How important is/was your virginity to you?

I wish I lost it a close friend or something. Instead I sort of stuck half in with one girl, then I finished it off 4 years later with her cousin :X We dated for a while, but she became a sex maniac for my standards of a highschooler (I was a high schooler too) and man she got really active after I didn’t want to get back with her.

Her mom called her a whore all the time, so I’m sure that’s where she got fucked in the head.

Again to your OP it wasn’t that important. She was a cute cheer leader it could’ve not happened with her and I would’ve been fine, but we did it. It’s really a neutral feeling.

We’ve been married for almost 20 years.

Lost it to my first real girlfriend with whom I had a wonderful and meaningful relationship with. No regrets, I’m happy it was with her. To this day I have never screwed around with anyone I was not in a serious relationship with.

It’s very important to me, I shall lose it when i’m good & ready regardless of peer pressure :)

It was not that important to me, but I’m glad that I lost it to a very special and excellent person. But it wasn’t something that I felt I needed to hold onto for dear life. I was with that person for a few years—it didn’t end up lasting but he and I are still friends to this day.

It was very important to me. I lost it when I was age 18, a legal adult and in a truly loving, committed relationship.

Did you wait to lose it with someone you felt very strongly for or did you not care as long as you got rid of it? I lost it with someone who I had been dating for a few months and I figured we were serious enough.

Do you feel you have a bond that cannot be broken to the person you lost it to or can you not really remember them at all? I don’t feel bonded to him anymore. At the time the sex mattered. I felt like I was supposed to lose my virginity with the person I would stay with. That was stupid for adults to make me feel that way. We broke up one time and having had sex with him freaked me more out that we broke up. We were together for over 5 years.

Do you have any regrets about your first time? No.

Were you with the person you lost it to for a long time before and after or was it just a one night thing? We were together about 3 months when we first had sex and stayed together over 5 years.

Do you think relationships are more likely to last if you lose it to one another or do you think a bit of previous experience is valuable to a relationship? I don’t think it matters. I should qualify that I do think some women stay in relationships longer because they get more bonded having had sex and especially of they lost their virginity to that person. Some people don’t put that much emphasis on sex and it doesn’t affect if people stay together. People break up and stay together for many different reasons, I don’t think it usually stays together or breaks up because of losing ones virginity, but I do think sex in general can matter. Varies from person to person.

I didn’t care much. I did lose my virginity to someone I loved though.

I didn’t think of my virginity as some precious flower, but I did wait until I was 18, and six months into my first “real” relationship, to give it up. Mostly because I was scared it would hurt, not to mention things like STDs.

I ended up marrying the guy I lost it to and we’ve been together for nearly 7 years, married for two. He was not a virgin when we meant. No regrets.

I think experience is valuable in most cases, but I’ve never had the desire to have sex with anyone else. I’m hoping it stays that way. :)

At the time, for a male child losing ones virginity was a sign of virility and being ‘a man’ (of course that was the ‘70’s) In retrospect, perhaps it was part of the pressure that female children felt to ‘give it up’ during that era. I regret that. As I approach my dotage, I see more clearly that chastity and restraint that is/was a virtue to be prized and honored. While I was a band geek, and not an attractive youth, I still got the ‘band camp special’ with another band geek female who was equally curious. I think it was my junior year of high school. I think it was meaningful to both of us, as we were best friends before and after. Sadly we’ve lost contact. I hope she remembers as fondly as I do.

I was over 17–18 and didn’t know the person all that well, but expected it to lead to some kind of relationship. It did not, but I wasn’t heartbroken about that – more confused.

I have tremendous empathy for people, but I have little ‘bond’. I’m probably too adaptable. If I can live with or without something for a week or two, I can probably do so for life. I was the youngest of 3, and sort of the throw-a-way child. Something to do when they others were bored, but not usually included when there was fun to be had.

It may have been important, I can’t remember that far back. Ask me about breakfast.

I was very serious about my virginity. It was something very special to me and I didn’t want to just sleep with anyone. Nowadays, I think promiscuity is like the norm and that just doesn’t gel with me. Everyone is entitled to do whatever, but I didn’t want to be the type that slept with multiple guys.

I was 17, but finished with my freshman year of college (I started young). I’d been with my boyfriend for about 8 months and I just KNEW he was the one. I loved him very much and was pretty damn sure we were going to get married. I’m still with him, and his parents call me daughter in law. It’s gonna happen once we both graduate lol. So I feel like I made the right choice and I have no regrets. At this point, if I broke up with him, it would be special not JUST because of the first time but because of the entire almost 5 year relationship we had.

Regrets?? Hmm…..I guess I just wish it was at a happier time. At that point in time, we were each going through a lot of problems in our own life so when we finally took the plunge, while I knew he was the one, it wasn’t as joyous of an occasion as I had hoped. And quite frankly, we were both virgins and not that good at it lol.

It was one of those things that I didn’t realize I had, until I lost it.

Honestly…. To me the whole obsessiveness with virginity is annoying and part of a religious cult that suppresses a vital part of our being human.

The whole virginity concept creates so much misery, particularly to women, I wish we could strike the meme.

Whats for breakfast, @zenzen?

@whitenoise “It was one of those things that I didn’t realize I had, until someone told me I lost it.”

I cared at the time. I remember sitting by the phone for hours the next night wishing the guy would call and validate that I was special.
That feeling wore off pretty quickly. Once your virginity is gone there is no sense in hanging on to regret.

I didn’t really care. I actually did it in the most dickholeish way possible. I was 17 and had been dating a girl (also a virgin) for around three months. We got drunk and I told her I loved her (I didn’t. Just said it to get laid) and there you go.

Before you burn me, I dated that girl for a few years after and I did eventually honestly love her.

@ibstubro

That may indeed be more accurate. LOL

It was important to me. I wanted my first time to be with the man I would marry. And it was. We were both virgins. It was 5 months into what would be come a 12 year relationship. (married for seven years). I don’t regret it one bit.

At the time I lost it I was clueless, as I am sure way too many are. It was far from memorable; it is memorized by how I duped myself out of such a special moment for a fizzle of a moment. Than heavens I never had to live with a commemorative sign of how I duped myself out of something priceless for peanuts; guess that is one perk for being male There was no lifetime or special bond to whom I swindled myself into giving it away with.

I saw it as a dividing line between adolescence and adulthood. It was a life experience that I wanted to have, so I could know more about the world. It was a pretty good experience, with a kind and conscientious person.

As a young person, I was really impatient to get started with adult life. Public school reminded me of a giant daycare center. There was a set time for things like high school graduation and the right to vote, but I could get started with other life experiences on my own.

After talking to other people about our first experiences, it seems like that was a really different way to think about it.

I was in a rush to get rid of it. Tossed out the window at 14 with some random chick who I rather not remember.

I was guarding it and wanting to keep it until I met a wonderful man I loved. Then it didn’t matter at all. We broke up when I went off to college and I never saw him again. But his wife and kids are on Facebook and he’s fine so I’m happy.

@Winter_Pariah Sounds like my husband. He was 14, she was 19 (and thought he was 17). He said it was like throwing a hot dog down a hallway and he wondered why guys make such a big deal out of sex. A few weeks later, when he did it again with a girl he actually liked, he figured out why.

Woah. 19 and already a hallway. Pity.

@zenzen How was breakfast, brutha?

Anyone know of a really close hallway? I’ve done the hand-y ones.

I never found nothing special about virginity in itself, and I was never a religious type of person anyways. I waited pretty late in life because I can’t do it the way most others can. There has to be a strong connection with someone in order for me to do it, and in my case it’s been difficult to find compatible women. I had many chances while younger, but I felt I had good reasons to back off then, and I still don’t regret it. See why I get mad about stereotyping males?

I flushed that shit down the toilet as soon as I could.