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Why does he write to her, then ignore her?

Asked by dopeguru (1928points) April 23rd, 2016

My friend just got an abortion. The father writes to her from time to time, asking to meet, then disappears. Pops back days later, same thing, then disappears. She is very confused and told me she feels bad because she feels terribly good and then bad so unexpectedly. Why would a man behave like this? Isn’t it very rude?

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RedDeerGuy1's avatar

He might be a full time professional. With his job as a priority over family.

imrainmaker's avatar

Ideally he should be with her in this difficult situation and give his complete attention to make her feel better. If he’s not doing his part try to do your bit more to help out your friend on this. If you have group of friends then even better. I know it’s not the same but at least it can make things little better for her.

Jak's avatar

Same reason you asked this same question the last time, then said not to say it was because he didn’t care. He dosn’t care.

dopeguru's avatar

@Jak then why is he texting her?

Jak's avatar

Don’t worry about it, it’s not your business and not your place to figure him out. Whatever the fuck the relationship is, it’s between them. Stay out of it.

Unofficial_Member's avatar

This is not a specific behaviour from a man, it’s a general attitude from someone who is busy. Why write to her when he can simply call? And why couldn’t she call her father to ask why he didn’t write back anymore if she’s really confused.

jca's avatar

@dopeguru: You can speculate forever about why someone does something that makes no sense to you. Is this what you want to spend your time and energy on? Wondering why someone does something that has no effect on anything in your life? You may feel bad for your friend, but she has to work it out herself, either by blocking his texts or telling him off or whatever. It does not concern you.

disquisitive's avatar

There is no way we know why someone you write about does what he does. If the girl is bothered by him she can block him from her phone.

It’s hard to take seriously anyone who calls himself dopeguru.

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