that genuinely do not like their parents for whatever reason.

My automatic response would be that I’d save my husband. However, there’s no way I can know what I’d do in that situation unless it happened.

Married. My hubby (he’s my best friend).

Divorcing and parents are dead so the question is moot.

I’m in the same boat as @janbb. But if someone said that letting my husband die would bring back my mother to me, I wouldn’t even flinch. (I’m not saying I would actively kill my husband, but if it meant simply ignoring something and just letting it happen, that is what I would do. Like, say I had a premonition and could avoid his death somehow…. I wouldn’t.)

Well, my mum’s a better cook, but the wife’s a better fuck…woah, hang on!!!
Yeah, sex takes precedent over food, sorry mum :(

@ucme the wife’s a better fuck

As far as you know, anyways.

@livelaughlove21 That’s way too close for comfort to a motherfucker…never go there :/

Widow. My father has also passed away so the choice for me would be between my mother and my daughter.

Maternal instinct says daughter because I also know my mother has been just waiting for her “time”. And my daughter still has a full life to live. I would also have to put up with my mothers guilt if I did save her and not my daughter, which I could completely understand making the choice a little easier, but I still love my mother and would hope we never have to face a decision like this.

Dying by fire or water is excruciating for at least a second once your nerves get overloaded then your body goes into shock. I don’t wish it on anyone.

I’ve drowned once and had a 3rd degree rope burn and also had a barbeque blow up in my face and I reacted so good I only singed my eyebrow and half my long hair at that time, but I am lucky to have lived. Come to think of it I have had a lot of close calls with death :/ lets hope fire was done good enough for death.

This is one of those odd occurences someone asked about several days ago because I was comtemplating this very question yesterday but never got around to asking it! I will have to go back and see if I can find the thread.

Married – I would save my wife. I love my mum but she is over 80 and has had a long and productive life while my wife has a few more decades left in her.

Depends on who is closer and easier to get too.
As determined in the Canadian Red Cross Basic Life Support guidelines.
Saving lives is not biased.

Married. Husband.
A much harder choice would be which one of my three children I’d save if I could only save one of them. Honestly, I don’t think I could do it. We’d all go down together at that point.

@augustlan yeah, I was thinking of the same issue and there’s no way I could choose.

Married. Husband.

This is an easy one for me. Although I love my Mom, she’s in the 6th of Alzheimer’s 7 stages, is usually confused and upset, and has little quality of life remaining. Paul and I have a happy marriage, which I hope will last for many more years.

My partner (common-law but might as well be married).

My mother is only 55. However, she’s had a rough go in life (emotionally). I honestly think she’d be happy for the eternal rest. I also know she couldn’t live with herself knowing my partner died to save her. She loves her as if she were her own child.
My father, as much as I care for him, he’s not really in my life any more. So it would be easier to sacrifice him.

My partner is my best friend. I’d die for her.

Odd thing though, knowing myself, I’d probably be the one to die trying to save everyone.

Spouse. One parent is already dead, and I was never close to either of them. My fiancé is the family I choose.

Married – Husband. My parents are dead but even if they weren’t. They’d have been older and hopefully more involved with each other than me. My husband is my partner, my friend, my future.

Well, I’m single, my dad’s dead and my mom hates me. So I’ll save @bookish1 :D