What's your experience hooking up with an ex?

It caused problems. It turned out one wanted recreational sex where the other thought it meant getting back in the relationship.

Best to move forward not back improve my opinion.

It depends.
I’ve had it be a great thing, and one experience was awful.

Things probably would have worked out, with my one ex, but I chose not to pursue it and dated a different guy (big mistake), but it all led me to where I am today…different guy altogether and happy :)

Ick. I did it once, kind of like a pity thing because he was so bummed out and making me feel sad for him but it was just a few minutes because he could tell I was not into it at all.

Horrible idea. I have before with a couple ex’s. They made me feel used and unwanted after. Never again.

Unless both people are looking to get back together, it’s probably a bad idea. Just makes things more confusing and someone is bound to get hurt in the process.

None. It never happened.

Definitely a bad move in most cases I think. I always told myself I’d never go back, but I have done, and I wouldn’t recommend it.

Has never happened in my experience. What’s done is done.

oh…very very bad indeed….always!

The same as warming up the food in the fridge.
If it was good enough to start with, it may be worth it. But in most cases, whatever the reason for breaking up the fist time, it will appear again this time round.

I’ve only done it once, and it was many years apart. The girl had changed a lot, and so had I. She was objectively more beautiful, much sexier, even more interesting and mature as a person. But the bottom line was, it didn’t “click”. It was a lot worse than the first time round.

I think the only reason we even contemplate something like this is that it’s a pretty “safe” choice, since you don’t have to deal with possible rejection. It was why I went back to that ex, anyway.

There are a couple of ex gfs I would be willing to give a second chance to, but this is because we had a pretty good relationship while it lasted, and there’s something to build upon. In most cases though, it’s simply not worth it, and I’ve moved on.

Well it obviously depends. I have hooked up with an ex and it worked out fine. It was a one night thing after the bar and after that she didn’t call me and I didn’t call her. Then it happened again on a different night with the same result. But I have one ex who texts me all the time claiming a desire for no strings attached “activity”. I know thats not all she wants so I refrain. Plus she has gained a little weight.

Never say never. It may not work out for some. I had a different experience. IF my husband and I were still married, we would have celebrated 25 years this past New Years Day. We have instead been happily divorced since 1993. He moved back to his home town an hour or so away, married someone else, and when that didn’t work for him after a few months, they divorced and he later came back to the town where we live now. We didn’t see each other for a year or so, but talked frequently. We realized eventually that we belonged together, we really DID love each other, and that we enjoyed being together once all the craziness of early-middle-age died down. We have lived together since, but chose not to remarry. It wouldn’t be a workable situation for everyone, but it worked out great for us.

I don’t go backwards.

Incidentally, an ex called me just after I posted that last response. A sign?

nah, she’s tried to get back together several times, there’s just no spark left to rekindle

I think it depends on your previous relationship. If you had no emotional connection and your relationship was purely physical, then “yes” I think you could safely hook-up. Where you run into problems is when your previous relationship is vested in emotional attachment, in this case a hook-up can (and most likely will) end up in codependent squeals of the original relationship.

Basically if you were in love with your ex, then a hook-up is likely to end badly.

It happened with my first lover a few times after she dumped me. I was never sure why. I knew she didn’t want to get back together (although I did), and I didn’t think it was a pity fuck since I was in a relationship. So maybe she was still a little hung up on me, or just testing her decision? I have no idea. It was weird, and fun.

Exactly what @The_Compassionate_Heretic said. Except the one who thought it meant getting back together lied and said it was just about the sex…all bad. Thought we were being super sneaky, but all of our friends knew the entire time and finally told us after we had stopped.
We were each others’ firsts.

why, oh why, do people consider this??

Bad…bad…and did I mention bad idea? You know, someone might still have some emotions and it could lead them on to thinking that there is a chance in getting back together.

Always been awkward.