How do I rethink my life?

A question for the ages.

What do you value. What makes you happy.

If the answers to these questions are reasonable and not destructive, move that direction. If they are unreasonable or destructive, abandon them.

What do you like to do so much that you think it would be unfair to be paid for it? That is a career choice clue.

Abandon losers and pathetic morons who blame others for their problems. Surround yourself with happy and successful people. Observe them and their behaviors. What they are doing is working. It will work for you too.

Do not make excuses for your failures. Analyze them, and make honest corrections in your outlook and decisions.

Do not be afraid to be proud of your successes. They are a hint of what you can do.

Attitude is EVERYTHING.

If you really think about it, it is not all that complicated.

My advice after trying to re-think and trying something else is to try the something else. In my case, I turned my existential questions over to a very talented medium who channeled her guides and gave me responses that have been pretty amazing guideposts for all the changes that have happened in my life over the past 18 months. If you would like her info, PM me and I’ll send it your way. It’s an $80 thing (or at least it was), and she can do it by e-mail or phone. She’s great.

Otherwise, you can DIY by inquiring of and listening to your heart’s voice. You can do it by gathering some writing materials and getting quiet. Ask your question and then with your attention focused on your heart (and not your mind), wait for the response to come. The key is just to make sure your mind isn’t cluttering up the works. Write down the response as it comes to you. When you finish, don’t do any more thinking. Just follow the instruction.

First question.. Do you feel like you are pretty much living the same day over and over again? I have been where I think you are and that is how I felt.

First… Breathe… Just stand up, right now, and take a full breath. So much of your life is in the hands of other people. From today,... from right now,... you need to control what you can control – your own body and health.
Now, walk over to the nearest scale and weigh yourself. Write that number on the calendar.
Instead of a snack before bed drink a half glass of water. Do it. Really.
Tomorrow, eat a little less than your usual and go for a walk around the block. Go for an hour. Take a plastic bag with you and pick up a can or two or a bit of trash. Something. It does not matter how how small. You are making the world better in an infinitesimally small way, but better it is.
Now promise yourself you will do the same thing the next day. Why? Because if you go the same time every day, you will start to see patterns. You will see and eventually meet people.

Try this until the end of summer. By then you will have knocked off 15kg (30 pounds), and will have spent about 100 hours in thought – and will have met a few people you can talk to.
You will be much richer for it. Honest.

Get started on changing things for the better. Step away from the keyboard and weigh yourself. Consider that your first step.

@LuckyGuy 272lbs.

It is said life is a balance, of friends, family, spiritual life (whatever shape or form) and work life.

I love that idea @LuckyGuy regards the trash :)

Stop thinking and just start DOING!
You can think until your head explodes but it’s always the first real ACTION step that starts the journey of change.

You seem to ask a great deal of questions about so many different topics, and asking others what they think you should do. This is where your mistake is. You don’t really appear to really have any real interest in anything, but yet ask a great deal of questions concerning many topics.

There was an old wise saying I remember hearing, something like the saddest person alive is the person that doesn’t know what they want, and from my own experience this may very well be true. Find out what interests you first, something that’s within a reasonable grasp, then go from there. Unfortunately nobody knows what they’ll like until they start actually doing it.

@talljasperman YOU DID IT! YOU TOOK THE FIRST STEP! GREAT!
I just wrote 272 on my calendar! Make sure to put it on yours!.

I would gladly make a graph of weight vs. date for for you so you could record and plot your progress.
Cutting back about 500 calories and going for that walk every day will:
1) knock off 2 pounds per week,
2) increase your aerobic capacity helping you breathe better and run farther.
3) save you on average $2.50 per day or $17.50 per week!

That does not sound like much but if you do it for 10 weeks it adds up.
You will be 20 pounds lighter, and will have saved $175.00 and you might even be able to run that distance by mid August.

Also some people in the area (maybe even a female) will notice that you are getting in shape. You will be observed making yourself and your community better. That is a positive quality.
Doing it daily shows dedication, a desire to improve, and a bit of self pride – all very attractive qualities, indeed.

You can do this! You just have to do it.
Good luck!

@talljasperman This kind of change is easier if you do it with someone – even someone online.

I wonder if there are other jellies out there willing to try with you. Surely there are others who want to change their lives for the better but keep putting it off. Now is as good a time as any.

Tell the minister you decided to go for it. He will give you support too.

Carefully. :)