How do you take rejection?

Yeah, I would say I am about the same way. It doesn’t matter what you do or say, you will be rejected at some point. So just go with the flow and roll with the punches.

I try not to put myself in situations where I could get rejected. That’s probably a bad thing, but I personally don’t put myself out there. I’m pretty happy so far.

Well it really depends for me, it depends who turns me down. I mean, if the person is someone I really like it would really bum me out. But you know what, it is unavoidable, you will get turned down at some point whether its work, relationship, or anything else. I just see it as “everything happens for a reason”. People doesnt always reject you because they dont like you, some peopel reject you for positive reasons as well.

It is also a good way to just say “Oh well :)” .

nothing ventured, nothing gained

I have learned in life to never question the destiny monster.
It sucks sometimes, but c’est la vie.

I always go into things expecting rejection, too. For me, though, at some point it started turning into a self-fulfilling prophecy and now any time I’m not rejected it’s a complete shock because I’ve stopped believing I deserve anything good. Urgh.

Get depressed for the rest of the day, then wake up the next morning and move on. It’s when having the memory of a mayfly actually helps.

Hmm I guess I should clarify. I don’t go into situations expecting rejection. Like MacBean said that can become a self fulfilling prophecy. However I know it will happen sooner or later. But if you want something you must be persistent and overcome rejections.

With cream and sugar, usually.

After the initial sting of rejection and the moments of examining how I could have done something better or presented an idea in a different way – I move on. When it’s business matters, I do look for my weakness in the idea and work on strengthening my points.

In personal matters, it’s hard not to take it personally; however, I don’t wallow in self-pity if I’ve been rejected. Rejection is a fact of life, it’s going to happen. Again, I’ll look for what went wrong, try to improve and hope for the best the next time around.

I take it better each time it happens. But it generally bums me out a bit.

not very well…although i try not to put myself in situations where this could be possible

Very poorly! I always take it personally, like there’s something wrong with me.

To state the obvious, I hate rejection as much as the next person. I’ve used the fear of it not to do some things. I especially hate it when it happens to my face. I don’t think I’m so different from a lot of people. I think this is why a lot of people use email to ask for things, instead of calling or visiting the person to ask. An email rejection is easier to take. You didn’t put much effort into it, so you don’t have to feel bad about it.

Ironically, if you want to succeed at getting something from somebody, the more personal you make it, the more likely you will succeed. Calling on the phone involves real talk with a real voice, and the other person has to take into account your feelings if they reject you. It’s even stronger in person. This is why, when it really counts, we always want a meeting with someone.

Once you get in the door, it’s much, much harder for someone to say no. They have to worry about getting you back out (which is a tiny bit of intended or unintended extortion). They have to worry about your feelings. A lot of people do not like to hurt others, so it is hard for them to say “no.”

Still, rejection sucks, and you can get it no matter how you approach the person. I was trained, as a canvasser, to talk through three “no’s.” This is why canvassers and phone salespeople can be so pushy. They know that a lot of people will give in if you keep on going and offer more reasons. This is why I want to be with someone in person. If they say no, I can fight it.

Still, I hate rejection, and I will avoid calling or meeting with people in order to avoid it. I know I’ll do better if I face them, personally, but, especially when I’m sick, I just can’t do it. I prefer to have the internet mediating between us. It makes things less difficult to deal with.

This is hurting me in my life. I’m a musician and a writer. I should be picking up the phone and calling people to get gigs. I should be doing productive writing every day (not fluther writing). I don’t. I’m afraid it won’t get published. I’m afraid even to call anyone about that. It’s a lot of work. Rejection will make me feel bad, and if I feel bad, I could get down on myself, and if I get down on myself, I might get depressed, and depending how deep a depression I get into, I might kill myself. Better to stick with the things I know I can do, so I can stick around for my wife and kids.

Of course, that’s just a rationalization.

It depends what the rejection is. If a guy is rejecting me, and I was really into it, I’ll probably be upset for awhile, and talk to my friends. If I wasn’t that into it anyway, I’ll call him an asshole and brush it off (even if he isn’t an asshole, it makes me feel better to say so). If it’s an employment/application situation, especially regarding my art (what I’m in school for), I allow myself to brood about it for just a little time, then I make myself change my mood and express any residual frustration into my work.

I don’t handle rejection very well, as I have a tendency to overthink EVERYTHING.

i face it everyday, i refuse to submit to anyone, i hate everyone that rejects ne for who i am, i wont stay out of anything i enjoy, i love all my things, i wont change for anyone, i wont change,i can decide for myself

One lousy day at a time. At least they feel lousy after rejeciton.