Are you disarmed by sweetness in a person?

Oh yes definitely. There are so many dour and crusty people about, sweetness goes a long way with me. Why surround myself with challenges everyday when I can take the easier softer route!

I’m actually not. I’m not sure why, but people that are overly nice and sweet bother me. It’s almost like, “how much of this is real and how much of it is an act?” We have a receptionist at our law firm that I used to think was the sweetest person I’d ever met. I’m now convinced a lot of it is an act. Another legal assistant that left for law school recently was also quite overly nice and so was her husband. I just can’t imagine that being genuine.

I’m a bit of a pessimist though, and definitely not Mary Sunshine all the time. I’m nice and certainly not rude to people, but I don’t drown everyone I know in sweetness by any means. Overtly rude people definitely bother me more than overly sweet people, of course, but both kind of get under my skin a bit.

Just call me Scrooge, I guess. :)

@livelaughlove21 Interesting. I guess I’m not thinking of the surface “Bless your heart, sugar” kind of sweetness but just a natural graciousness that some people have. But I understand your point; I was taken in by a friend recently whom I thought was genuine til he turned on me and started acting mean.

Sincerely nice people are nice to be around. Insincerely nice people reveal their true colors and their false sweetness becomes cloying.

I like being around truly sweet people, they are refreshing.

@janbb Ahh, okay. Yeah, the “bless your heart” sweetness is what I thought we were talking about. That too-sweet voice that some people, women especially, have in the South really annoys me. I suppose I’ve met a couple of people that were sweet without giving me a toothache. :)

Disarmed to the point their hidden serial killer psychopathy is sure to find a blade at my throat.

It is a Strength called Positivity. We all possess “Positivity”, just in varying degrees. And yes, it has disarmed me, and like others, it crossed my mind that it was an act. Once I got to know them, I realized that it wasn’t and that I needed to interact with them differently. Otherwise, I might suck the energy out of them.

No i’m not, i’ve come to expect it from my friends who are all down to earth sorts.
That’s not to say I don’t appreciate those qualities, just that it comes as standard.
No time for super sweet, butter wouldn’t melt, giggleboxes though, they can fuck right off.

I agree with @zenvelo ( we agree a lot, haha ) I had an old friend whose “sweetness” was cloying and self serving and she did, indeed, reveal her manipulative nature over time. Her ego was very invested in being seen as sweet and caring when in reality she was the needy one and everything she did for others was to prop up her own self image. She was a martyr and I fund it all very off putting. I would not consider myself “sweet” but I do consider myself friendly, open, humorous and genuine.

My friends just told me again what a joy I am to have around, they love my humor and trust me 100% to manage things when they are away. They too are sincerely nice people, no acts, they make loads of money and can do pretty much whatever they want but retain a very earthy demeanor and go out of their way to be altruistic whenever possible.
After living alone and being a very independent person I am kinda diggin’ this little communal scene we have goin’ on. It’s a good blend and I am learning that interdependence is not something to be feared but embraced.

There are plenty of genuinely nice and down to earth peeps that are not putting on an act, we should not become jaded to niceness nor assume

I love sweet people !! They’re everywhere

It’s wonderful to be around nice people. I have been incredibly bitchy lately and I hate it. I hate beingbthat way and I hate coming across that way. It is because I have to give back what I have been getting lately to get any sort of respect. It’s the very reason being surrounded by nice people is so important; it lets us be nice ourselves, and I think that is really good for our psychological and physical health. I feel a lot of joy being with people who trust others and have a genuinely positive outlook on life. They are like a light.

Sweetness is lovely but I do like a little acidity in a person also, especially if they have a kind heart to go with it.

@flutherother Oh true that too. I like me some spice.

I’m a spice girl too. :-)

I am disarmed by sweetness…it is definitely is one of my weaknesses.

I’m not into people who are too saccharine sweet. I like warm, genuine people. People who have an open smile and you can tell are considerate and caring. Like @flutherother, a little acidity or wickedness to cut through the sweet is most welcome. I like my sugar with a bit of spice.

@Earthbound_Misfit…that’s the sort I mean too…