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Do men with wives live longer, generally, and why?

Asked by Aster (20023points) May 27th, 2014

I have always heard that life expectancy goes up for men who have a wife and that single males generally die sooner. Of course, if the women shoot them it’s not true. But have you heard this tale? And if you believe it, why do you think it’s true?
I have an old friend who was married to a very mentally ill woman, very sweet lady, for 45 years. A year ago she died. Now he says his life is much less stressful and he is doing more volunteer work but he looks terrible. He looks ten years older than he did when she was alive and ill.
Is there any truth to wives increasing life expectancy in men?

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JLeslie's avatar

LOL. Yes married men live longer, they also are happier. Maybe those two things work together? Maybe married men are likely to be more responsible and less risk taking and that influences their life expectancy? Also, they have constant companionship, more sex, and someone who nurtures them. I assume all of that influences the data.

zenvelo's avatar

You’ll notice those statistics are from men who are married when they are older, which can be interpreted that the marriage itself is somewhat rewarding, even if it only the familiar companionship and shared experience.

I say that because ten years ago my marriage was killing me from the stress, to the point it affected my blood pressure long term. I seriously think my heart would have had a major event if I hadn’t gotten out of my marriage.

Seek's avatar

Is he not, logically, older now than he was when his wife was alive?

BeenThereSaidThat's avatar

Why do men die at least five years before their wife?

answer: Because they want to. :)

Pandora's avatar

I agree with @JLeslie. I also think that single guys tend to neglect their health and hate going to the doctors for almost anything, unless they feel they are dieing. Married men don’t like to go either but their wives are more likely to notice when they really should be looked at by a professional and not just tended at home.

Plus married men often have more financial responsibilities if they have a home and kids so they won’t ignore ailments for to long for fear of losing their jobs or having a smaller pay check. Cheaper to go to the doctor and handle the illness before it becomes something that can keep them out of work for a week or longer.

Of course, in a good marriage, you get the added health benefit that comes from having someone to share your life with. It helps to lower stress and stress will make any illness less and with time can cause some ailments to become life threatening.

Dan_Lyons's avatar

This is absolutely untrue. Single men outlive married by a ratio of four to one.
Why? Nagging shortens a man’s life by more than a week per nag.
Over a married man’s lifetime that usually amounts to a loss of 10 – 15 years compared to the single man.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

No, It just seems like forever. We get to were we can’t wait to die. And if you take that seriously I will send curses to you forever.

Paradox25's avatar

There’s no realistic way to answer such a question because there are too many variables. I’m usually sceptical of the types of studies conducted that appeared to ‘confirm’ that married men live longer than bachelors. Studies like those tend to focus on limited demographics in limited areas, and don’t take special circumstances into consideration, and they tend to cherry pick.

With divorce rates at enormous levels, along with deception and conditional ‘love’ being so prevalent in so many relationships today, I’m of the opinion the answer to this question would be closer to even. I wonder if married women live longer than single women?

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