My guess is that generally men are pleasured in a certain way, or think they are, and thus have little general basis in Sensuality. Think of how much work a man has to do to get a woman off and keep her satisfied in that way (meaning no toys, no change-ups, nothing). It could be that you’re blessed with the perfect size penis, the perfect body, the perfect personality and the knowledge to get the job done quickly and satisfactorily, that the woman in your life is completely and utterly spent when you are. That’s a stretch (no pun intended). It is no surprise to me that women have so many different psychological pathways (as far as sex is concerned) when they’re so often left wanting after their partner has finished and gone to sleep.
In my experience with women, the more unpredictable and openminded I can be (within reason) the quicker I can please their senses. Many women are hyper sensitive to other areas of the body than their genitals, as are men, but the difference is that those men I know don’t go looking for them. Moreover, they’re equally ignorant of their own sensitivities, taking up the popular culture practice of shunning them. This is a loss, if you ask me. No amount of friction can beat out a good mind job (watch for falling puns).
As an aside, If you’d like an interesting activity with yourself or your partner, try reaching orgasm without touching any genitals. You’ll find it’s as much a mind game as a physical one, and much more fun than you’d ever expect. Besides, after hours of foreplay in this manner, everything becomes much more sensitive. ;)
If you go back to puberty, guys, you’ll likely remember the funny feeling “down there” and wanting to explore it. Of course you use it all the time, so what’s this other feeling? Something new? I don’t know everyone’s case, but in my own, I was much more intent on exploring this one new thing that I hardly paid any attention to the others. It wasn’t until I started dabbling in some psychoactives as an adult that I even knew my body had the potential at least equal to that of my gonads to please me, fairly anywhere and everywhere I choose. Since the physical body is there and constant (and most people can feel it, no matter how sensitive), I have come to the conclusion that to please the body further is a matter of mentality. Therefor, I’m sure if more men were to explore the sensuous nature of their entire bodies, the tests would have been markedly different.
Ladies, you might have noticed I didn’t say much about your physiology and psychology. The truth is, I don’t really know it. I had been blessed as a child, raised almost entirely by women. I even found my mom’s smut under her bed shortly after I got my inklings “down there” and started my explorations into that world fairly early. What I found out (usually reading erotica by women, for women) is that in particular cases, women are attracted to the unknown. That is, not to define as exhibitionist, voyeur, or to coin a phrase, open for all occasions. Rather, that when faced with a new possibility for stimulus, a woman will react with curiosity towards this new experience. I don’t know how far that goes, but I think I’m about a 90% ballpark on this theory (no hotdog jokes, please).
Whereas men would likely have studied the same tactics with little variation to get off, I would guess that women generally practice more ways of sensual pleasure. You understand, don’t you all, that a woman’s genetalia are much more complex than a man’s, at least as far as the finished product is concerned. I’ve been lucky enough to explore my body’s pleasures to what I would consider multiple orgasmic states (with coaching), but I admit that when I’m focusing on the “one thing,” when I’m done, that’s it for me.
I would go further on this reach to say that I think women develop their senses earlier than guys, and since they don’t have one all-encompassing trick to study again and again, they are able to achieve much more exploration. I would say that since a woman generally knows how to please herself, but also knows there are other ways to achieve the goal, they are constantly aware of how to get off on anything that comes to mind. If I may be so bold to say further, I know for a fact that no matter how dirty and conniving my mind can be, sexually, nearly all the women I’ve met that have any background in self-pleasure are even further involved in that mentality. In short, women get turned on because they have active imaginations, and, they know that they can achieve their goals in multiple ways.
And that’s about all I want to say right now. I’m open to corrections.. Just know, I tried to generalize a lot of my suppositions simply because I’ve known several girls who didn’t know a thing about their sexuality because they’d never given themselves the chance to try it out. I also know women who are strongly attracted to their mates, and very well pleased with them, but still find some displeasure at not reaching the highest heights, so to speak.
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