How do I become sexually attracted to my wife again?
My wife and I get along well in general but I don’t really get turned on by her anymore. She’s upset because I’m not interested in sex with her. Both of us feel bad about it and neither of us try to initiate anything any more. It used to be my job to initiate things but I always felt shy about being in that position. I masturbate fairly regularly but when I’m with her I don’t feel anything sexual. When I look at her body I think it looks nice but not in a sexual way. But I guess the relationship has become more like a brother and sister relationship. Neither of us are happy about it – and not particularly happy in general – but we’re against seeing a therapist because money is tight right now. We have sex every few months just so we don’t feel like we “never” have sex but it’s not much to talk about and I usually feel pretty relieved when it’s over. Any suggestions?
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