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If Jorge and I dated, would we work?

Asked by iLindseyMarie (114points) October 14th, 2013 from iPhone

My friend, Jorge, and I have known each other for a while and we’ve come to the conclusion that we like each other.
I know Jorge likes me because he told me and he flirts with me all the time; he says he plans to kiss me SOME day, and whenever we hug, he kisses my neck.
Jorge asked me if I thought a relationship with him would work, but I couldn’t exactly answer him.
He says he doesn’t want a relationship with me because he values our friendship, but we do things together that normal friends, in my opinion, wouldn’t do..
If we were to get into a relationship, would it work?

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Katniss's avatar

Maybe? Maybe not? We really can’t answer that for you.
You can always try it and hope for the best, just be prepared for your friendship to be forever changed if it doesn’t.

elbanditoroso's avatar

I hope you’re not serious with this question.

We don’t know you and how neurotic you are. We don’t know either of the other people, either, and how crazy they might be.

My view is that you are over-analyzing. (That sort of makes you a control freak, which is NOT a good sign).

My advice: chill out. let things happen. Don’t try and figure out all the angles. Be a human being and let thing take their own course.

If something develops between you, then roll with it, good or bad. If not, then you learned from it.

But Jorge is giving you a subtle hint that he’s not interested.

gailcalled's avatar

He says he doesn’t want a relationship with me because he values our friendship more than he would a relationship, but we do things together that normal friends, in my opinion, wouldn’t do.

Friends without benefits normally don’t kiss and bite each others’ necks. (Does he draw blood and ask you to pass the salt?) And how do you know he plans to kiss you SOME day?

The info you supply is very confusing. I would stick to the fact that he has said that he does not want a relationship with you. He couldn’t be clearer than that.

Do I remember that you are 17? Have you had any sexual experience before? You have asked several other relationship questions here that I found hard to decipher also.

Most 17 year old males will kiss anything that is standing still.

Jeruba's avatar

Do you mean “Would we get married and stay together forever?” If not, you’re talking about a relationship that’s temporary.

In either case, we have no way of knowing. But unless you seriously expect Jorge to be your last romance, why not just wait and see?

Kardamom's avatar

Right now, it sounds like he is only interested in a friends with benefits kind of set up. Those types of relationships almost always fail, because one of the 2 people usually ends up developing more serious feelings for the other person. The person who doesn’t have serious feelings usually feels smothered and exits the relationship.

AshLeigh's avatar

We don’t know you, or Jorge. There is no way for us, or anyone else for that matter, to tell you with absolute certainty if the two of you could make a relationship work, if it were to come to that.
The only way to find out is to give it a shot, but it doesn’t sound like he wants to at this time.

OneBadApple's avatar

So he doesn’t want a relationship with you because he values your friendship, but still kisses you on the neck ?

Sounds to me like he’s trying for the ‘relations’ without having to get onboard the ‘ship’...

rojo's avatar

Why don’t you try
never mind, this is general

rojo's avatar

WTH – Boning, and see what happens.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

Go out, live your life, get educated, “drink up” life experiences, meet people, take care of your health and build it stronger, LEARN things, have fun and don’t worry so much about Jorge and other Jorges. 17 doesn’t last long and won’t come back, so move on and do something constructive!

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