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(NSFW )Is it wrong to be in a relationship and watch this?

Asked by Eggie (5051 points ) March 2nd, 2014

If you have a girlfriend/boyfriend or you are married, is it wrong to be watching porn? Isn’t that like cheating because you are in fact fantasying about someone else? Is it wrong to be in a committed relationship and watch porno movies?

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GloPro's avatar

No. Cheating is, in my opinion, something that involves interacting with someone other than the person you have agreed to be monogamous with. What is determined to be a cheating action varies by couple. If there is no interaction then there can be no cheating.
Fantasizing is normal. The human body is sexy, and watching others engage in sexual acts can be a huge turn-on for some. It doesn’t mean they would cheat on you. You’re over thinking.

anniereborn's avatar

I agree that it is not cheating. However, if it would upset your partner that you are watching it, a talk about it is in order. Some people have problems with it. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong, it just means there has to be some open communication.

Cruiser's avatar

Not if you are watching it together!

ibstubro's avatar

No.

“I’ve committed adultery in my heart.”

Pish.

elbanditoroso's avatar

One person’s porn is another person’s art.

Think of all the women that watch (and read) the soft-core chick porn on channels like WE and Hallmark and Lifetime? Are they ‘escaping’ in a similar way? I would say yes.

And what about all the women (and a few men) who just gorged on “Fifity Shades of Grey”? In its own way, that could easily be considered pornographic.

My answer: If both members of the relationship are comfortable with it, it’s no big deal.

Leanne1986's avatar

No. When I watch porn I am still fantasising about my boyfriend. We often watch porn together and it’s always good fun. I am honest with my boyfriend when I watch porn (and he’s not there) and he is honest with me so I feel for that reason alone, it is nothing like cheating.

hominid's avatar

Huh? In my experience, men and women encourage their partners to explore and enjoy porn.

Coloma's avatar

I was married to a porn and strip club addict once upon a time and it caused big issues in the relationship.
It was emotionally unfaithful behavior to me and he did not respect my boundaries.
Porn has become a major problem in a lot of relationships and I do not support the industry at all.
No matter how mainstream and acceptable it has become it is still a pain and shame based industry and many men become addicted to the arousal and fantasy.

Make no mistake about it, porn can be just as destructive as drugs, alcohol or anything else in intimate relationships. All addictions share the same components, lying, hiding, sneaking, and a craving for the drug of choice over anything else supposedly important.
It’s a slippery slope and there is nothing harmless about it in many instances.
It has the potential to be very harmful and personally I want nothing to do with men that feel they have to have porn in their lives to be happy.

I am more than capable of being the appetizer, main course and dessert and if you want an all you can eat buffet of depravity well….go find your Ho-town buffet and I will find a man that only wishes to sup at my table. lol

ucme's avatar

Do I feel like I cheated on the wife because I saw a porn actor’s balls slap off his co-star’s arse?
Err, no!

livelaughlove21's avatar

No, it’s not wrong. And it’s certainly not cheating.

Seek's avatar

If you’re lying, you’re cheating.

In my relationship, porn is mutually acceptable.

Raerae009's avatar

Not necessarily. I believe cheating is having any (sexual or platonic/romantic) relationship that interferes with another. Personally, I feel my boyfriend is fine to watch all the porn he wants, as long as he still comes to me for some tail. If he were to stop showing interest in me, I’d consider that semi-cheating, a grey area. I wouldn’t be happy, and he wouldn’t be happy either. I mean, c’mon! If he were to go to porn instead of me, the chick that works from home and is ALWAYS available, he’d be nuts. ;)

it really just depends on the two people’s personality. I don’t mind porn, but I’d rather have the real deal. My good friend absolutely HATES porn, and feels hurt when her boyfriend watches. Another couple of my friends loves to watch porn together… What ever floats your boat.

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