What is she telling me?

Asked by kpata (18

) January 12th, 2017

i met a girl three months ago.she called me all day every day as we got to know about each other.told her i really liked her and had a positive respond as YES but said she never dated a guy from my tribe and is scared to( a family thing). all the same we still got real close and finally decided to meet up which we did.it was interesting,fun, we got a little intimate(cuddling & kissing).she is really tall,and i short.it didnt seem a problem to me because im confident about it.one night we were discussing about us when the relationship pop up.she was like she has two problems and the firt has to do with her family and herself being scared of the tribe, and secondly, she was far far taller than i am. she mentioned she really would like to date a guy like me cuz i am caring and very cool and for this reason she wouldnt want this to be the end of our chats because she knows no one knows the future and anything could happen. i was really confused with all that and told her my doubts on those hopes however will try remembering that just in case. she said she couldnt stand it, and we both said goodnight with a smile and i said guess its later then.i really like her,and im so lost in my head thinking about all she said and what actually she is telling me.helppp!!!

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She is telling you she likes you, but there are two things that are dealbreakers:

1. Your family background is unacceptable to her family.
2. You are too short for her.

Since you cannot change either of those things, thank her for her attention and kindness, and say good bye and cut off all interaction with her. Be sad about it if you want to, yet realize it is not going to work out.

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she knows this and yet why doesnt she want it to be the end of everything but say no one knows the future and that matter ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN?

kpata (18

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If you want to waste half your life waiting for this chick to get over her family issues, that’s up to you.

Personally, I wouldn’t bother. There’s way too many people in the world to get hung up on someone who is going to put tribal barriers on her willingness to take a relationship seriously.

Seek (34805

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It sounds to me like she is breaking up with you, but wants to hedge her bets, in case she doesn’t find exactly the person she wants. She wants you as a back-up plan. I say you can do better. Let’s say she does decide that she will settle for you… what’s to stop Goldilocks from dumping you as soon as she finds someone who is just right?

dappled_leaves (15893

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She was saying that, while she likes you, she would like someone like you who was taller. She is trying to let you down easy so stop with the phone calls to her. Let it go.

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