Was she stupid to have expectations at her age?

My closest friend who is about 42 had a stable job and her own home and was independent. She met a man who is about 55 and they created a long distance relationship which went well but of course could not last forever. The gentleman suggested she moved to his city where a simple, no guests registry/civil wedding could be held and they could get on with life.

She left her job, home relatives and went over and immediately started searching for a job wanting to retain some independence and not be a burden. Now the fiance says the wedding can wait since neither of them is young so there is no hurry! I realize we are not in the middle ages and that marriage is not a binding force, but I really think he has not kept his part of the deal. She willingly left everything behind at her age and is now doing everything possible to stand on her own feet. Is she wrong to be disappointed and disoriented? She also has to put up with frail in-laws plus his constant health issues which have her running round in circles! She does NOT complain since she knew what she was in for and went ahead. Question is, did she get a raw deal or should have been wiser at her age?