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Have you ever?

Asked by Ducky (49 points ) December 18th, 2008 from iPhone

I’ve been in a relationship now with my lifelong best friend for the past 10momths, I love him right? But I can’t get my bloody ex of a year ago out of my head. I’ve tried everything. Help!

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Ducky's avatar

I always end up missing certen things about hm, like how he always knew when somethng was wrong even when I didn’t show it, how he helped me get out of a abusive situation, how he was just always their. Now it’s causing me to thing about him. ? not to mention yes their of sexual attraction still.

steve6's avatar

Forget him and read a good book. That will help you occupy your mind.

derekpcollins's avatar

Ex’s are ex’s for a reason.

Ducky's avatar

I’ve tried for the past couple months

Ducky's avatar

Good point!

madcapper's avatar

yes do not dwell on the past and enjoy the future! good luck ducky! please get over it for all us who aren’t the ex out there haha!

Ducky's avatar

The most annoying thing is when Im about to get over him he always calls? sigh .
New years goal!

madcapper's avatar

Get rid of him… and by that I mean tell him in no uncertain terms you are through!

Ducky's avatar

It’s all easy Till he calls then I start again

madcapper's avatar

listen it’s so shitty but to move on just be done with him! relationships are rough but it must be done!

Ducky's avatar

Cheers to that!

madcapper's avatar

I hope you take it seriously and while we are all anonymous fluther people we think you should get rid of this loser! good luck!

Ducky's avatar

Thanks, Ill try again.. Any other suggestions? Causeā€¢ I’m open to taxktics that help with forgetting and moving on.

nebule's avatar

I am the queen of bad relationships…well one of them anyway!! Can i ask…how long you were with him for and why you broke up? and why is he still contacting you? What does he want when he phones? Does your current partner know that he still contacts you…? How does he feel about it?

madcapper's avatar

what’s the other suggestion? get back with him? that seems silly but live your life…

Trustinglife's avatar

I am guessing you don’t want to break the heart of your lifelong best friend.

Aside from that, have you considered getting back with the ex? What is unappealing about that possibility? I’m trying to understand where you’re coming from before offering any advice.

madcapper's avatar

k so I may have been a bit extreme but honestly tell him you are done and if you and your best friend of ten years are happy together then be with him! Happiness cannot be comprimised and when it’s there it’s there! embrace it!

madcapper's avatar

sorry months… but a good thing is a good thing…

jessturtle23's avatar

Ha! I am in the same boat. My ex drives me crazy. I wish he hated me.

Ducky's avatar

To Lynn- we were together 3 times? First time I kissed someone so we broke up last time cause it just didn’t work. He contacts me when he needs someone to talk to cause he has “no one else” and it’s usalally about what bad happened to him.. Like last time he wanted to tell me about his camping trip and how telling me how terribly wrong it went and how he came down with ammonia meet up time before was because a roof collapsed on him at work and got outta hospital.

Ducky's avatar

Then he wanted to meet up time after I forgot to add

Ducky's avatar

To madcapper& trusting life- I tried getting back with him. Felt wrong cause I loved my boyfriend I’m with now too much so I got back with with my boyfriend,

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