Do you prefer to be angry or sad?

I prefer angry because it doesn’t last quite as long, and can often be channeled. Sad can last for years and brings lethargic with it. Angry gets the kitchen floor washed, the basement cleaned, painted scraped on the outside of the house, leaves raked.

I tend to be less of an ass to people if I’m sad. I tend to regret aspects of anger so I’d rather be unhappy and then make up, than fight and make up sooner.

Sadness, because i won’t be hurting my loved ones. I would be easier to console and be normal again

In the past, my sadness annoys people, because they want to cheer me up, but can’t because the root of the sadness is too deep. Sometimes they become angry with me because I can’t just snap out of it.

Is a gender thing? Is angry in females different than angry in males?

I did not have permission to be angry when I was a little girl, so I’ve grown much more comfortable with sad.
I’m only now slowly being able to declare my anger and feel safe. Sad…..

Depends on who it is….
some people are really annoying when they are sad, and some people deal with anger in the worst ways.

If I’m sad, chances are I’m not going to be around anyone, so I wouldn’t have to worry about that. I’m good with anger, as long as I’m not with the person who pissed me off.

I would rather be angry, because sad gets me down too much. If Im angry then Im not quite as depressed and i hate to be depressed!

Life is too short for either. Happiness is a choice I choose every day.

I prefer anger. Sad is all encompassing. Anger has room for other emotions, too. I have been angry and laughing, as I vent to others and we brainstorm possible outcomes (or revenge) of the situation. Anger can be motivational or cleansing. Sadness is like a deadening of all my senses.

I prefer angry because it makes me take out my negative energy… at the gym.
Sad just makes me feel miserable and unable to get up the couch.

I prefer to be angry because anger often helps my productivity (It gives me a drive and energy I didn’t have before). It also makes workouts and physical activities more fun because you’re letting the anger out.

Being sad, however, slows me down and I freaking detest when people are melancholy and emotional for no apparent reason (even when the person is me).

Sad is the worst. I hurt people the most when I’m sad. Partly because I am desperate to get out of sad, and I try to get love wherever I can, and partly because I’m so close to checking out that people get really scared.

Angry? I don’t do it much. The kids don’t like it. But I usually apologize later. I usually fee guilty.

Still, I’ll take guilt over suicidal any day.

@AlfredaPrufrock – Gee, I can’t wait to meet Angry if he can help get things done! I’m most familiar with Sad.

Angry just cleaned my closet, and is working on the basement. I’ll send her over when she’s finished.

Anger over sadness every time. You can do something with your anger, and it goes away much faster than sad.

This question was very cute, or, well- the way you posed it. Made me smile.

I would rather spend some quality time with sad over angry. Sad comforts me a little. Angry just makes me feel like I’m wasting life on nothing. Sad does too, but I feel like spending time with sad can lead towards progression, as anger just well wastes time and can’t be productive in any format. Happy doesn’t seem to like my company either way unfortunately.

In the short term, anger can be very useful and motivating, as others have said. If we’re talking an afternoon visit, anger is fine company. If I had to sustain either emotion over a longer period of time, I’d choose sadness.

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Ditto.

I’d go with sadness for myself. I’ve been able to control my anger well throughout my life but I just don’t like that emotion and the bad feelings it conveys on yourself and others.

Sadness is an emotion that I can deal with better and it will dissipate much easier and more satisfyingly than anger, in my opinion.

I prefer sadness, personally. Anger hurts me more in the long run, along with those that I’m close to. Sadness enables me to be more empathetic (which I already am to a kind of ridiculous degree, but whatever) and sadness is far more eye-opening and inspiring. I can paint, draw and write much better when I’m sad vs. angry because my level of introspection is much deeper than usual. Anger is a surface, fleeting emotion where you don’t care to think of anything other than the anger itself. I think sadness is much more likely to lead to happiness, simply due to the questions you’ll ask yourself and the things you’ll notice, when you feel down.

This is all coming from a very accurately described INFP, so it may be different for other people.

I like angry, because then self-righteousness joins in the fray, and then of course, cutting sarcasm and stinging rebuke both jump in, and its a party that only a fringe bennie* could love. A good angry rant is very cleansing, and helps to dissipate the bad feelings brought on by people being rotten little shits. I can channel anger into creativity, and that always works. If all else fails, I can use my anger to get some other work done.

If I dwell on sadness, then guilt, regret and self-hatred set in, and that road only leads to my family finding my dead body hanging from a rope in the garage. No one wants that.

*A fringe bennie for those of you who have never heard the term, is a person that gets off on the fringe benefits that strong emotion brings.

When I’m sad, I get angry that I can’t cheer myself up. When I’m angry, I’m sad that something happened to make me feel that way. So for me, sad and angry are Siamese twins and if I hang out with one, the other has to be there, too.

I’d rather be sad because I’ve not figured out yet how to deal with my anger…other than beating myself up…which makes me….sad…

it’s the same thing to me. Smells like depression.

I’d rather be angry cause when your angry at someone it’s easier to forget about them

Sad, because angry can hurt people.With sadness you just hurt yourself, and you are more rational when sad then angry.So in the end you feel ‘better’ in a way when sad than when angry.

Im with @AlfredaPrufrock