What do you do when life gets too hard?
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August 26th, 2009
Is there a certain way you handle it?
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I usually take a break, and get away from it all by taking a hike out in nature. I try to climb up for some nice views. Helps me to gain some perspective and space.
Pray. I’m not very religious but in tims of need this is the only thing that comforts me.
If there’s a good concert
then MOSSHHH!!
or masturbate
You could always smoke pot.
all great answers, but the best way to deal with a hard life is to cuddle with the dog. She loves me unconditiionally, and I can tell her anything and she knows how to keep a secret.
Understand that life will get too hard now and then.
Learn to get use to it. Find distractions till it passes.
You will do fine and you will become wiser and stronger from it.
That is if it does not kill you. ;-) You will be ok.
I usually go into a depression for a couple days and mope around the house until my s/o snaps me out of it.
I usually just poop. That typically solves 90% of my problems.
Honestly, 9 times out of 10 I watch comedy, and it makes me feel at least a little better. Anything I can get my hands on – turn on Comedy Central to catch some stand-up or watch a ridiculously funny movie. Don’t underestimate laughter as a medicine. I also think reaching out to other people is the best thing you can do when you feel like life has just become too much to handle on your own. Calling a friend or family member, or simply posting online like you’ve done can help you feel more connected and maybe gain perspective and advice. Hang in there! :)
-Surf the web
-Read old birthday/get well/Christmas/congratulation cards that you’ve (hopefully) saved
-Watch an old classic B/W movie
-Cuddle up with the Captain
Kill myself. Seems to do the trick.
Sometimes I blast some great music and dance around like a crazy person. It lightens the mood.
@Sanyore quality answer, we have the same humour
“This too shall pass”
I remind myself that I’ve been through hard times and good times before, and the only constant is change.
I like to write in a journal, and try to find the silver lining or life lessons in the tribulations I am facing.
I also like to get into nature: go to the beach, or out in the woods. It reminds me that my life and my problems are but a drop in the bucket of time.
Music is also beneficial. I often start with tunes the help me purge my negative feelings of sadness, frustrations, heartbreak or anger. Then I progress to more uplifting songs that remind me that I can make the choices that will lead me to a brighter future.
Get together with people who encourage me. Sometimes it’s the old friends who have seen me at my best and worst and accept me as I am. Sometimes it’s with newer friends who only know me as a mare mature and confident person that I’ve worked so hard to become, because then it’s harder for me to revert to my old habits.
I meditate, breath, and focus on my breathings and ignore everything else.
I only give answers like this when the question is specific
at times like this, my faith sustains me. I have a place to unload it all. I’m not sure of the exact scripture refference but I cling to this:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, with thanksgiving, present your request to God, and the peace of God, which transends all understanding will guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Life is already hard…
I guess i would have my older sister over and hang out to make me feel better and I’d watch some funny videos to make me happy which i will do now.
When life gets too hard I add some softener. They make really good softener in Scotland…
Remember, if life is still hard after four hours, call your physician.
@hearkat Excellent answer!!
I just take a little time out, and relax for a while, then plow back in feeling refreshed and ready to go again.
Just keep swimming. Remember that you will get through it and life will get better. There are always ups and downs, no situation is permanent.
Short term counseling can do wonders if you find the right therapist. I am also a huge fan of the gratitude journal – five things each day that you are grateful for. It can be something as small as Lucky Charms, especially in the beginning. You will eventually start to find the bigger things.
@airowDee: I forgot to add meditation to my list! I just recently started yoga and meditation, and I find it really helpful to keeping a sense of calm about myself. Thanks for bringing it up, and welcome to Fluther!
@scamp: Thanks!
@Supacase: Love the Finding Nemo reference!
@Supacase; I love “The Gospel According to Dory!”
@ hearkat you bet! I wish I had enough peace and quiet to meditate. My SO doesn’t give me much quiet time. If I am reading a book, it’s ‘Whatcha readin?” Or halfway through a movie, he will walk in and ask me about the plot. So I doubt he will leave me alone long enough to meditate.. sheessh!!
@scamp: When I was married, my ex was more of an extrovert and couldn’t understand my need for solitude at times.
Once, I took the day off from work but didn’t tell him… I got up and dressed as if I was going to work, left the house and parked in a local park and read until I knew he had left to bring our son to child care and go to work. I went back home and took a nice long bath, went to the mall and did some shopping, and then went and saw Joy Luck Club in the theater by myself with a handful of tissues (that’s how long ago it was). Then I went home at the usual time, and he didn’t even notice that I was in jeans!
Can you try to explain it to him? Or perhaps get up 15 minutes before him and go sit somewhere to start your day? I hope you are able to work something out!
For everyday sort of stressors, I recommend taking baths with nice-smelling bath products.
@hearkat He has Asperger syndrome, so it is part of his nature to be inquisitive. I pretty much just grin and bear it. I also have Tuesdays off, so I use it as a day to do all the “me” things I need/want to do.
It works out pretty well, except there are so many things to get caught up on, I don’t find much time left to really relax! I think I need to get some instruction on meditation, and schedule it for Tuesdays!!
Pick yourself up,
Dust yourself off,
Start all over again.
When the seas get rough seek safe harbor and do not exhaust yourself by struggling against the waves.
Determine where you safe harbor is and use it to preserve yourself until the tides turn.
drink in excess, sleep around 15 hours, wake up and cry into your Kix while wearing your underwear and watching day-time T.V. Repeat for the next 5–6 days. If symptoms worsen kill yourself…
ok thats fucked up in serious try to focus on one positive thing and keep moving, but most of all learn from whatever mistakes you have made that has made “life too hard” so you never have to deal with them again.
In the past I usually try to kill myself, these days it doesn’t get that bad
I didn’t used to handle it well. But now I know that I have someone who loves me and will always get me through things.
When life gets too hard, I head over to Disneyland and forget all my troubles for a little while. They don’t call it the happiest place on earth for nothing.
you can forget all your troubles, forget all your cares, and go…
…downtown!
I forgot to mention Primal Scream—if anger or pain wells up inside me, I often feel better after letting a good loud holler out… I usually do it in my car where no one else can hear it.
If life can get that bad to where you really can’t take it, then got to look at the fundamental’s. Probably some medical, mental, social, financial thnigs, going on, wait that’s not really insightful, what else is there, geez I’m tired this morning and this HepC is kicking my ass today, I don’t get paid for another week and a half, flat broke, and my lady is far away working, not even sure if she’s my lady. Someone told me once “we have a saying in this country, fuck you” and I was like hmmm somehow that makes me feel a little better.
Yup. Somehow knowing that someone (or a lot of someones) is out to screw you makes you feel that all’s right in the firmament. Certainly, it makes those moments of fairness seem all the more precious.
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