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Heather13's avatar

Is he being too random?

Asked by Heather13 (495points) October 3rd, 2015

If a male acquajntance says to me that he plans to buy a boat and hopes to take me on it and drink beer, ect. What at does this mean? He is very nice to me. Almost worships me at work. Jokingly cals me honey, kiss after me, and says crazy things.

This is NOT related to my previous questions

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rojo's avatar

His tallywhacker is a pointing north and you are Polaris.

Kardamom's avatar

May I ask what exactly is it that you do and where do you work? You don’t have to give specifics, but I’m trying to paint a mental picture in my head.

So far, you have a boss who you claim either ignores you for your hard work, or constantly apologizes to you, and then runs away from you when you point out that he has food in his hair.

You have a co-worker who is like this: “A guy at work who likes to joke around with me, saying I’m his favorite person; and calling my name all the time, started telling me yesterday that he loves me. His tone of voice changed from simply joking around. Another coworker who overheard him, said “I knew it!”. I try to act jokingly with him, and not let him think I take him serious in anything he says or does. He always does things for me at work, even if I boss him around.” That’s what you said, right? Just trying to clarify.

You and another co-worker both have a dude at work (who apparently isn’t the same dude, because you just mentioned in your details that this question is un-related to any of your other ones) who does this: “They usually acts friendly with each other and he likes how funny she is and makes him laugh, based on what he said.” At least that’s how you put it. Which is so interesting because the co-worker in this particular question kind of does the same thing.

There seems to be a lot of people where you work who are overly friendly, but in a weird sort of way that no one can really put a finger on. It must be very hard having so many people swirling around the office/factory/workplace who act one way one minute and then do something kind of the opposite of what you expect the next minute. No wonder you’re confused. I would be too.

There are at least two people where you work who are not speaking to each other, and in at least one of the instances, someone came to the defense of one or the other of these people. That’s a lot of people ignoring, hiding from, or having to defend other people at work. It’s a wonder anyone gets any work done.

You’ve got a lot of interestingly bizarre, and strangely attentive people where you work. Are you, perhaps, in politics, or the circus?

It must be weird and uncomfortable to have someone “kiss after you” and say “crazy things.” I know it would be for me, if I had to work with someone like that.

Would you like to drink beer on a boat? Would you like to drink beer with a goat? Because I think he’s trying to get yours, sam I am.

Forgive me, but what did you say this question was related to? I think the collective is going to need more clarification.

Oh, to be more precise, no he is not being too random, but somebody is.

Cruiser's avatar

your description of your history with him and how he says he “plans to buy a boat and hopes to take me on it and drink beer, ect.” is very calculating and a deliberate ploy to get you liquored up alone out on the water where you are stuck with no way out if he decides to take things in a direction you may not desire at the moment.

Pretty forward for a man you are not even dating to throw at you a day on a boat with drinking as the main activity. He sounds like a creeper to me.

Here2_4's avatar

If it is your boss, I am guessing he hopes to throw you overboard.
Oh no! Spoiler alert?

Heather13's avatar

This is not even at work or work related. This guy is a few years younger than me. The other day when I was a bit loopy on some meds, he said, “I knew you were my kinda girl”. Then said something about “it was good for me, I had fun”.

Heather13's avatar

FYI to the people obsessed over my other previous questions: the issues I had with my boss and coworker were real and had been taken care of. He (my boss) was demoted and moved to another location. So move on. I have.

chyna's avatar

With your additional information he sounds like a creep that I would avoid at all costs.

zenvelo's avatar

Sounds like idle speculation about what he would like to do if and when he buys a boat.

It doesn’t mean anything more than that.

“I’m going to buy a boat. It’ll be great, we could go out and have a few beers.”

jca's avatar

If you are not interested in him and you continue to receive his advances, he will continue to advance.

kritiper's avatar

Sounds like he’s saying it playfully to see how you take it. He might be serious, he might not. Play along as you see fit.

dappled_leaves's avatar

“Almost worships me at work.”

“This is not even at work or work related.

Umm, okay.

Really, I think you need to grow up and start treating your workplace as a workplace, not a dating pool. It’s impossible to take your questions seriously.

jca's avatar

@Heather13: One thing about Fluther is you can’t steer answers to only a certain type. People here will remember you and they’ll call you out if they feel your questions are odd or your details are inconsistent.

Cruiser's avatar

@Heather13 don’t let @jca ‘s comment deter you from you asking here whatever it is that is on your mind. The one thing about Fluther is it can be cliquey and at times standoffish but is easily dismissed if you don’t let that get under your skin.

Here2_4's avatar

@dappled_leaves has pointed out precisely why I thought it might be your boss.
You do tend to jump around quite a bit with your facts, @Heather13.
Perhaps for your next question you might leave the details to someone who can keep to just one story at a time.

Heather13's avatar

@Cruiser
It does seem that way. Too bad. Bullies are everywhere. No one is safe. Lol

Cruiser's avatar

@Heather13 Sadly no one indeed is safe. I almost feel as though there are Jellies laying in wait just to force feed their POV on anyone that disagrees with them. You seem to have thick enough skin to weather the choppy waters the tide pool may through your way.

josie's avatar

How big a boat are we talking about?
Over 40 feet and I would be interested.
Over 100 feet and would suggest you two get married.

Heather13's avatar

@josie lol

@Cruiser Yes its true! I’ve developed a thick skin through many trials in my life. I’m an expert now. Lol. Thank you for the positivity here. At least there are still good people on this site.

Kardamom's avatar

@Heather13 So the “bullies” are the people who call you out on your inconsistencies?

If you ask a question and your details are vague, misleading, or inaccurate regarding your own previous words, people will ask you to clarify things. That’s not bullying, that’s called getting your facts straight.

Heather13's avatar

@rojo lol. That’s funny. I’m glad you did’nt need any technical explanation from me to give a response. It shows there are still people who can read and comprehend what other people are saying.
@kritiper thank you for responding this question. It was very mature and directly related to what I asked.

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