I really like this girl. and she thinks we are TOO CLOSE FRIENDS to date. How to i get out of the "Friend Zone"?

The thing that comes to mind when someone’s in the friend zone is that the other person doesn’t think you have the qualities they’d want in a partner, or that they think you can’t commit. I’m not speaking from experience here, so I’m not exactly sure.

That sounds like one of two things.

A) It’s a cover because she simply doesn’t have romantic feelings for you. IF thats the case, you can’t do anything really. That has been known to “blossom” into a romantic relationship, but there’s nothing you can do to make it. In fact pushing too hard could very easily mess up the friendship.

B) She doesn’t want to be tied down to someone that would be a long term relationship or potentially a marriage partner. This would be especially more likely if she’s young (Teens/early 20’s). At that age a lot of people will mess up good relationship opportunities (even subconsciously so) simply because they’re not ready to settle down, and deep down they know that a person might be a long term relationship. What you could try to do in this case (though it would be very hard and again could mess up the friendship if you push too hard) is make her see that being in a long term relationship isn’t such a bad thing. Most people NEED to go thru a phase of not being tied down though, and won’t know that they’re happier with someone til they’ve been thru it. Unfortunately many amazing relationships have never been because of that need (and that’s just speaking from my own experience :P )

(But don’t think it couldn’t be something other than these things, every girl is different…. just my two cents)

Sounds like an excuse to me. If she is not attracted to you there is nothing you can do to change it and if she is, I doubt the friend thing would stop her.

You don’t. You’re done.

“Let’s be friends” = “I don’t want you”

Respect that and you’re respecting her.

You won’t be able to because she’s not being honest. She’s just not into you.

seduce her
over take her by a wall, hands on her neck, kiss her like you mean it
hell, you gotta take risks

@Simone_De_Beauvoir That can backfire badly. Forcing a kiss qualifies as assault.
If she doesn’t like him that needs to be acceptable.

@The_Compassionate_Heretic
hence the ‘you gotta take risks’ part
he’ll know if she’s not into it

Once the Friend Zone has you in its grip, it is damn near impossible to get out of it. Take it from someone who has a terrible habit of falling for friends. Your best bet is to just try and move on.

Dont try if shes already declared to you that your to good of friends then thats her way of letting you down easy without hurting your feelings. If she was really attracted to you or saw you that way she would have said yes when you asked.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir You can’t go right in for the kill. What happened to “no means no”? That’s basically forcing his will upon her. It might not seem like much to some but it could be very traumatic for the girl.

@The_Compassionate_Heretic
me being a hopeless romantic, that’s what
one with a penchant for passionate surprises

the scenario i have in mind is not forceful, just urgent

Pull her pigtails and run away.

LOL what the fuck seventhsense

DONT DO IT

http://www.laddertheory.com/

DO NOT LADDER JUMP!

Move away from her, slowly.

Your absence will make her wonder about the true nature of your relation.

Then, after a while, come back and tell her what you feel.
Lastly, be prepared to lose a friendship. Is all or nothing after that moment.

@qashqai Oh yes, be very prepared to lose that friendship. Happened to me, 6 year friendship is no more.

@qashqai
Good call

How did I miss this question when it first popped up?

I am female and I have come across this problem before, from both sides. I have liked my male friends and wanted to date them but what stops me there is that I do not want to ruin the friendship. Most guys tell me this is absolute crap but it is the truth. If I am very good friends with you, then I don’t want to chance losing you by dating you. Another reason why I do not date my male friends is because I know too much. Think about it. If this girl is a good friend of yours, then you have probably told her stuff that no prospective girlfriend wants to know. If you told her that you cheated on your last girlfriend, she’s not going to want to date you. If you make nasty comments about previous girlfriends, she’s not going to want to be the cause of that anger. Basically, friends tell each other things that no girlfriend wants to know.