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Is this normal for someone who is straight?

Asked by RockerChick14 (948 points ) March 7th, 2014 from iPhone

I know I asked a similar question a while ago but I wanted to add more info. When I was little, I liked a movie just because I thought the boy’s girlfriend was pretty. My favorite character was always the prettiest girl. I have a crush on a boy but the other I was talking to a girl and I kept thinking about kissing her. I don’t think I would mind kissing one. When I see myself with someone for the rest of my life, I don’t see just a boy or a girl; I just see myself with someone. When I don’t have a crush on anyone, I just say that I don’t have a crush on anyone.

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talljasperman's avatar

I had the hots for Melisa John Heart, Christina Applegate, and Sailor Jupiter and some of the Marvel women from Fox Kids cartoons.. I’ve never been married and I’ve only had two girlfriends one who I kissed and got nothing from the experience. Your normal.

filmfann's avatar

Am I correct that you are 14 years old?
Don’t worry about it. You will adjust these feelings, and you will be fine in a couple years, whether straight or not.

RockerChick14's avatar

Filmfann – I’m 17

filmfann's avatar

Okay, sorry. Your screenname threw me.
I stand by my answer, though. Don’t stress on it.

Jonesn4burgers's avatar

I agree with @filmfann. You are still at an age when your body is going through changes. Did you know that puberty does not end for women until around age 21? Confusion is part of the game. The way women appear all over, sexy, beautiful, strong, sensitive, one might think we are all goddesses. We are not, though close. With your chemestry bobbing and weaving all the time, it is sometimes going to be hard to tell if you appreciate someone/something for the beauty viewed there, or if there is an actual attraction. Eventually things will smooth out some, and you will begin to know yourself better than you do now.
I’m a woman who is all about men, but that doesn’t mean I can’t see what sometimes attracts men to other women.

Raerae009's avatar

Completely normal, I’d say. I’m 23, and have “girl crushes” all the time. I wouldn’t say I’m either straight, bi or pansexual, I’m just naturally curious, just like the rest of the world. We females have hormones that are always fluctuating, it’s just part of life. Enjoy it!

ragingloli's avatar

haply ye art not as straight as thou thinketh

LornaLove's avatar

Maybe you are more aware than most people and are willing to give both a try. That is ok. :)

marinelife's avatar

Yes, it is normal.

Uberwench's avatar

The movie thing is normal. Women are socialized from a young age to see the world as men do, especially in media. We’re taught to judge a woman based on her abs and bust size, to identify with the pretty girls and want them as much as we want to be them. It’s one of the reasons that Western society has mismatched reactions to homosexuality depending on whether it’s guy/guy or girl/girl. Look up “male gaze” sometime for a bit more on how this works.

The thing about imagining your future, though, is a lot less normal. Straight people tend to have something in them that imagines their future with a member of the opposite sex. The same goes for gay people. A lot of us look back and realize we always thought of ourselves as ending up with a member of the same sex, even though we had no idea what that meant at the time. This isn’t universal, though, so it’s not like this is some kind of definitive statement about your sexuality.

Relax and let things go where they will. You don’t put a label on a box until you know what’s inside it. Figure out what you want before you decide to say what you are. And don’t let anyone tell you that you have to figure it out now.

gorillapaws's avatar

Also bear in mind that sexuality is modeled on a broad scale with many shades of grey. Picture a line with men on one end and women on the other, bisexual would be in the middle. You can be anywhere on that line, maybe you’re 90% attracted to men, but 10% to women, that’s ok, normal and nothing to be worried about.

zenvelo's avatar

Along the lines of what @gorillapaws said, it’s not a matter of thinking something is normal or even straight. And it is not even what @Uberwench categorizes into separate buckets.

What is “normal” is what makes you happy and puts a smile on your face. And that could be a pretty femmy girl, or a more androgynous woman, or a queer boy, or a very hetero guy. You are normal! And you don’t have to define yourself with someone else’s labels.

Love who you want, dream of whomever you’d like to be with, just be true to yourself and be the best most loving @RockerChick14 you can be.

bolwerk's avatar

A gay friend of mine has a number of occasional sexual partners who identify as “straight” but like to occasionally perform gay sexual acts with him.

I think women usually have a more fluid sexuality than men period though. Men are pretty set in their orientation after adolescence, which is one of the reasons pedophilia is such a difficult thing to treat.

If you’re worried you might like women a little or even a lot, I’d say you’re pretty normal and healthy. You can identify as straight still, but it’s just an identity – you don’t have to obey it.

Uberwench's avatar

@zenvelo I said boxes, not buckets. And I used that metaphor to describe labels, not sexualities. Don’t misrepresent me just to make yourself feel cool.

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