@cookieman But looks should certainly be one of the things you consider, in addition to personality, intelligence, interests, etc.
For the purpose of this question, what transpires after the people meet is a different story, but if there were no physical attraction, there might be no met in the 1st place. Point is, a man sees a woman by the salad bar at a company picnic or convention he is not going to say Hey, check out her by the Caesar, man I bet her personality is bubbly and she is wicket smart, I would love to get to know her, his 1st interest will be something else.
Now, what is “attractive” is certainly subjective, but that’s another discussion.
But that ”subjectiveness” has a standard if one follows the numbers, some people are ”chubby chasers” and find women that look more like Jabba The Hutt, attractive then Ursula Anderson of James Bond fame, but those who do are way short in numbers. While those women might be attractive to certain men on an personal level, it can’t be said to be the average.
@zenvelo You are conflating initial attraction with longer term connection.
I never mention anything about long-term connection. The journey is notwithstanding if there is no launch, no departure. In love, more often than not, there is no launce unless someone sees something nice to journey to and with. In the circle I frequent there is a saying ”look like Halie Berry and have the spirit of Chucky (the evil doll)”. When people see someone hot at the club, bar, or wherever, they are not thinking she will be a great mother, he looks handy with tools and can mow a mean lawn, they are thinking how to get noticed or maybe what they look like naked.
@Coloma _The physical is, obviously, what we see first, but this is true of many things. We are attracted to the exterior of a new car, the aesthetic appeal, the lines, the color, but if, underneath the flash lurks the engine of a lemon well…all the flash in the world isn’t going to comp for poor performance and repeated break downs. lol _
Thank you, I try to point that out to people all of the time and they try to hat dance around it like Gregory Hines. Why would we not use the same method to find a potential mate as do choosing furniture, style of car, home/apartment, etc.? Sometimes you get a lemon. I am sure everyone here at some time chose a meal off how it looked, and it tasted bad, or it made them sick, but they did not think of that when they saw it, because it was appealing to the eye. Relationships are way more important than a meal so why would one not go after something they liked? Like trying to choose what you are going to eat by stressing over all the ingredients than the smell, the sizzle, and the looks.
Nobody in their right mind would have taken her for more than a test drive. Haha
If they thought she would be naked on her back in three date or less, they would hang, and if they actually did and the sex was good to great, they might stay around longer, at least until they found a replacement, then they would drop her likes it hot, not lay it down like its warm.
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