How do I help my friend?

Asked by tocutetolive90 (888

) November 4th, 2008

So today my friend came to me and told me that his gf and him that have been going out for almost 2 years broke up. They had almost the same ann. as my bf and me. and he told me they broke up because she cheated and she has been trying to get back together, but he wont and hes really upset and i just don’t know what to say because they are both my best friends and I’m just so confused. any ideas?

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I’d suggest that you first listen. Let your friends pour out their souls and help them heal. Talk to each of them individually. Let them know that you are worried about both of them, that they are both hurting, that they’ve both hurt each other, and that you want to help them heal. You don’t have to choose sides.

If you find it’s hard to keep talking to both, perhaps finding a fourth party will help. Again, do more listening than talking.

Good luck. Be strong for them.

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listen kindly and keep your mouth shut. Do not get stuck in the middle. Do not talk about the other person. Do not talk about your own relationship.
Pray for them both.

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