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illusionslies's avatar

How do you meet new people?

Asked by illusionslies (586points) November 8th, 2013

I realized that I don’t have good people in my life at the moment. How can I meet more?

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Unbroken's avatar

Get involved in something new.

gailcalled's avatar

Are you still in high school, college, in the working world? Can you drive? City, suburbsm or rural?

Blondesjon's avatar

I toss back a few ‘shroom caps, wait an hour, and then spin an empty bottle of Boone’s Farm Strawberry Hill on our picnic table. When it comes to a stop I immediately head out in the direction the bottle’s neck is pointing.

I have met a number of interesting individuals this way.

illusionslies's avatar

@gailcalled Working world/taking classes. I don’t drive.

janbb's avatar

Look at meetup.com for your geographical area and see if there are any clubs or “meet-ups” in your area that you can join. I found a walking group and other social groups in my area after I became single two years ago and “that has made all the difference.” I found my best guy friend at the walking group and also my best single woman friend and traveling companion. Meetup.com is not a dating site; it is an affinity and activity group clearing house and a wonderful resource. There are photography groups, film going groups, hiking groups, etc.

talljasperman's avatar

I met lots of friends in the five months I spent in the hospital two became Facebook friend’s.

ucme's avatar

Become a midwife?

Seek's avatar

I love Meetup.com.

It caters to people like me – who are incredibly nervous about meeting new people.

You get to search for a group of people who enjoy something you enjoy – classic cars, tabletop gaming, whatever – and have a chance to talk to some of them in the forums before attending a scheduled meetup – which could be anything from five guys in someone’s living room playing poker to attending a lecture at a local science center, and anything in between.

I’ve used Meetup to join a breastfeeding support group, to find local area atheists and humanists, and find the local SCA chapter.

glacial's avatar

@Blondesjon I never pegged you as a wine cooler man.

Adagio's avatar

I just discovered Meetup.com exists in New Zealand too, looks like there’s something for everyone.

janbb's avatar

@Adagio yes, it is in many palces in the world and just a wonderful thing!

ibstubro's avatar

Thanks, and great advise @janbb!

There aren’t even any groups in my area, but I’m impressed with the concept/site, and it’s a perfect fit for the question.

snowberry's avatar

church and volunteer opportunities.

anniereborn's avatar

“It looks like there are no Meetups matching your search”
crap

illusionslies's avatar

@snowberry I wanna meet people who practice critical thinking.

ibstubro's avatar

@illusionslies wouldn’t your question been better phrased as, “How can I meet people who practice critical thinking in the _________” area?

You can’t really ask how to meet new people, and narrow the search later?

janbb's avatar

@illusionslies Philosophy course at a local community college?

Seek's avatar

One of the Meetup groups I am a member of is called “Tampa Bay Area Thinkers”.

We get together to discuss controversial topics in a civilised manner.

janbb's avatar

@Seek_Kolinahr There are more than one of you? :-P

Seek's avatar

Ha!

Most of the members are also members of the Tampa Humanist Association and/or the Center for Inquiry.

I’m also the youngest member by about 20 years

ibstubro's avatar

Honestly, @illusionslies, I meet people by noticing the people around me and where I am. If I see the same person, in the same place twice, I nod or say “Hi”. After that, “Hey”. After that, the Ice is broken, conversation follows.

snowberry's avatar

@illusionslies Ohhh, we got them! We are not stupid; you just don’t agree with us. Therefore, we’re don’t practice critical thinking according to you. Totally makes sense. But that’s what I can expect from a prejudiced mind.

I have a family full of theists with some of the brightest minds around, and critical thinking is necessary to their professions:
A cousin who for many years was the chief science officer at NASA.
A brother in law who wrote the computer program for the Hubble Space Telescope.
A sister in law who is an electrical engineer.
Another brother in law who is an inventor (invented x-ray machines and an electric car).
A sister in law who has a doctorate in meteorology.
An uncle who was dean of engineering at a major university.
Another uncle who founded an electric power company and brought electric service to a large portion of a western state in the US.
A daughter with a double degree in teaching English and teaching Japanese (graduated cum laude).

Everyone of them are (or were) theists.

If you did not want theists to answer, you should have said so in your question. Be more clear next time!

downtide's avatar

@Seek_Kolinahr I’ve noticed that age thing in my local Humanist society. Nearly everyone is over 60, and about 80% are men.

Seek's avatar

^ I guess we young’uns would rather share Flying Spaghetti Monster memes on the internet than talk to flesh and blood people, huh?

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