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What's stopping you from being all you can be?

Asked by NewZen (3502points) October 18th, 2009

This is a version of questions asked in the past, but it’s always nice to hear from someone new to fluther, or old-timers who have something new to add to this thread.

So many people here have tremendous potential as witnessed by their oftentimes brilliant and insightful comments and questions. Nevertheless, they are, or seem to be, “held back” from achieving their full potential.

Why is this? What’s stopping you from attaining all of your goals?

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Jude's avatar

Money.

I’m tryin’, though. I’ll get there.

NewZen's avatar

@jmah @holden Of course. I was looking to open this up more, if you will. I’m listening.

airowDee's avatar

Money.

I think opportunities. People have to believe in me. That can be hard due to my experience, identity, work performance.

Status quo
I think there is a very strong glass ceiling even if I was the best that I could be.

Mental problems
My depression, anxiety, confidence levels, and many other things are preventing me from being the best I can be.

Weakness
I think i have to be really tough and a complete go getter to be the best version of myself, I don’t always want to be the leader, the powerful one. I take comfort in being submissive, stay below the radar, and a follower at times.

holden's avatar

@NewZen
alright, then.
Fear of failure.
Fear of disappointment.
Fear of embarassment.
Fear of losing what I already have.
Fear of taking the wrong path.

Facade's avatar

Money, depression, and some physical issues.

NewZen's avatar

@airowDee—Awareness is the first step – and you are there. I don’t want to quote a certain Doctor that rhymes with Pill – but you have to own it first – and you have.

Lurve.

NewZen's avatar

@holden Hmmm. Okay, thanks for sharing.

efritz's avatar

Shyness, anxiety – I’m always afraid people are laughing at me when I leave the room. Not sure why, exactly, it just seems to be a part my personality.

Jude's avatar

Right now, I am a bit of debt and am worried about finances. Once in the clear, I plan on living a little more. Buying a home, traveling, and furthering my career (Masters of Ed).

If I have that, I’m good to go. I used to worry about failing/ not feeling confident enough in regards to me achieving my goals, but, now I have no doubt that I can do it. I just have to make some more cash.

Shuttle128's avatar

The fact that I have no intention of joining the ARMY? Wait, they’ve scrapped that motto…..I guess nothing is.

whatthefluther's avatar

Recently, a split personality, or so it seems.
See ya….Gary/wtf

hug_of_war's avatar

Money. If I don’t have money I can’t do the things I dream of. Which is interconnected with another reason, parental pressure. I can’t “escape” it because I don’t have enough money to suppport myself and it’s hard to not do what they want when they are paying for my education.

I’m lazy. And I’m good at making plans but not as great in getting them executed. Like many others, depression that can make it nigh impossible to even get out of bed at times.

Worry and fear. Also tied in with parental pressure and depression. I worry too much, worry I’ll fail my parents, that I’m not the daughter they wanted, that I’ll always be less than everyone thinks I should be. I let the fear overtake me, I’m afraid everyone is right about me and I’ll crash when given an opportunity.

I need help, but I can’t stop putting on a cold front long enough to actually admit it. I keep people too far away for them to have an affect on me, so I can reach my potential.

NewZen's avatar

@hug_of_war {{{hugs}}} I think you should talk about this with your parents, and also with someone else.

hug_of_war's avatar

@NewZen Oh I have to an extent with my parents they are just interesting people

asawilliams's avatar

laziness and self worth

buzz's avatar

I was chasing my dream…slow down to fix my personal life..I know nothing can stop me to chase my dream..

deni's avatar

Right now, it’s this damn semester I’m in the middle of at my community college. I’m glad I’m getting some more gen eds out of the way, but all I want right now is to move to Colorado and classes are the only reason I haven’t done that yet. So, I’d say thats about it…as soon as these suckers are done I’m out of here!!!!!

Blondesjon's avatar

The only thing that can.

Me.

NewZen's avatar

@Blondesjon True. But what to do about that?

shego's avatar

I’m scared of failure. I don’t have the finances, or the resources.

rooeytoo's avatar

For me, lethargy breeds lethargy. If I can break the inertia that sometimes grips me, then nothing can stop me! I just found out I am moving back to civilization should be settled in the new place early December. I think that will put some spark back into my life. I am really being beaten down spiritually by my current environment. I need change! I will be living close to the ocean which has always felt like home, I will be close to places where I can pursue and expand my creativity. Close (but not too close) to a major city where I can see a concert or a pro sporting event. Close to a town where there are restaurants and they are open later than 6. I will have over 5 acres to garden and play in one of the most agriculturally fertile places in the country. I think perhaps I have died and gone to heaven.

NewZen's avatar

@rooeytoo <<< wants an invite to this magical placed you’ve just described.

rooeytoo's avatar

@NewZen – anytime mate, bring your fishing rod.

benseven's avatar

Job security – trying to make responsible decisions in unsteady times can sometimes mean laying plans to one side for the time being.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

nothing…i am where i want to be…and on the path i want to be and with the people i want to be…money would help yes but we’re managing with what we’ve got…

wundayatta's avatar

I have no idea, but I always get this nasty niggling feeling that it is me.

bunnygrl's avatar

Living in constant pain, both physical and mental. Feeling completely drained all the time. A very wise nurse said to me a good number of years ago, “fight the battles you can win” , in other words, “baby steps”. It’s worked too. I have gone from being physically trapped in the house, completely unable to go outside, I was like that for over 2 years, to where I am now. I have a part time job and every day I try to keep going.

I can take small steps but the big decisions I can’t cope with anymore. I’m grateful that I have such a wonderful hubby. He has put up with moodswings like nothing else over the years. Without him I would not be still here. Its a fact.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Finances, that’s about it.

Bluefreedom's avatar

Uncertainty…....maybe

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