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How Do You React to People Who Constantly Brag?

Asked by BBSDTfamily (6839points) August 29th, 2009

Whether or not they are unrealistically inflating their own image, how do you react to people who brag about themselves at every chance? This situation makes it especially hard for me to bite my tongue when the person is lying about something they have…

For example,
One of my friends makes about $120k a year, but will say he makes $250k within the first 5 minutes of meeting someone… he finds a way to bring it up! Also, he always refers to his credit card as his “black card”, but it is not the Amex Centurion… it’s just a black Mastercard (no benefits other than a fake status symbol).

Do you ever feel the need to burst someone’s bubble, state how annoying they are, etc? Or do you just avoid the person from now on?

My reaction is to nonchalantly say something to let them know that I am well aware they are practically lying and that I’m not impressed.

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teh_kvlt_liberal's avatar

“Cool story, bro”
“No one cares”
“That’s nice”

Facade's avatar

After calling them out on their bullshit, I avoid them.

Jude's avatar

I try not to associate with those type of people. Perpetual liars out to make themselves look good, not my cup o’ tea,

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

What you’re describing isn’t bragging. It’s lying.
Now ask, “What else is he lying about?”

chyna's avatar

Right after he says he is making $250,000, laugh and say “you wish!”

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Hit him up for donations for a favorite charity. Big ones. Mention that since he’s making $250,000 a year, you’re sure you can count on him for a $1000 donation, as he must need the tax deductions. If you go out to eat, announce that he’s picking up the check, since he’s making more than everyone else at the table. He should get the message.

jrpowell's avatar

I just laugh. People like that start to believe their lies. Then they end up with a house and car they can’t afford. Schadenfreude at its best.

crunchaweezy's avatar

I see it all the time, it’s sad. And the worst part is, I can pick it up really well.

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

People like that are clearly trying to make up for something that’s lacking in their pathetic lives. I feel bad for them. A good person can wow others with their personality, not their status in society, shiny cars, or amount of money they make.

MindErrantry's avatar

In relation to a particularly pretentious person we know at school, my boyfriend says he just treats her as if she’s a small hole in the fabric of reality—not really necessary to pay attention to.* In this case, it works, because she’ll leave as soon as she’s not getting all the stares, but I don’t know if that would work on your bragger…

*If you should happen to find an actual hole in the fabric of reality, I don’t think ignoring it is the best response. Let me know your method!

NowWhat's avatar

Don’t give them the time of day.

whatthefluther's avatar

It’s an indication of insecurity. I ignore people like that. If I can’t ignore them entirely (work associate or family), I ignore that bullshit and give them altogether, as little of my time as possible. They can toot their horn up someone else’s ass. See ya….Gary aka wtf

hookecho's avatar

while I don’t really enjoy talking to people like this, sometimes it can be amusing to “run with the bullshit” and see what ridiculous things their going to say next.

Darwin's avatar

I just smile and move on. Life is too short to worry about someone else’s self image problems, unless that person is one of your children.

DominicX's avatar

I don’t know, I haven’t come across that too much, but I can’t stand phoniness. I don’t care how great you think you are. If it’s not relevant to the conversation then it doesn’t need to be said.

However, I am equally annoyed by people who are constantly complaining about how horrible their life is at every turn.

aprilsimnel's avatar

“Dude.”

“And we should give a shit why?”

I’ve made a point on more than one occasion to catch such a person’s eye and give them the “Will you STOP being a fucking Pete Campbell douchebag, already?” look.

dannyc's avatar

I feel their insecurity and wish them well. I need not stoop to their level of hopelessness.

YARNLADY's avatar

I avoid liars as much as possible, but when I am forced into their company, I am not possessed with a compulsion to become their ‘mommy’. Liars do not fool anyone for long, and it’s not my job to ‘save’ them or their acquaintances.

irocktheworld's avatar

Those people really annoy me and I see a lot of them.Bragging is one of my biggest pet peeves! If you get a chance to go to a perfect paradise or that your mom got a really cool car then just keep them to yourself! Sure you can tell some people but don’t brag it to the entire world! =o

Disc2021's avatar

I usually just laugh and try to find an excuse to escape the conversation – or change the subject.

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