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NSFW: Have you ever been in a threesome/orgy/other group sex activity?

Asked by Mr_Saturn512 (324 points ) December 9th, 2013

Yup.

Serious question.

Say you’re into that kind of stuff.

I mean. . .it’s a fantasy, yeah, how would one even go about it? Have you done it with friends? Strangers? Drunken hookups? Some special place where they host something like that?

I guess you can mention college experiences, but let’s mostly go with your average self living independently already in adulthood.

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Jonesn4burgers's avatar

Have you?
There aren’t that many people who deserve to be with me. You mentioned fantasy. Does that count? I thought it would be fun sometime with identical twins.
Does my former relationship with a schizophrenic count?.

Smitha's avatar

No, I never have and never would. The idea of a threesome with my SO and another person is completely unappealing.

whitenoise's avatar

Yes…

It was my SO’s idea and entailed another woman. I wouldn’t be too eagerly looking to share the bed with another man. It was quite exciting, to be honest. I don’t feel it hurt our relationship. We actually felt very intimate with each other because of it.

(The other woman wasn’t a friend and we had no emotional ties with her, BTW…)

rockfan's avatar

No. The thought of having a threesome with two people I know makes me a little queasy. They would have to be complete strangers.

ragingloli's avatar

Every time during bible study with the priest.

anniereborn's avatar

@Jonesn4burgers Nope, a schizophrenic doesn’t have multiple personalities. You are thinking of Dissociative Identity Disorder

Jonesn4burgers's avatar

I meant the voices he brought with him @anniereborn I’m not mistaken about his schiz. I’m pretty familiar with the condition. It broke us up when he went off his medication. He was wonderful until he stopped medicating. At first the voices were under control. He would tell me what they were saying, and whether they were muttering or shouting. when they were rude about me, I directed him to tell them to go to hell. Eventually he got violent. I had been trying all along to get him to refill his scrip, but he thought he had it handled. I had to leave him for my own safety. I’m pretty sure they coached him some though, during moments of intimacy. So, again, does it count?

hearkat's avatar

Yes. The reality didn’t live up to the fantasy (as is usually the case in all areas of life).

KNOWITALL's avatar

No but my town has a big swinger group that meets every month at a hotel. We’ve been invited but not our thing.

anniereborn's avatar

Sorry @Jonesn4burgers I thought you were making a total joke. And I tend to get on my high horse about mental illness stuff.

ucme's avatar

No, to use another golf analogy, I love to shoot a hole in one.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@Cme Yes! Attraction is so rare I can’t imagine picking someone from a crowd. awkward & probably bad sex.

CWOTUS's avatar

Not yet.

jca's avatar

No. I’m no prude but I wouldn’t be into it.

Pachy's avatar

Never, but if I did, I sure as heck wouldn’t talk about it here.

livelaughlove21's avatar

Nope. If I did, the extra person would have to be male in order for me to be at all interested – and my husband probably wouldn’t agree to that, to say the least. The thought doesn’t really appeal to me. I’d have more fun watching than participating. I think it would just be really awkward. No thanks.

El_Cadejo's avatar

Yup.

@whitenoise “The other woman wasn’t a friend and we had no emotional ties with her, BTW…” I think that is a pretty integral part of the whole thing being successful. At least when a couple is new to the whole scene. I think it gets rid of the possibility of any one partner even considering getting attached to that other person. Like you though, I felt a lot closer to my SO after.

Seek's avatar

Not as yet, but the idea isn’t off the table. Male or female.

But I would have to be attracted to the person, and that means I would have to know them, at least a little. I’m a total sapiosexual, and I cannot be attracted to unintelligent people. Pretty and stupid isn’t pretty.

rojo's avatar

Whenever I see a question along these lines I think of what Wanda Sykes said. I can’t find the exact quote but as I recall she said something along the lines of it being every mans fantasy to be in bed with two women to which she asked why? You can’t even keep one woman happy, why would you want to piss off two of them?

Mama_Cakes's avatar

Love Wanda!

Leanne1986's avatar

I would be up for a threesome, my boyfriend and I do talk about it from time to time. I am only interested if we introduced a female rather than a male, in general I am more attracted to women so it would be easier to find a woman that I would be willing to get intimate with.

cazzie's avatar

I have not, and I have no idea if I could ever do that. I have had some exploration in my past, but it never included an extra person in the mix. I take love-making very personal, intense and important. I don’t think I would feel comfortable trying to concentrate on two people at once. Could I do a girl I really liked and found attractive? Absolutely. But I’m in a monogamous relationship now, so it isn’t going to happen.

downtide's avatar

I was once involved in a foursome with my partner and two friends (another couple, male and female, both bisexual) who stayed at our house one weekend. It ended up with me and the girl having our fun whilst the other two guys just watched. Typical.

Blondesjon's avatar

Not since the restraining order.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Oh, the lies in this thread.. Ducking

Jonesn4burgers's avatar

By the way, @anniereborn , at least one of those voices really knew what he was doing. I’d like to have that one back, if only the others could be locked in a trunk. sigh.

El_Cadejo's avatar

<wonders if @ARE_you_kidding_me is implying those who said they have are lying or those who said they haven’t>

whitenoise's avatar

Funny enough, I rarely ever lie on fluther. I guess that is one of the reasons why I want to keep my real life identity well protected.

El_Cadejo's avatar

@whitenoise pretty much that. I like fluther because it allows me to be more “myself” than some social situations would allow for.

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