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How to deal with religious parents at 18?
Ok so this is basically my lifestory.
I’m a daughter of illegal immigrants and I currently am legal because of the dream act. I’m 18 and I have to follow rules like I can’t get a job whilst in high school because it’ll get in the way of my school work, I can’t date a guy who isn’t christian and it is preferred that he is from the same country as mine, Brasil. I have to go to church friday-sunday, no going out with people they haven’t met, I can’t keep my cellphone in my room past ten, barely attend school events, can’t join school sports if it’s going to interfere with sunday service at church, cannot go to my own church that I choose, cannot wear shorts during the summer, and then the normal ones, no drinking, no smoking, curfew.
Here comes the problems.
I have a boyfriend of seven months, he isn’t christian himself but his parents are. My parents found out and they have went ape-shit. They found out we have sex and they found out I wanted to smoke marijuana but I haven’t since last year. They took away my phone and told me I can’t take communion in church, can’t see this boy outside of school, they aren’t going to help me open up a bank account nor get my driver’s license nor pay for my college. I got a job to work at a pediatrician’s office after I graduate highschool in june, but the office is about 40 minutes away from where I live, meaning I’ll have to have a license and a bank account so I can deposit my checks and whatnot. I cannot get my license without a bank account statement because I need six points and since I am not a legal citizen of America, I am limited. Now, I’ll have to fend for myself and do it all on my own. I’m getting this job to save money and move out and then go to school to become a doctor. I’ve never gotten into any trouble both with the law nor in school, I get decent grades and I don’t go out to smoke or drink or party like everyone my age does. I just want permission to date this kid and become independent, but I don’t know how to do it. Do I move out now? I’m going to try to find a job around my neighborhood so I can get money to open my bank account and then do everything else but I’m not entirely sure if I’ll be allowed since my father and mother don’t want me working until after graduation. If I do anything out of line, they said they’ll be going to my boyfriend’s house and showing his parents our texts that they took pictures of and apparently in these texts we were talking about pot and sex. I do not know what to do at all. This is all because of religion really. Help.