What do you do?

When you are letting steam out to your SO are you looking for advice or just looking to vent?

When your SO is venting to you do you listen or do you lecture them as soon as they finish?

My So is the worst about lecturing me whenever I am venting to him. Sometimes I just need to say some things that I can’t say in whatever situation is bothering me. More often than not I am not looking for advice I am just getting things off my chest. He drives me up the wall when he lectures me after my venting sessions and usually puts me in a worse mood! Any tips on how to handle this? I’ve tried mentioning it to him but he just doesn’t get it. I don’t like to be treated like his little girl, I just need to yell sometimes! Does anyone else have this problem?