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Are you vocal during sex? (possibly becoming NSFW)

Asked by rojo (15879 points ) May 16th, 2014

Are you a talker?
Do you hold conversations either with yourself or your partner?
What about directions?
Complements?
Are you a moaner, a groaner, a positive reinforcer?
Or are you more the quiet whisperer type of participant?
What about your partner the same or opposite of you?

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bolwerk's avatar

Moaning is more a female than a male trait. It signals to other males that a receptive female is available for and presently engaged in sex.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Noise during coitus is an ancient anthropological trait. It was originally a “broadcasting” that a male had dominated another female – sort of like “I’m a powerful gorilla and I’m conquering another female” – in other words, to some degree a tribal power symbol among members of the animal community.

The question is: (if true) why did the noisiness become a female trait, as @bolwerk suggests? My guess is that as the “tribal” community in human interaction evolved into paired off semi-permanent relationships, men evolved to no longer need to “advertise” their conquests.

So are women unevolved in this regard? It would be interesting research.

zenvelo's avatar

I’m not an active talker, more small talk than anything, a bit of communication yet not a conversation.

If you’re talking, it means your mouth is not engaged with the other person.

kritiper's avatar

Usually not vocal enough: I don’t talk much. But I get REALLY vocal during sex if I get a sudden cramp in my foot!

livelaughlove21's avatar

I make noise during an orgasm. Otherwise, meh, not really. He lets out some groans and “oh, fucks”, but I’m more of a breather. I see no need to scream and thrash around like I’m in a porno or something. I don’t fake it, either, so when I make noise he knows it’s real.

We definitely don’t have conversations during sex. Beyond “get it” (referring to the condom) or laughing if our stomachs rubbing together makes a strange noise, we don’t talk much. And no dirty talk – I find it cheesy and embarrassing to listen to. It makes me laugh; it doesn’t turn me on.

Coloma's avatar

I’m a moaner, haha.
A few years ago an ex lover and I were having an intimate moment in a very quiet campground in Mendocino CA. here, and he had to keep shushing me as a tent really doesn’t contain sound very well. lol

johnpowell's avatar

Church mouse here.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Mainly just crying when I don’t get any.

GloPro's avatar

It depends on who I’m with and what the tempo is. Intense and hard fucking just wouldn’t be the same if it were silent.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@GloPro GA. It’s just one more of the senses to enjoy. Let them know when it’s fucking great.

cookieman's avatar

It signals to other males that a receptive female is available for and presently engaged in sex.

@bolwerk: Soooo… you’re having sex within earshot of other men??

Ahem, anywho… I am a bit wordy. Not conversation. I find that distracting. More reacting to the situation.

bolwerk's avatar

@cookieman: that’s the supposed reason women have that distinctive moan whether or not they are within earshot of other men.

Pachy's avatar

Yes, but only my cat is around to hear. :(

OpryLeigh's avatar

I moan and breath heavy. My boyfriend and I laugh a lot during sex and he asks if I’m ok a lot (he’s very concerned about me feeling pressured into sex and so likes to make sure I’m happy to continue. I’ve told him countless times that this isn’t necessary but I love how much he cares).

cookieman's avatar

@bolwerk: I gathered that. I’m just teasing.

ibstubro's avatar

No, I am not.
But I can be/have been if my partner got off on it.

filmfann's avatar

As I have said before, I myself am not a screamer, or a moaner.
No woman has ever asked me to make noise, so I have to assume most women don’t want that.
But I could be wrong.
There is a story in Hollywood about a woman that Leonardo de Caprio bedded.
They went to his hotel room, and in the middle of lovemaking, she said “Do you mind if I scream?”
He replied that he didn’t mind.
She immediately screamed “I AM BEING FUCKED BY LEONARDO DE CAPRIO!!!”

Coloma's avatar

@filmfann Well….you don’t have to scream, but some feedback is nice, otherwise I might as well go for a blow up doll or a corpse. Not dead in bed is a good thing. haha

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

<<<<< kisses and whispers.

ucme's avatar

Mind your own business ya dirty old fucker ~

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Coloma I love when men make noise. My husband used to be silent except for the grunt at the end. Now he’s not, and it’s so much hotter. Overdone screaming and moaning isn’t hot for either sex, but I’d think women would appreciate some feedback.

GloPro's avatar

Even though we can be loud, the bed should stay quiet. I hate a squeaky bed. It distracts me so much I just want to stop.

Coloma's avatar

@GloPro LOL…better a squeaky bed than the sex being so boring and taking so long you start looking for patterns on the ceiling. Like cloud gazing, only ceiling gazing. I’ve had a few of those experiences. ” Oh look, that stucco swirl looks like a bunny!” haha

DominicX's avatar

I tend to be kinda vocal. Not in that annoying female-pornstar way, but I might make a few complements or groan and a moan a bit. I think it’s hot when guys are noisy, and they don’t have to be gay either :P

Darth_Algar's avatar

I read from the Wall Street Journal during sex. I like to know who else I’m getting fucked by. Makes it feel like an orgy.

Coloma's avatar

@Darth_Algar LMAO! You’re hilarious. Maybe I should start doing lie down comedy. haha

cheebdragon's avatar

As the parent of a young child I have perfected the art of quiet sex.

downtide's avatar

Totally not. Like @cheebdragon being a parent taught me to be quiet.

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