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In dating, has ”second base” changed?

Asked by Hypocrisy_Central (21520 points ) May 7th, 2014

Back in the day, when I wore a younger man’s clothes, 2nd base was copping a feel of your date/girlfriend’s breast, and not direct but on the sly. More than a few times from those who are younger they indicated that ”second base” was more like getting/giving a handjob, a blowjob, or getting fingered. In an age where often sex occurs within hours of meeting; the basic hookup, is the classic second base even relevant anymore?

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ZEPHYRA's avatar

Nope, instead of the first handshake, it is now a first handjob in many cases.

filmfann's avatar

I do remember when 2nd base referred to touching a breast, under the bra.

GloPro's avatar

It hasn’t changed. Nobody uses it anymore, but if oral sex became second base, what is home?

Crazydawg's avatar

@GloPro I like the definition of second base as provided by urban dictionary

Second Base is highly debated base when talking about sexual accomplishments, all that needs to be done is to clarify what “league” youre “playing” in.

second base in minor league baseball is feeling a girl up.

second base in major league baseball is fingering or handjob.

Major league- 1st base makeout with feeling up; 2nd handjob/fingering; 3rd blowjob/ eating out; home sex

minors- 1st base makeout; 2nd feeling up (breasts); 3rd oral/fingering/handjob; home sex

“oh my god becky, last night, james and i went to second base!”
“major or minor league?”
“major baby!”
“oh wowww”

Symbeline's avatar

I don’t think there ever was a’‘set rule’’ for this. Second base can mean feeling up or sexual intercourse, today so much as 20 years ago. I don’t think this is the kind of thing culture has much of a say on, it just posts a strong image thereof in which its reality only exists in fiction.

I mean, seriously do you think some people in the sixties never had sex right on the first date? Are we saying every single young person today has sex on the first date?
Do people even ask each other out? In my experience there is nothing formal, it just kind of happens if the two people like each other. You start hanging out, then before you know it, you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Was that different back in the day?
However I’m sure there are plenty of straight edgers today who also value taking time before advancing, just as much as some get it on in the first meeting. And I don’t think much of this has changed. Sure second base exists, but we’re talking about intimacy here, when it comes down to discovering this, people’s minds couldn’t be further away from the media and what their culture says about it.
Probably wasn’t like that in the forties or something, but who here was even around then?
I don’t know why, but all this is reminding me of if you don’t know what having sex is like, watch a porno movie and then thinks that’s exactly what it is in real life.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Symbeline Wait, the pornos aren’t just like real life?
Minor typo there.

Symbeline's avatar

Yeah I worded that bad.

But NO, they’re not. Porno has all that cheesy dumb music…in my experiences, there was always metal playing. Haha.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Oh damn, that pizza delivery job isn’t going to get me laid?

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I always thought of second base as getting her top off and my mouth on her breasts. Try’s to rerail thread.

Symbeline's avatar

Oh damn, that pizza delivery job isn’t going to get me laid?

It might.

Crazydawg's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe Oh delivering pizzas will get you laid if banging totally wasted not exactly the best female specimens is your thing, I used plural intentionally oh and pencil in guys if you are into that too!

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Crazydawg My thoughts too. I don’t even want to get into that batting box.

GloPro's avatar

Maybe consider driving a cab.

Pachy's avatar

Second base???? It’s been years since I even made it to the bleachers!

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@Symbeline Are we saying every single young person today has sex on the first date?
I am not going to say that. However, in a Vogue, or Glamor magazine I read a while back they had a sex poll in it where they interviewed women about their sex activities, and around 46% +/- said they had sex with a guy the 1st night thery met him. So, it is not every young person.

Do people even ask each other out?
Asking them out for what, is the question.

In my experience there is nothing formal, it just kind of happens if the two people like each other. You start hanging out, then before you know it, you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Was that different back in the day?
From what I remember far different, you did not just hang out in mixed groups. How you approached your relationship with a girl was basically what your aim was. If she was the landing pad for just about every boy in school, then you wanted to know her in hopes of spending time on the tarmac too. She was not the girl you would take to the movies, carnival, etc. The girl you really like, and respected, you would put in at least 6 months of good b/f work before you even thought of making a move for 2nd base in any league.

And I don’t think much of this has changed.
Oh, you would be surprised.

Paradox25's avatar

First base today is the home run of several decades ago. It’s pretty bad when someone as young as eighteen is looked at as being odd if they’re still a virgin yet.

filmfann's avatar

If a blow job is 2nd base, what’s third base?

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

^ If a blow job is 2nd base, what’s third base?
These days it is probably anal sex, ATM, or a 3some.

Symbeline's avatar

And what about when IT’S OUTTA THEEERE!! What part is that lol?

Crazydawg's avatar

@Symbeline That is AKA the pull out method of birth control

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