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What is the best way to apologize to someone?

Asked by nikipedia (27327 points ) November 1st, 2008

Suppose you inadvertantly got really drunk and had a fight with someone and don’t even remember what the fight was about, but are 99% sure it was your drunken fault and (are too embarrassed to even talk to this person at the moment).

What are the necessary components of a sincere apology?

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shadling21's avatar

Hahaha! So you had a crazy Halloween, too?

Well, I’d just say sorry. Flat out. Face the person head on – by letting yourself be embarrassed for a short while, you are helping heal the relationship. The faster you apologize, the faster you can laugh about it together.

Be sure not to make excuses, though. No “I was drunk, so…”. Instead, admit that you’d made an error in judgment and that you feel bad about it. Offer to make it up somehow.

gailcalled's avatar

Pretty straightforward. Call person, make face-to-face date. Say,“I really sorry.” Shadling21 is right; don’t postpone, don’‘t make excuses…I’m just paraphrasing. Go with ^^.

chyna's avatar

Absolutely appologize face to face or at least on the phone. No emails or text messages. That seems chicken and insincere.

tinyfaery's avatar

I hope you don’t often find yourself in situations where you have to apologize with the excuse that you were drunk. Apologies are apologies no matter what the reason or excuse (remember that thread?). Say you were wrong and ask to be forgiven.

wundayatta's avatar

Apologies should have an explanation for how the wrong happened. You should show you have learned from your error, and will not do that again. Then you have to actually not do it again. Words are nice, but actions are what count.

In your case, I’m worried that you don’t remember what you did. I think you may have to explain you were drunk, and don’t remember, and you will not be drinking to that point again. You plan to keep enough of your wits about you, so that you don’t diss your friends when drunk.

PupnTaco's avatar

First, be honest. Tell the truth and apologize sincerely. Offer to make amends by not drinking so much.

Next, figure out why you’re drinking so much that you get to the point where you black out and get in fights.

figbash's avatar

I agree with be honest, tell the truth and apologize immediately.

I’d also be interested to know what the fight was about. Were you harboring some sort of issue with the person, and it wound up coming out when you were drunk, or was it just a fight about nonsense? If it’s the former, you may have to address it during your apology conversation.

mea05key's avatar

1. Call the person and say you want to speak to him regarding what happened
2. Look at the person apologise sincerely, honestly and tell that u really regretted what had happened
3. Tell that you will never repeat the mistake again

mjoyce's avatar

1. Post a question on fluther, hoping said “person” see’s it
2. “person” is the most awesome guy ever, and calls you before you have a chance to call him
3. “person” invites you over for mariokart to allow you to make amends

:D – Yes, that really just happened.

cdwccrn's avatar

sincerity, honesty and with a pledge never to repeat the offense.

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