Did you go, or do you plan to go, to your high school reunion?

My ten year reunion is still eight years away, who knows how I will feel. But if it were this year I would probably go.

I haven’t been to my high school reunion yet, I’m too young and will be going to high school really soon.
I wonder how it would be going to a reunion…=p

My 20 year is this September and I don’t plan on going. I moved my junior year from Las Vegas to Illinois so I only attended the school for two years. I wouldn’t mind seeing a handful of people that might be there but my 10 year reunion was not the best, so I don’t see how my 20 year would be any better.

Mine was last fall. I didn’t go.
I wasn’t exactly confident or nice or friendly in high school, and I was afraid of the cold reaction I’d probably get.
I regret not going. It would have been nice to show people how I’ve changed in the past decade, and to see how they have too.

My 20 year reunion is pretty much going on right now – this weekend. I can’t go, foot surgery. I wanted to go, but things started popping up, so we decided it would have to wait. I think it’s for the best, a lot of people started backing out, seems like there was a bit of drama going on and it reminded us too much of high school. I’ve seen and continue to see some of the people that I went to school with and communicate with others, online. It’s been good to stay in touch with some of the others, but overall, the group has really gotten smaller.

As far as teachers, I’ll miss seeing some that were going to attend, but again, it just wasn’t meant to be.

I didn’t go to my 10yr reunion, I was out of the country when it was being held.

My ten year reunion is in 2017. I might go. No one will miss me if I don’t.

I didn’t go to my first 30 reunions…but just for fun I went to the 35th reunion. It was a gas, but i don’t thinl i will do that again for 35 more years.

I was the hero for showing up 35 years later.

I have my five-year next summer. If I’m able to, I’ll definitely go. I want to see my old teachers more than I want to see my old classmates, but there’s also that curiosity about what everyone looks like, what they’re doing, who had babies… who (else) is gay. :D I’m clearly just as nosy as you, especially having come from an extremely small school. There were only 37 of us in my graduating class, so everyone knew everyone, but it’s too much work to stalk them all on facebook!

Didn’t. Won’t. Don’t care.

My long-term friends were made in college.

My five year was great. Ten wasn’t so hot. I haven’t been to any others. I have my thirty year reunion coming up next year. I’ll likely go unless the date clashes with vacation plans.

Went to my 5-year a little while ago, and it sucked – it was an excuse for a certain group of people who hung out in high school to hang out again, but with overpriced, watered-down drinks and really loud music. Me and my friends who showed up split after about 30 minutes and had a great time on our own.

I think I will, it’s in a few years. I didn’t have too many friends in high school, but I got along with everybody. I would like to see how they are doing, and it would be a real trip to visit my home town

If I could go to my first high school’s reunion, i would in a heartbeat. So many awesome people at that school. The one I actually graduated from, not so sure because everybody mostly had their friends already and largely ignored me.

I didn’t go to my 10th or 20th. None of my friends were in my class, they were in the year ahead of me.

I plan on going to mine next year. I still hang out with some good friends from hs, but, most of the people that I hung out with moved away from Sarnhole (Sarnia, where I’m from). Because of Facebook, I get to see what they look like now, what they’re doing, and get to see umpteen pictures of their babies. Most of the girls who were skinny, popular and hot, now have frontal beef baby bellies. And, the hot boys are now bloated and bald. The nerds/geeks turned out to be cute and rich. Funny how it all works out. :)

@Resonantscythe That’s exactly how I feel. My best friend that I grew up with is still in Vegas and luckily I’ll get to hear all about the reunion from her. I really wish I could go to that one.

H-E-Double Hockey Sticks NO!! You could not pay me enough to go to any of my high school reunions. For me high school was four years of h-e-double hockey sticks.

(Wow, I think this might be the most passionate answer I have ever written here on Fluther!)

I went to a charter high school, my graduating class had 24 students, 20 of which are still in this county (and probably at least 15 of them are still within the same town). I still regularly hang out with about 10 of them.

The ones I don’t hang out with are the ones I don’t want to hang out with. But they’re all on my facebook or myspace friends list.

No need for me to go to a reunion, I feel like they’re a bit outdated.
But would I? Sure, another occasion to hang out with friends.

I didn’t go to my 20th. I don’t regret it. What was fun was that all the people who I really did hang out with in my neighborhood and at school caught up and have reconnected on facebook.

Looking at who showed up it would have been a forced conversation with people who were just waiting for a chance to talk to people they had an actual relationship in highschool with.

My 20th was supposed to be this summer, but I think it was called off due to the economy!

I didn’t graduate, I got my GED…but people still know who I am. I can’t believe this would be 5 years from graduation (6 years for me) Crazy.
I’d go to my 10 year. I don’t see the harm. But, I can also go on Facebook and know of everything everyones up to..

I didn’t go to mine. The people I liked in high school I’ve kept in contact with.

@casheroo – yeah, I’m pretty sure facebook has made highschool reunions obsolete . . .

I went to my 10 year reunion, which was mildly entertaining, but I haven’t been to any subsequent reunions since then. I had a relatively small group of friends that I spent time with through all 4 years at the same high school and several were missing from the initial reunion which was a downer. I have a feeling that was the case with all the other reunions too. I just don’t have a huge desire or the need nowadays to go mingle with a bunch of former acquaintances(?) from high school, most of whom I had little or no contact with anyway.

I went to my 20 year, and found out one of my best friends in high school is in prison for life.

I went to three different high schools and I didn’t go to any of my reunions. I wouldn’t recognize anyone, and they wouldn’t recognize me. I didn’t hang out with any of them in high school so why would I want to hang out with them now, decades later?

Didn’t go to the 10 year, and from what I heard, I didn’t miss much. I think it would be fun to see some people and reminisce. 20 years is closer than I care to think about. I’ll see what I feel like when the time comes.

I went to my 35th and left my husband at home. I had fun

I went to my 45th as a divorcee and picked up two boyfriends, one after the other. The second one wrote a poem to my thighs, so that was nice.

There was also another man waiting in the wings. Unfortunately, last month he had a cerebral hemorrhage.

eek!

I had a wonderful two years; my last hurrah, I guess. But there is life after 50…for a while, anyway. And it ain’t over ‘til it’s over. Let’s see whether I can think of any more clichés.

I am now in my Doyenne-with-a-cat phase.

@gailcalled Can we hear the poem to your thighs? :)

I think I will go; sounds fun. The cool thing is, with Facebook Ill still be friends online with people that I don’t see anymore in real life; only problem is that it makes it less of a surprise/mystery.

I was an outcast and a freak + foreigner with an accent most didnt get so why the heck would I go to a reunion + I skipped my prom and went on a rave way back in the late 90’s.

I never went to prom.

Or even a football game or a pep rally.

@jonsblond Yeah, I’m still in contact with a couple of my friends.
It’s been almost five years since we moved and I still can’t forgive my parents for it.

My twentieth is coming up this November. I get an eMail reminder a week from the girl whose organizing it (whom I barely remember).

I went to my fifth and it was boring as hell. I have no intention of attending my twentieth. Truth is, my memory is so bad, I can’t imagine recognizing anyone.

This one HS friend who I’ve barely kept in touch with keeps bugging me to join Facebook as they all, apparently, hang out there. I’m very much, on the fence about it.

Ultimately, there’s only one person from high school I want to keep in touch with…and I married her.

I answered a similar question nearly a year ago so, thanks to the magic of copy and paste, I’ll replay it (from the length of it, looks like I had a mild @dalepetrie moment):

I was part of an 1100+ student class of 1972 at what was the top or at least one of the top academically rated high schools in the Los Angeles Unified School District at the time (my family actually relocated our residence to specifically be in its boundary). It was a very bright class with nearly the entire class headed to college with many accepted to the leading universities throughout the country with even a few headed to Europe to the some of the best colleges in the world.
I attended a formal 20th reunion and a casual 25 year reunion picnic. Not many surprises. The assholes were still assholes only now with asshole kids and the nice kids were now nice adults. Nearly all were very successful and ended up in fields to which they appeared headed. I was one of the exceptions as teachers and classmates had me pegged as M.D. material due to my love of biology and the sciences but the university opened my eyes to much more than the sciences and although I received my degree in biology with most of my upper class studies in microbiology and immunology, I could have darn near obtained minors in 19th century Russian literature (my favorite, Dostoyevsky) as well as philosophy (specifically existentialism). I took that varied education to a large and highly competitive corporation and pretty much exploded through its ranks with great success.
At the reunions, I did notice that not only did the cute girls develop into beautiful women, but so did many of the plainer looking girls. However, I attended the casual picnic with my now ex wife, six years my junior and then extremely hot and very sexy and the picnic certainly gravitated in our direction giving me more peer attention than I received in my entire three years of high school (that may be an overstatement…I did enjoy modest popularity in school).
There was one student in my class that obsessed with keeping communications open between classmates and despite the class size succeeded in doing so. I receive email announcements about once a week and there are reunions annually, be it even a casual picnic, but I don’t count any of my high school friends as current friends, have little interest in what classmates are up to nowadays and no longer attend any of the functions.
Sorry about the long answer, but wtf, it gave me a chance to reminisce a bit. I suspect I could put together a fairly complete memoir just by plucking my answers out of fluther, but I undoubtedly bored or lost you long ago! Please accept my apology (that is, if you got this far).

@whatthefluther That’s mild? hehe

I went. It was lame. I left.

Mine was too horrible to go into.

@chyna….Now that I think about it, @dalepetrie may not have even burst upon the scene yet, making me the original jelly of verbosity….@dalepetrie is a mere copycat, ah, copyjelly (sorry, Milo)!

Milo here; You’re forgiven.

@gailcalled You still owe me the poem to your legs. We will talk later…

@chyna: He was a nice and romantic man but not much of a poet. However, Milo is painting my portrait now.

Milo is very talented, but we knew he would have to be, living in your family of many fine, talented people.

I went to my 10 year, 10 years ago, and my 20 year just a couple weeks ago. For me, I hung out with a very small group of people, and many of the other ones just weren’t really close to me in any way. Basically a class of 92 people it was maybe 4 good friends, 20 people I liked, another 60 who were sort of irrelevant to me, and the last 8 who I just plain never cared for. At my 10 year, one of those in the group of 4 came to the reunion, and that’s about what I expected for the 20 year, and I was not disappointed. BUT, growing up in a very rural, Northern Minnesota town, basically you’ve got two main pastimes…sex and drinking. Since sex really wasn’t an option for a reunion theme, we went with drinking. Friday night we met at a local bar and drank ourselves stupid…of course at 2am that wasn’t enough for some of them, so they drove out to the country and partied at a classmates house until 4:30. The next night we got a party bus and had liquor on the bus and went barhopping, came back to the bar where we started it all, closed that down, and went out to that same guy’s house at 2.

And I gotta say, even though we had about 45 of the people show on the first night and 25 on the 2nd, both nights my one good friend was there, and the rest of the people by and large fell into the two groups of people who comprised 80 of my 92 classmates (the 20 I liked and the 60 who held no meaning to me). The vast majority were of course in the 60, but I actually connected with some of these people far better than I did when I was growing up with them. They were basically all really nice, and a lot of fun to party with. And I came away thinking, even if the people I’d most like to see are the ones who just arent’ going to show up, so what? I come, I see who I see, I have an experience I won’t have again for 10 more years…I grew up with these people, the least I can do is see them for 2 evenings every 10 years. The nice thing however about a reunion is, you don’t have to stay if you don’t want to (well, when we were barhopping on a party bus it would have been quite a hike home, but usually you can leave if you want to). All in all, it’s not like I had a deep connection to my high school or the people in it, and I’m not an overly nostalgic person, but it was a lot of fun just hanging out and partying with people who knew how to party…it was a nice change of pace for me, and I’m sure I’ll go back to another one (maybe not the next one, but at least some time in the future).

why not?

nope.

i’m going into my last year of high school this fall, so i’m not sure yet. i guess it depends on what happens between me and the people i’ve met in high school, post-high school.
i think it would be interesting to see the people i haven’t seen in years, just for ‘old times’ sake’. facebook is kind of ruining the point, but still…

No, ma’am. I didn’t enjoy being with them in the first place, and I don’t know why I’d spend a couple thousand dollars and travel 3000 miles to be with them again.

However, there were a few I did care to see again. I organized a mini-reunion 5 years ago and saw about a dozen people for the first time in 40 years. That was fun and definitely worth doing.

To be honest, I have no idea. It will really depend on where I am in my life at that point in time.

On one hand, it would be nice to see people I haven’t seen in a long time.

On the other hand, how much do they mean to me if both them and I don’t take initiative to see each other without a scheduled event?

High school wasn’t good nor bad for me, it just was. Right now in my life, I am of the opinion that there is very little I would gain by going, but since I am still in the same town it wouldn’t be a burden for me to go.

I haven’t been to any of my high school reunions. I don’t see any change in circumstances that would make me the slightest bit interested in going to any of them.

@cwilbur I’ve always said I’ll go if I’m not doing something else more important, like taking a nap or washing my car.

I think I just missed mine.

My 25-year reunion was 2 weekends ago! It wasn’t well attended, because the organization and communication was lacking. So we are considering trying again in the fall.

I went to my 10-year, which was well-attended, and found that most people fell into the same cliques from High School. I skipped the 20-year, because it was too expensive – $80.00/person! Plus I was not happy at that time in my life.

For the first time, I was looking forward to the 25-year, because I am finally happy with myself, and I find that many people in my age group have been through trials and tribulations, and are also in a good place mentally and emotionally. I hope we are able to get more people to come out in the fall!

No, didn’t go to my 8 year reunion (weird 8 year reunion?). My closest buddies are all from high school so the people I enjoy seeing, I see them all the time. But maybe I’ll go to the 20 year one just to see how much older and different we will become.

I didn’t go to my 10 or 20 year reunions. I was busy having a bridal shower the weekend of the 10 year, and was scheduled to be in North Dakota during the 20 year. However, I went to the 25 year two years ago and it was okay. There were no huge surprises, but it was nice to catch up with a few people who (whom?) I liked, but I didn’t know what they were up to.

There was only one thing that made me think, “HA! Sweet revenge.” The jerk who sat behind me in homeroom and was in several of my classes is now overweight, seriously balding and not sleeping much because his trophy wife (15 years his junior) had a very colicky baby. I’m so pathetic! This memory still makes me smile.

my 35th is in October. I am going.
I skipped the 10th and 20th, but had such a good time at 25 that I have continued going.

@filmfann: At my 35th, all the women were gorgeous and the men generically grey, balding, too heavy, wearing bifocals, boring and looking identical.

It’s odd going to my class reunions. Everyone is waiting to see if he shows up, but he never does. Last time, however, he opened the bar.