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Are you picky when it comes to height, in reference to dating other people?

Asked by NerdyKeith (5489points) March 27th, 2016

This is something I’ve noticed a little bit, that certain men don’t feel comfortable dating women who are taller. And certain women don’t feel comfortable dating guys who are shorter.

For me personally, as a gay man height is not even a factor. I think short guys can be really cute. There is a guy who I used to work with, I had a secret crush on him (never told hime, because he’s straight). Anyway, he is quite a short guy. But he still has very handsome facial features (really nice eye, smile etc). Plus he has a great personality and a bit of a character. And hypothetically if he was interested in guys, I’d have no problem dating him regardless of his height.

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Mariah's avatar

I’m 5’4” and my boyfriend is maybe 5’5”. I’m taller than him in the high-heeled boots I wear this time of year. It has never mattered one bit to me.

Tropical_Willie's avatar

I during high school I dated two different young ladies that were 2 to 3 inches taller, I was 5’ 11”.
I also dated three ladies under 5 foot.

Seek's avatar

It’s not a factor.

zenvelo's avatar

It’s pretty traditional among my age group for a man to not date a woman that is taller than he is, and choose someone that was shorter by two or three inches. And I used to follow that pretty closely.

But over the last ten years, I realized that limited me from meeting some incredible women, so I am open to seeing a woman that may be an inch or two taller, which means they tower over me in heels.

ragingloli's avatar

Tall people usually have less fat, which means they are healthier to eat.

Skunky's avatar

No, im not into dating and relationships (never picked up the interest, i’ve never had a “crush” before either and im 25), im just not the type to get into that kind of stuff.

Vincentt's avatar

In terms of attraction, I find that it doesn’t really matter.

In terms of practicality, however, it does matter. I’m relatively short (relative to men in the Netherlands, that is), and taller women (especially when the heigh difference is relatively large) do tend to be less interested, initially. It might be my age bracket though, and since I’m not “on the market”, this might be less relevant now.

Note also that it’s not necessarily a deal-breaker, just that the odds are a little bit lower.

Coloma's avatar

No. The love of my life in only 2 feet tall. He has a big knob and the most brilliant orange feet. lol

Stinley's avatar

I’m a tall woman at 5’10” and I have dated smaller men but I hated it. I hate that I hate towering over men. I want to be liberated and free to choose but I’m not.
@Vincentt there are a lot of tall people in the Netherlands. When I was there I kept getting mistaken for a local! I liked that but got found out pretty quickly as I don’t speak any Dutch

MollyMcGuire's avatar

I would not date a guy shorter than I. I’m 5’2” so the chances are not great anyway.

ucme's avatar

They must have some height yes, that’s the long & short of it <badum-tiss>

janbb's avatar

I’m only 5’ 1” so I could date short men but I find I’m mainly superficially attracted to guys who are 5’ 10” to 6 feet or so. As a guy friend said to me recently, ” You like what you like.”

DominicY's avatar

Not at all, no. I’m 5’7” and I’d date people shorter or taller, it makes little difference to me.

elbanditoroso's avatar

I’m pretty tall – 6’4” – and I have dated women who were 4’10 up through 5’11”. Really made no difference to the relationship. I had to bend more for the short ones.

But as one of them told me – we’re the same height when we’re lying on the bed.

MooCows's avatar

I am 5“10 and when I went on a blind date with my now husband said he never dates
anything but short small girls. Well I turned around and walked off just like that.
I guess he had never had a woman do that to him and he came chasing after me.
One roll in the sheets and he KNEW he had been missing something….
Anyway I being so tall like men at least 5“8 and always thought short men had
the Caesar Syndrome and had to prove something. Taller men are more successful
I believe.

tedibear's avatar

It doesn’t matter to me. I am 5’ 1.5” tall and have dated men from 5’ 6” to 6’ 4”. I just realized that the tallest one and the shortest one were the biggest jerks.

There was no discernible difference in anything else either.

Brian1946's avatar

No, but being a partial macrophile, I fantasize about women who are taller than me.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

I do have a thing for tall men. My first husband was only 5’9”. My husband now is 6’2”. I do love that he’s so much taller than me. However, I wouldn’t refuse to date a man because he wasn’t tall. We’re all the same height lying down and there are far more important aspects to a person than their height.

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