Men need women to be clingy and whiny, women need men to be aloof and mean?

I’ve started to develop this theory that, either by society causing it to happen or it’s biological, that in a relationship it is actually (sub-conciously) desired by the female for the male to be mostly, yet mildly, aloof and mean and that men (sub-conciously) desire women to be mostly, yet mildly, clingy and whiny. Yes, we obviously love it when our significant other is not these things, but think about it, wouldn’t constant love and adoration from your boyfriend be tiring? Or, wouldn’t an emotionally distant girlfriend get annoying?
Now I’m just typing thoughts as they come, and I’m pretty much generalizing males and females and how relationships work, but I’ve just wondered…Don’t we need things to be bad sometimes in order to truly appreciate the good?
Yes, too much clingyness and whining is ridiculous, and if a man is mean to the point of destroying your self esteem then you should get out of there, but, come on, doesn’t a little bit of that aloof persona keep you wanting, girls? And guys, isn’t that perfect amount of clinging and whining reasurring?
Of course, this just doesn’t relate to hetero-couples, same sex couples where each of them adheres the role of the male or female also count.
Share with me your thoughts, opinions and ideas my fellow fluthererererss.