Why the game of "hot and cold"?

It depends upon what you gave away.

I think the same could be said for women. That’s why I never liked dating.

My “girlfriend” is the same way. I swear one day shes All connected up with me (the perfect girlfriend) the next day she acts like she don’t freakin care at all. I am one that likes being in tight with my woman. (you know deep spiritual bond connection.) I never will understand her. I have found that when I decide (in my head) that I don’t give a damn about her or what she does..It’s like she senses that and Shes back again, all up with me again like I want! So what gives here? Do I have to not care at all to get what I want in a relationship?