Anyone see He's Just Not That Into You, or read the book? What's your opinion?

I read the book and saw the movie, I thought both were funny. I think that some of the stuff the authors say is true in most cases, some of us tend to overanalyze relationships and situations as well as make up excuses to make ourselves feel better when someone doesn’t seem that interested in us. I don’t think men are as complicated as we think. If someone is interested in you then they will certainly put in the time and effort to call you back and ask you out on that second date, if not then it probably wasn’t meant to be.

I think men are not that complicated. They don’t over think every situation like women do.
They don’t obsesse over every little move, comment or hair flip. If a guy is interested, he knows it.

Read the book, didn’t see the movie. The author oversimplifies just a little, but for the most part he’s right, I think. I’m a crazy, insane over-analyzer and excuse maker. After I read the book, I started to think about what the author would say about my dating life. It made things waaaay easier.

I read the book. It wasn’t helpful, I’m not into him.

FYI: The author’s a comedian.

@Sakata I saw him at Comedy Works a few years ago… he’s a mediocre comedian. :)

Did anyone catch that horrible talk show he had? I’m guessing it got cancelled? Haha.

“If someone is interested in you then they will certainly put in the time and effort to call you back and ask you out on that second date, if not then it probably wasn’t meant to be.”

this will probably be moderated but the best response to something like this is a polite: FUCK YOU that is NOT necessarily what we will do. sometimes we’ve got other shit to deal with besides your hot ass. You high and mighty females with thousands of men at your feet need to make a decision sometimes and stop ONLY going for the loudest dog lacking enough of a life to actually have a chance to call you 30 times a day and beg for your interest.

You guys need to grow a pair (metaphorically only, please) and make a logical decision on what guys are worth your time and what ones aren’t. Unless of course you’ve got so little of a life yourselves that the best match for you is in fact someone who has no life either and all the time in the world to call you and talk on the phone about rainbows and unicorns.

You call us. some of us are busy and need rescuing from our workload. We’ll appreciate it greatly and you will be duly rewarded.

@ninjacolin “rainbows and unicorns”? How old are you, twelve?

@ninjacolin wow.
I do make “logical decisions” on what guys are worth my time. A big factor in that is who is bothering to express interest in a normal way (not a calling 30 times a day kind of way. The “dinner was great, would you like to go out again?” kind of way.)

Seems like you might have a problem with the girls you chose.

“You high and mighty females with thousands of men at your feet need to make a decision sometimes and stop ONLY going for the loudest dog lacking enough of a life to actually have a chance to call you 30 times a day and beg for your interest.”

@ninjacolin – What the hell? I’m willing to take a guess here and say that you don’t get very far with the ladies. FIRST of all, calm the fuck down. SECONDLY, I never said they have to call 30 times a day, I said if they say they are going to call and they do then they are probably interested, if they don’t then they probably aren’t.

lol, what a reaction. a lawyer has to defend his client well, doesn’t he?

consider it a learning experience, ladies. that’s all. you don’t have to follow it. fact of the matter is you can find happiness in just about anything. whether the guy is boring or not. doesn’t really matter. just don’t make decisions for people is all. do all you can to find out the truth without assuming the truth.

have the guts to get rejected. chances are you won’t be.

@ninjacolin if that’s been your personal experience, you may want to seek out women who don’t behave like archetypes from bad television sitcoms. Otherwise, it seems as though you’re just trying to be inflammatory.

lol, only a little inflammatory.

:)

k, i’m off on a date, suckas. haha.

@ninjacolin – Ok, I see what you’re saying about calling the guy instead of waiting for the call, but i’m just saying that in the experiences i’ve had, most guys who were interested either took the initiative or weren’t interested and didn’t at all. And FYI, I have taken the initiative before, I didn’t always wait around. :P

I read the book forever ago. It was funny, but I think it’s all meant for fun, not to be taken too seriously. It was all pretty obvious stuff, in my opinion. But I guess there are some desperate girls out there who just don’t get it… I dunno.

i guess i’m just saying, @KrystaElyse, that SOME of the guys who didn’t call you back as quickly as others were probably just as interestd in you or more.. circumstance, simply prevented them from being able to make the call ahead of the competition. similarly, if you call them after that 2–3 day grace period rather than relying on them to call you.. you can win favor with them. perhaps calming them down after a tough week on a project or something that may have been stressing them too much to call you. points can be won by taking a clever first step yourselves.

point being, if you ONLY rely on whoever puts the most fevered energy into calling you back rather than noting the individual characteristics of each of your prospects.. you’ll end up with either the pushiest dude or simply the one who had time on his hands that week rather than the best imaginable pick.

but as i said, you can find happiness either way. it’s just a rational consideration of the options. just a thought not a hard and fast rule.

Seen the film and it was quite good. And yes, it’s spot on.

Women tend to over-analyse relationships. Men really do think of only one thing: sex. Any type of relationship is great if the sex is good, and a man will put up with the worst bitch for some good sex. But take out the sex, and even the tidiest, smartest, friendliest cutie is just “a nice girl, but not my type”.

Ok, we’re not all that simplistic either, because by “sex” I don’t just mean intercourse. It could be the hope of good sex, or the idea of sexual love, or memories of sex or whatever. But it all boils down to attraction. Yes, we appreciate a good meal. And we want to have interesting conversations. But if that were all, we’d marry the fat guy at the steakhouse and talk about….sex with women.

eh