Did your parents ever make you think that you were unwanted?

I have this friend with a son three weeks younger than my daughter. I know she loves her son, but she CONSTANTLY mentions that she and her husband were planning to be child free. It was one of the first things she ever said to my husband and I when we met. Seriously… the fact that she never wanted kids was the third or fourth sentence out of her mouth.

She is always bringing this fact up and talking about how she tried to keep her pregnancy secret because it was so depressing and horrible for her. I can’t think of a time we’ve gotten together that she hasn’t mentioned it.

Yesterday, she posted that “Four years ago, I couldn’t enjoy the Super Bowl because of a terrible personal tragedy.. and I still can’t enjoy it today..” She didn’t say what it was, but I knew pretty darned quick that she was talking about finding out she was pregnant.

She probably thinks this is OK to talk about because her son is only three, but I think she’s going to keep talking about it and he’s going to understand pretty soon.

I just wondered if anyone else ever felt unwanted by their parents. How did they do it? How do you think it affected you long term?