My date keeps saying I am beautiful, but does he like my mind?

Yes, a guy can be with a girl for her beauty only. There are many vapid/boring/bad personalities out there encased in beautiful bodies, yet they usually have partners! Guess for some men, stunning beauty makes up for everything else.

That’s not true for everyone though and there are many men who want to be with a smart, funny, good-natured woman and no amount of beauty can make up for a bad personality for these guys.

How is your conversation with this guy? Do you have shared interests? If the bulk of your time with him is spent in romantic/sexual physical contact and talking about how gorgeous you are and that’s about it…then yeah, it sounds pretty superficial.

BTW, if he appreciates you for YOU and isn’t just focused on your looks, it’s okay for him to compliment you physically often if that’s how he feels. As long as he’s spending quality time with you and appreciating your inner assets everyday, then it’s okay.

If he’s under 35 most likely your looks are the bulk of his attraction. haha
Is this the same guy that broke up with you then tried to kiss you again a few days later?
If so, well….doesn’t take a relationship expert to figure out he just wants a little more sugar.

Is there chemistry between you two? Does he seem interested in you as a person? Do you have actual conversations, or just chit chat?

If he’s young he might not know how else to compliment a woman.

He may like your personality as well. Only time will tell. Don’t have sex with him too soon.

How do you feel about him?

I’m thinking along with @FutureMemory , what kind of conversations do you have with him?
Do you like his mind? Do you share a lot of ideas? Can you disagree but still discuss things, each presenting their point of view, without having a fight?

I guess he just wants in your pants.
Dump him.

I dont know why conversation is essential. Too much talking can be nothing at all. We get along well, we are attracted to each other, our conversations can get deep but there are times when they end too quick. I suppose we both like to tell and share rather than force a conversation going perfectly nonstop.

You did emphasise that you wanted him to love you intellectually. One of the common ways of sharing intellectual interests is by speaking to each other.

Can you tell us how old you are?

@dopeguru as @gailcalled points out you are the one who asked about him loving your mind.
It’s true that talking isn’t all there is, but good conversation is one of the better indicators.
Alternatives include writing to each other, I don’t mean tweets, I mean pages. If you have that going on then talking can less necessary.

Ask yourself this, and share with us if you will, what do you think it it like if he does love your mind? What are you looking for?

@dabbler you’re so right! We do speak but its not an idealistic movie dialogue kinda way. I can’t be normative, I’m too weird and unusual for that so a perfect, proper dialogue is never the case.

No one speaks in movie-dialogue ways outside of the movies. IRL few of us have scripts. Every couple has a different rhythm.“Perfect, proper dialog” is a meaningless description.

My cousin’s girlfriend loves him for his money.
He is also a very smart guy,
I am not sure she even knows what smart is.
I am also not sure he gives a shit.
Point is, at least he likes you for some reason.
Could be worse.

Answer is yes. Will that be enough to keep him around long term, no. Beauty fades. Stupid is forever. Best thing to do is talk about topics you really are into to. If he is really into you, then he would find it fascinating. If he looks bored or wants to change the topic to your beauty, then he isn’t into you as a person. He likes the fantasy and your is to be ignored. When my husband and I first met, we could talk for hours on the phone and in person about any topic.

We both wanted to know about each others interests. We found we had a lot in common. We knew the chemistry was there, but it wasn’t enough. He would also say I was beautiful but he would often ask me for advise and say he thought he was so lucky to be with someone so beautiful and smart. He always made me feel his equal. Its a long story leading to this comment he made, so I’ll just write the comment that I have remembered for over 33 years and 2 weeks. I don’t want a partner who would walk behind me, I want one who would walk along side with me.

Try seeing him without putting on makeup. If he reacts badly, you will have your answer.

Surely you jest…..sadly no