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Why do people hate comparisons when nearly everything is somehow measured by something else?

Asked by Hypocrisy_Central (21300 points ) February 11th, 2014

Some people, maybe many, hate comparison because they feel it holds something up to judgment. No matter what it is something is always held up to comparison and that lends on to judge between what is being compared. One moves to another home, what is finally chosen is measured next to the other alternatives, then scrutinized by cost and the one that is the best for the buck usually wins. One does the same with jobs, vehicles, watches, etc. People even do it with people, especially one they want a future with; they have to make a judgment on the physical attributes, character, personality and such of that person; In short, a form of judging. When comparison involves judging (and it usually does), why do people hate comparisons or live in self-denial that they do it?

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hominid's avatar

Who hates comparisons? And what is it that you are asking?

keobooks's avatar

I don’t agree with this. Comparisons are a big part of our communication.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

^^ What is being asked is why people hate comparing one person, pet, living place, and nation against another? It is as if they are afraid they may get compared and they think of that as being judged, and maybe they will come out on the ”less than” end of it.

keobooks's avatar

Ahh. Like why do I get upset when my father in law teaches my daughter to say “My drawing is better than yours” or things like that. Maybe it’s not polite to point out what may be perceived in weaknesses of another? It’s OK to think it, but not to mention it on a regular basis. How would you like it if someone felt the need to point out the true fact that they were smarter than you every time they saw you, or something like that?

There’s stating a fact or an opinion, and then there’s driving that opinion into the ground.

josie's avatar

The only people who hate comparisons are the ones who come up short after the comparison is made.

cazzie's avatar

I don’t think it is the comparisons people object to, but the reasons and objectives behind the comparisons. Quantification of a thing is not defined by comparison. An apple is not defined by how it compares to an orange. That is not empirical. More often than not, comparisons are made to prove some sort of point. ‘That apple is not as orange as that orange.’ or ‘That orange tastes more sour than that apple.’
It absolutely IS part of our communication and if we can learn to read behind the reasons for the comparisons and the conclusions made by the comparer, we could learn to be more discerning and critical in our own conclusions and thoughts.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@keobooks Maybe it’s not polite to point out what may be perceived in weaknesses of another?
Often IMO there is no weakness to expose. One decides not to move into a neighborhood that a good friend lives in, they do so because they see too many beater vehicles there, with too many young men hanging around on the street, so they choose a neighborhood that is gated. There was no weakness to expose but the friend living in the neighborhood that was passed up may feel it was an indictment against where they live and a de facto slight against them because they life there; as if ”That is a crummy neighborhood, it is good enough for you, but not good enough for me because I am better”. That is the way it could be perceived.

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@cazzie It absolutely IS part of our communication and if we can learn to read behind the reasons for the comparisons and the conclusions made by the comparer, we could learn to be more discerning and critical in our own conclusions and thoughts.
Or it can expose fallacy in the viewer. I would have to add as @jose says, the people who feel, or in actuality, their champion comes up short when all is said and done, hate comparisons the most. They also hate when their champion compared to the next end up being more paper than mighty. More often than not, comparisons are made to prove some sort of point. ‘That apple is not as orange as that orange.’ or ‘That orange tastes more sour than that apple.’ There is some truth in there even though they are vastly different fruit. An apple may have more cooking uses than an orange. To some an apple maybe sweeter, and an orange more sour. Why would those who champion the orange get upset because the orange fell short in something compared to the apple, or vice versa? Often times how one takes it is telling of the hearer or viewer of the comparison of their ability, or inability, to reason or show any discernment at all. They allow their own thoughts to hijack any real use of discernment or logic in how they would compare anything. There can be issues or things that are better, or at least no worse, than their champion but because it goes against their personal petty prejudices, so they rather focus on discrediting the parameters of the comparison so their champion need not be exposed to it and come up lacking.

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