Does one need to sacrifice everything in order to be a parent?
I am the proud dad of two young kids. Both my wife and I work the same exact jobs with the same hours and demands. Weekends are family time, shopping time, errand time, etc. However, for the past 6 years, I have played with and managed a competitive men’s soccer team that I really enjoy. It typically takes 3 hours on Sunday to go to the game, warm up, play and come home.
However, my wife finds that it is trying on her (and our family life) to build our Sundays around this event, and the game times are scattered from early morning to late afternoon. She implies but does not state openly that I should quit.
I firmly believe that we should both try to maintain outside interests so as to not become one-dimensional (i.e. our lives are built around our kids). So, I want to keep playing. However, I see her point that 3 hours on Sunday is a lot of time that could be spent together, or getting stuff done. How do I handle this? What are your thoughts?
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