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Do you know what you want?

Asked by judyprays (1309points) April 2nd, 2009

if not, why not? if yes, have you always known? how did you find out? what advice would you give to someone trying to figure out what they want?

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aviona's avatar

No because I’m 19 (almost 20) and sort of in the middle of a nervous breakdown, I guess you could call it that.

I have some ideas, though.

dynamicduo's avatar

Sometimes I do. Most often though I don’t. I’m still working out how to find the methods for discovering what I truly want.

Dog's avatar

I used to think I knew what I wanted in life.

Now that I have gotten it I am no longer sure.
Pathetic huh?

willbrawn's avatar

career wise yes, took me awhile but my wife helped me find it. Other things yes and no, in general i know what i want and where im going.

ubersiren's avatar

I’d like a giant plate of McDonald’s cheeseburgers stacked in a pyramid to steal, just like the Hamburglar.

But seriously, I’m looking forward to a great career, a house that isn’t falling apart, and one or two more babies! My life will be complete.

jonsblond's avatar

Yes, I do know what I want. I didn’t realize what I wanted until I grew up and lived a little.

MissAusten's avatar

Yes. I want my husband and my kids to be happy and healthy, some time alone each day to read and drink my coffee, good sleep at night, and a winning lottery ticket.

I guess world peace would be OK too.

JellyB's avatar

The ultimate thing i want, is to be happy, so whatever brings me that is good!

As for what i want to do with my life, or which career or whatever i want – i have no idea, and i’m turning 30. I know it is something creative thought, that i want, not some formal office job. I don’t know how i figured this out, but it took time, as you can see. I studied law after school, and i hate it completely, so am not practicing it now.
I like being crafty with my hands, so i’m looking for something i can do in that field. I’ve just started with beaded jewellery, and i love it. So, i am still searching for something that i can support myself with financially, and where i’m happy doing it also. I don’t believe in doing anything that does not contribute to your daily and long term happiness.

SO! I don’t know what i want. I’m still looking. But i think i’m on the right path now.
All i can say is, sometimes it just takes time for you to realize what it is you really enjoy and what you want to be doing, so you just have to wait. :)

dearest_prudence's avatar

what I want changes daily, but I usually have a pretty good idea of what I want

Sol's avatar

big boobs and lager

Facade's avatar

Yes, I do.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

Yes, I do, but I’m afraid I’m never going to get it.

essieness's avatar

Career wise, nope. I’ve always known I wanted to teach piano, but I’ve never been sure how to go about getting started. And I’ve moved around too much to really get it going. As far as otherwise in life… I know exactly what I want.

loser's avatar

I know I want a beer.

WifeOfBath's avatar

I want to love and be loved, that`s all I want…:)

wundayatta's avatar

To play music with other great improvisers as much of the time as I can. When not doing that, spend time with my family, and when not doing that, write stuff that people want to read.

nebule's avatar

No i don’t know what I want because I have been brainwashed and bullied all my life…. and it’s kind of difficult to get out of that thought process that says…I am worth nothing,...My opinions do not count… in order to seek and find what you really are and want…

nina's avatar

In the beginning of my ‘wanting career’ I always knew what I wanted – because my wants were based on most basic needs – get into college, stay away from a difficult dad, etc.
Later, when little by little I got everything important, all my wishing starts with gratitude for the status quo and there is just SO much to be grateful for – that there is not that much energy left for wishing. But as a general rule, it is important to concentrate on your big needs, even if it means to satisfy the little ones first. I can not do any serious wishing if I am craving a cup of coffee. But wishing over coffee – well that is a whole other matter.
Happy wishing!

Bluefreedom's avatar

I have many things I’ve always wanted but not everything yet. I’m only 42 years old and there are still several things I’d like to get in this lifetime and I’m going to keep striving until I can acquire most or all of them. A couple of reasons for not attaining a certain thing yet, for me, are not enough money and no time in my schedule to work it in.

Whatever you are passionate about and whatever makes you happy, go after it with all your heart and soul. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it and try your best not to get disheartened when confronted by an obstacle or a challenge. If you want something bad enough, you’re going to find a way to work around or through whatever is in your way.

YARNLADY's avatar

I’ve never had a problem knowing what I want. The hard part is acquiring it.

anthelios77's avatar

I think I do, but I’m often unsure and sometimes loose my drive to try to reach those goals. I do know I want to be with my significant other for the rest of life though. I consider the rest frosting on the cake.

Zen's avatar

I’ll have what @MissAusten is having.

MissAusten's avatar

@Zen lurve for that! And some of these cookies I’m baking too!

asmonet's avatar

Yes, I’ve always wanted to go into something to do with archeology /anthropology.

First, I wanted to be an Egyptologist, then an archeologist, then an anthropologist and then a paeloanthropologist – minoring in astronomy. Because I can.

There was a brief stint of wanting to be a marine bilogist for a year ortwo, until I realized I just wanted to hang out with dolphins. I could give a fuck about the rest.

And then I have my list of 119 things to do before I die. I want to cross off more than the 34 I already have. But they’re hard! Things like do a cartwheel over an ocean or in the sky, check. Be in two places at once, check. Slow dance in a cloud, check.

They’re all odd.

Other than that, happiness and love.

mattbrowne's avatar

I don’t want to pretend that I’m someone else. I want to be me with all my strengths and weaknesses.

Garebo's avatar

No, that has always been a great conundrum for me. I just seem to know what I don’t want.

hearkat's avatar

yes. unconditional love.

StupidGirl's avatar

Yes and it’s not available. )-:

Aster's avatar

Pats on the back or arm each day would be Great ! I can feel those endorphins flowing just thinking about it.
A cosmetic surgeon who doles out the morphine.
My daughter to get well, happy, and nicely employed.
Fall weather.

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