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What (kick-ass) questions would you ask in speed dating?

Asked by lifeflame (5805 points ) October 14th, 2008

So – my brother is dragging me off to an event, which I am really quite skeptical about. However, thinking about it, I realise that it’s a pretty interesting challenge:

What questions would you ask that would (a) give your enough info about the other person in a timescale, of e.g., 4 minutes, and (b) leave your partner thinking, “that was a real interesting question…” ?

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Magnus's avatar

You: are you from fedex?
Lady: no? Why?
You: because I swear I saw you checking out my package.

windex's avatar

@Magnus: ugh..

@lifeflame: Are you a guy or a girl?

deaddolly's avatar

lol…good one, Magnus!

I’d ask if they’d be willing to sacrifice their own personal happiness for the sake of someone else’s.

That should get them thinking…

Or you could ask if they beleived in the 3 strikes law…

lifeflame's avatar

@windex
I’m a girl. But I’m asking the collective as a curious question in general, rather than for me personally to use per se.

lifeflame's avatar

And – if someone tries to hit on me with any of these creative questions, I’ll know that they fluther…

fireside's avatar

Tell them you really admire Sarah Palin’s career and ask them if they would put their plans on hold for you to pursue your dreams.

Of course, going this route, they may end up remembering you as the girl they don’t want to call back..

El_Cadejo's avatar

Is a key still a key if there’s nothing to unlock?

If you could describe a perfect life with just three words, what would they be?

googlybear's avatar

Whar will our kids look like? That oughta get the ball rolling… :-)

fireside's avatar

What’s your secret pleasure?

Lovelocke's avatar

Truthfully? If you can’t find poon on Craigslist or Myspace, you’ll only be short a few bucks and poonless after a round of Speed Dating. “It’s classier” you say? Nah. It’s just a throwback to the high school lunch room for rich dummies with no game, or those who are at the last stop between “F—- Me Ville” and “Kill Myself Burg”.

fireside's avatar

Oh, lovelocke just gave me another one:

If we were in a food fight, what kind of food would you want on your tray?

Lovelocke's avatar

1) Whatever food requires me to eat with a steak kinfe.
2) Anything as long as it’s frozen in bulk.

syz's avatar

*Do you believe in the three second rule?
*Would you rather visit the arctic or the antarctic?
*Who is your oldest (had for the longest time) friend?
*Do you own a sweater vest?
*Will your neighbors someday tell the television crews that you seemed “like such a nice, quiet young man”?
*How often do you floss?
*What’s the greatest invention ever?
*What’s the oldest thing in your refrigerator?

I think you can get a pretty good idea of someone’s personality and character with those questions. Of course, there is one ringer in there.

augustlan's avatar

The biggie: Who are you voting for?

Nimis's avatar

I’m not sure what I’d ask them. But I bet they’ll be really confused
when they answer and I slap them with a Post-It that says GA on it.

Kay's avatar

*What’s the last book you read?

*Do you go to bed with socks on or barefoot?

*Favorite pizza topping?

*If you suddenly had a week off from work, what would you do with the free time?

Curious404's avatar

How do you like your eggs?

Mr_M's avatar

Do you have money?

jsc3791's avatar

- When you’re alone at home, do you wear shoes, socks, slippers, or go barefoot?
– What is one wacky thing you believed was true as a child?
– If you won the lottery how would you spend it?
– Do you prefer water from the tap or bottled water?
– Do you like crunchy or creamy peanut butter, or are you allergic to peanuts?
– Do you like to write with black or blue ink, or in pencil?
– What was your first job?
– What was your first car?
– What was the coolest Halloween costume you ever had?
– If you could be invisible for one day, who would you spy on?
– If you had to change your first name, what name would you choose?
– What is your middle name?
– If you were told that after you die you could be reborn as anything in the world, what would it be?
– Are you a dog, cat or ferret person?
– What’s one of the worst tasting things you’ve ever eaten?
– Do you know the muffin man?

augustlan's avatar

The muffin man!

wundayatta's avatar

What kinds of things have you done in your life that you are really proud of?

What activity or topic are you very passionate about?

What do you spend the most time doing when you aren’t working?

Why did you or did you not follow in your [same-sex parent’s] footsteps?
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But I have to say I think the format is pretty worthless. I’m not even sure what the goal is. (I mean, yeah, I know it’s to get a date, but a date leading to what? Really! Not just the socially acceptable thing to say.)

asmonet's avatar

I’ve done something very similar to speed dating, I asked the following:
What is your favorite toe, be specific and be prepared to back up your answer.

Those who were awkward were a no. Those who laughed or answered were a yes. Simple kinds of silly are necessary in life, and I refuse to settle for someone who can’t pick a toe.

I got 4 matches in case you were curious.

wundayatta's avatar

My favorite toe is the sixth one on my left foot. The one with the webs attaching it to the fifth. Need I explain any further why it is my favorite? I think not!

asmonet's avatar

I mark your card, YES.

noraasnave's avatar

What animal would you like to be if you could? What attributes of that animal do you like? What attributes do you see in yourself? Why? (This is my question for speed dating)

What do you want to be when you grow up?

madsmom1030's avatar

Where do you see yourself in 10 yrs?- what do you have to do to get there? Who do you want with you?

Favorite toy as a child?

Choose 3 people, dead or alive, to eat with- who would they be and why?

Nimis's avatar

Nora: What do you want to be when you grow up?
Goodness. How old are the people you’re speed dating?

noraasnave's avatar

@nimis: I don’t know…that is the point. As we follow our dreams toward the vocation that best fits us, we have to be open to how our life with grow, evolve, transcend, change. We have to be ready to drop one ‘title’ that doesn’t fit us and pick up the new one that fits us better. That is why we have names as human beings because no other title really sticks too long.

Nimis's avatar

In which case, I usually like to ask people a version of your question:
If you weren’t doing what you’re doing now, what would you be doing?

I think you can be grown up and still continue to grow, evolve, transcend and change.

fireside's avatar

I thought gravity made us grow down as we got older?
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Ask the speed dater if they had get many complaints from their previous dates, or if that is just something that happens to you?

noraasnave's avatar

@nimis: ‘Growing up’ is for the birds; The version where you get rigid and stubborn in your thinking!

For many people their bodies grow up and grow old and their minds are still stuck at some point in their youth. I would be looking for someone childlike. /shrug

@fireside: I really like your second question, very interesting! It instantly challenges only their confidence.

@madsmom1030: Those seems like questions for slow dating, so I will have to wait till I get back from Iraq to answer them, slowly; face to face. <wink>

adreamofautumn's avatar

My ideal question would definitely be “if you could attend any one musical event, whether you were alive for it or not, what would it be” followed by “what toppings would you put on mac and cheese?”

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Two for ya:

1. hey, you’re pretty nice looking, got a brother?

2. I like to date unusual people, you wouldn’t by chance have a third, superfluous nipple, would you?

I guarantee they won’t forget your sense of humor.

Tobotron's avatar

Brazilian, Hollywood, or neither lol…these are important questions it tells a lot about a woman :P

kaomungai's avatar

po-tae-toe or po-tah-toe

to-mae-toe or to-mah-toe

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