Can same sex couples be good parents?

Dude, its way too early for this. There are dozens of questions on Fluther about this.

Of course homosexuals can be great parents, just like heterosexual parents can be shitty. I don’t think it has any bearing. Why does this debate exist? Ignorance and intolerance.

sorry…I did a search first…

Yes, it’s quite ridiculous that thousands of orphaned children are being denied the rights to a loving set of caretakers, simply because some bigot thinks homosexuality is immoral and thus homosexual parents can’t be good parents, they’ll raise gay kids! rolls eyes Such ignorance is one reason I dislike humans.

There us no way homosexuals can be good parents…

They can be great parents!

I totally agree. This is a bunk argument that some people use to denounce homosexual marriage. Or in the case of Arkansas, people will go so far to stop homosexual couples from adopting as to outlaw adoption for anyone except heterosexual couples. Talk about throwing the baby out with the bathwater!

Children just want loving parents, no matter what their sexual orientation.

Absolutely.

Yes, they can be wonderful parents. The American Psychological Association fully supports allowing same-sex couples to adopt/parent.

Sexual orientation has no bearing (good or bad) on the ability to raise a child.

you don’t sexual orientation to be a great parant

Just being a “typical” male/female couple doesn’t mean you are going to be good, great or even “adequate” parents. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with being a good or bad parent.

-You know the gay people like to touch little kids, right? Everyone knows that.

-And what about when they teach their kids to be gay? Then the next generation will have more gays. And the next. And the next. Until they’re everywhere and we can’t stop them from doing all the stuff that we “normal” people do. Like marry.

-Are you okay with kids getting blood transfusions? The gays will want to change the kids’ red blood to the black/green syrup that they have coursing through their veins.

-Why should the children be subjected to, and have to watch, the wild sex parties that gays have? Their sexual appetites are horrendous.

-What would Jesus say?

-Why teach children to be so judgmental of others? That’s what the gays do. They sit around and judge us “normal” people, and judging someone like that is a sin.

-This question is ridiculous. Only straight people can raise kids the correct way. Only straight people have the love and patients required to be good parents. The gays don’t have those qualities. Especially love. They are incapable of true love.

@Sakata – I agree, it’s a ridiculous question and by saying that, I don’t mean Blondesjon asked a ridiculous question – just the premise; however, it is asked all the time. It, the premise that homosexuals are damaging to child – they will “turn” the child is discussed and is used to keep them from adopting children, every single day.

Recently, at my daughter’s high school, it was discovered that there is a homosexual couple amongst the normal parents. There are people that no longer will allow their child to associate with the other child. Seriously, how twisted is that?? This kid has more sense, participates in activities, does community service and is just a good kid – but some people are too damn afraid of what they don’t understand or what they don’t want to understand, and must run and hide – and take their kids with them. Pure craziness.

I wish I could make a list of all the reason I hate people but it would be way too long.
I would make a list of reasons I like people but I don’t have anything to put on that one yet.
People suck

@Sakata – I hope that changes for you. There are a few of us that try to do the right thing in life.

@cak From my perspective there are no truly good, honest, or righteous people. Everyone is in it for something. Sorry if that drags you down just remember… I don’t know you

Many children have been brought up by their mother and grandmother.

I was raised by my grandparents, dad, & mom… in that order. Everything after age 9 was a pointless waste of time. Maybe if there had been some gayness somewhere in there it wouldn’t have sucked so bad.

@Sakata

Seek help, quickly.

@Blondesjon – first, sorry for the hijack – I’m going to make one last comment to Sakata – and then I promise, I won’t go off topic, again!

@ Sakata. You are right. There are a lot of people that are out for themselves, don’t care about others. You can go on in life continuing to hold it against everyone else and assuming that all people are bad. I could do the same. My (biological) father was murdered. I was little when it happened, but was standing with my mother when she was told. My sister was a drug addict and we later found out she had a mental illness. Roller coaster, there. I was raped, 1st semester of college – had the crap beat out of me. Then stalked by the mother of the rapist. Crappy first marriage – treated horribly. He stole from me, started credit accounts in his name – had bills going to different addresses. I had many miscarriage, one still birth. I have cancer, that never seems to want to go into remission. I’ve had my share of crap in life, I am not the example of a perfect person or perfect life. You have the chance to help yourself. You have the ability to change your views and change your life. You can continue to live in the past or you can learn how to deal with it and move on. It’s your choice. I’m not trying to be an ass. I’m just saying you can’t judge everyone based on things in your life. Two things I’ve learned, over and over again. Life is not fair – not at all and you are the only person that can change your life and how you want to live. IF you are okay with living that way – great. But don’t judge me on your experience. I’m not those people in your life. And there are good people, you probably pass them, every single day. You are missing the opportunity to get to know them. I wish you well and do hope that somewhere, you can find some peace with what has gone on to make you feel this way.

Wow, yea, this thread was totally hijacked. Sorry ‘bout that.

BACK ON TOPIC PEOPLE

Moving over to PM’s

Duh-uh!

@Sakata You’re kidding with that list of reasons why gay people shouldn’t be parents, right? It was incredibly tongue-in-cheek and I just didn’t catch on, right?

Oh no. It’s all true.~

Oh my, Sakata. I’m gonna proudly thread-jack here for a moment. I’m straight, raised by straight and open-minded people. Some of my very best friends are gay men. They are some of the most loving, compassionate, fun, generous, honest, responsible people I’ve ever met. I’m not saying all homosexuals can be described that way, of course, just as plenty of heterosexual people aren’t that way either. These guys would make great parents. From what you’ve written, it sounds like you’re coming from a place of anger and ignorance. I strongly encourage you to get to know people and sub-cultures before making over-arching, hostile, and false generalizations.

@Likeradar: Tongue planted firmly in cheek. Tilde denotes sarcasm.

Oh… :/
Good to know a few minutes too late

Sorry, Sakata.

All good. The entertainment value was worth it.
:)

Of course they can!

I do not want to get into an argument but i am against Gays as parents.
My two cents.

Quite frankly, if you are raising kids they shouldn’t be privy to your sex life at all if you are any sort of decent parent. Straight, gay, kinky or none doesn’t matter. It is private and doesn’t need to influence your children at all as long as they see you love each other and them.

So, yes, same sex couples can be good parents. They can also be bad parents or indifferent parents, just like anyone else. I can pretty much guarantee that the kids at some point will always think they have lousy parents at least once in their lives, no matter what sort of parents or parent they have.

The short answer would be “well, duh! Like of course, dude”

I know several kids who have been raised by gay parents and they’re all better adjusted than myself! On the other hand, I know a certain straight couple who have a son who’s 17 and can’t read well enough to pass his drivers test after several attempts. All that matters is that the child is raised with, loving, caring parenting.
That’s my two cents.

I think that these days the average set of gay parents is more likely to be better parents than the average set of straight parents. I think this is because right now they seem to have to jump through more hoops in order to be parents or get to parent. They’re more likely to be deliberate parents. Maybe when it’s just as easy for gay parents to get custody of their kids from previous relationships or to adopt kids as a couple as it is for straight parents they’d be about as likely to be good or bad parents as straight couples. For now, I think they’re likely to be a bit better.

@cyndyh That’s a very good point. Any ol’ Herero couple can have a child, but for most of those of the LGBT persuasion, it takes a lot of time, effort and money to be a parent. Why go through all that trouble just to be a shitty parent?

@tinyfaery I want to agree with you, and I think I do in most cases, but then I think about people like Nadya Suleman…. desire doesn’t necessarily make you a good parent, unfortunately.

I don’t know what kind of parent that woman is. None of us do.

yes, they can

persuading people about it is a different story

people are by definition stupid, and think in cliches. They believe that all that lesbians ever do is have sex with each other. They never shop, they never sleep, they never go to work. They just spend the whole day naked in bed doing 69s. So how could they ever raise children?

My parents were of different sex, like most parents. I’ve never seen them having sex. I’m sure if both were of the same sex, I still wouldn’t have.

Having said that, there is a theory that kids need both role models while growing up. So in a nuclear family with no aunts, uncles or grandparents around, having only two mums or two dads might in fact be a bit of a problem. I wouldn’t like this when I was a kid, nor would I like it for my child. But I’d be fine with it if there was some other person of a different sex real close to the family (for example two lesbians but also one’s brother also living next door). Though I don’t really know how vital all that is. Just my guess.

@tinyfaery: I think it’s in part the trouble gay couples have to go through that motivates them to be better parents, but I think it’s also a function of there still being an unfair bias against them. If a judge or social worker has the option of granting custody to, say, gay parent with their new partner or straight parent with their new straight partner and that person making the decision has a bias, even slightly, against the gay couple they have to be better than the straight couple to get custody. It’s crappy, but I think this still happens.

btw I seriously think Sakata was being sarcastic…loosen up people!

Does it matter who rise a kid, what is important is how that kid turns out in life, gay or straight or even mixed race couples can be bad or good parents, there is simply no criteria what which couples is good for a kid. What is important is to teach that kid moral fiber. But I do now this, don’t teach your kids to hate, don’t teach them to be ignorant and teach them what the Bible says.