Do you use attractivness, or let yourself be influenced by attractiveness in interpersonal relationships?
I’m not at all sure how to ask this question. What I find is that when I’m talking to a beautiful woman, especially a flirtatious one, I try to catch them doing things that take advantage of their attractiveness. Sometimes they might play on my sympathy in order to get me to do something they should do. I might do it, just to be able to spend more time in their company.
I’m sure good-looking people are aware of their impact on others, and might use it deliberately to get what they want. Those of us on the receiving end, might be aware of this, and try to identify these subconscious efforts to persuade us.
In business settings, I try very hard not to be influenced, and I call people on it when I think it’s happening. Usually in a joking way. However, I’m always checking with myself to make sure I’m being motivated by relevant reasons for acting, not irrelevant ones.
What’s your experience with this? Are you even aware of it? Do you see when people are trying to get something from you, or have you tried to use it to get something from someone else? How have you done this? Would you describe the situation?
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