Is it normal to hate this much?

Are you seeing a psychotherapist? If not, why not? This seems to be causing you some distress, and seems to be interfering with activities of daily life. That’s what psychotherapy is there for: to help you back to be able to enjoy your life without distress.

If you would like some assistance in finding a therapist in your area, PM me, and I will be glad to try to help.

Are you talking about real hate or just dislike? Hatred is an intense, all pervading, energy sapping emotion, but many people will say ” I hate red shoes” when what they mean is “I don’t like red shoes”.

@DarkScribe it’s hate. Anything makes me angry or negative. There’s not too much that I enjoy

@AlyxCaitlin it’s hate. Anything makes me angry or negative. There’s not too much that I enjoy

There are many things that could be wrong, and many possible fixes. How do you feel about yourself, your looks, your weight, your career/schooling?

@DarkScribe I’m fine with my looks and weight. I didn’t like high school and any job I get it’s always a dread and I end up quitting or not putting my all in so I get fired

It is normal to hate. The norm is being a hateful person. However, you should not want to judge yourself off of what most people are like. Most people are insensitive to their surroundings.Most people are miserable. Most people don’t want to believe the truth. Because the truth isn’t readily available. You have to search for it on your own. There is a lot of pain in the world but there is a lot of good. Pain is easier to see than good things. People, express anger very easily just like they see pain very easily. We are prone to see things as bad and that’s it. It is how we are wired. HOWEVER You do not have to be miserable just because your reality is. Are you interested at all? Because I would love to try to help you.

@AlyxCaitlin I’m fine with my looks and weight. I

How is your physical health? Do you exercise? Exercise has an amazing ability to calm and de-stress.

Before doing anything else I would have a full physiological work-up. Full blood panel etc., eliminate a physiological cause before looking for psychological.

@HLRE It is normal to hate.

It absolutely is NOT normal to hate.

YOU ARE NOT YOUR BODY

“Anything makes me angry or negative. There’s not too much that I enjoy”

These are classic symptoms of depression. Listen to @pdworkin.

@Darkscribe… What do you think I am trying to say?

@HLRE Darkscribe… What do you think I am trying to say?

I have no idea what you are trying to say, all I can know about is what you actually said.

Forgive me, but I fear some of these posts miss the point. The OP is unhappy. Why, or what the psychodynamics, or who is to blame, these are not the important questions. The important question is, how can she become normatively happy and fulfilled in life, and there are answers to that question. I don’t know them all, many of you do know how to help, though. I’ve seen you do so before.

I do not wish people to be hateful. I do not want anyone to be hateful. The norm, the majority of people in the world, are hateful. Why do you disagree?

@HLRE you may not be your body, but you’re stuck in it. So if something is not right physically it can affect you mentally/emotionally.

@HLRE The norm, the majority of people in the world, are hateful. Why do you disagree?

Yes, I disagree, because not everyone sees such a distorted view of the world as you do. Most people are not hateful, most people are not insensitive, most people are not miserable.

We are not stuck, in our bodies, we are living in them. Its a miracle. You shouldn’t treat your body like a machine, you do not know how to fix yourself. Who told you could? People need more than just food and exercise and talking to other people

Where is the girl I came here to talk to? haa I hope you are at least interested in this. Who is making the most sense to you? In your gut, How do you feel about all this?

@AlyxCaitlin – I agree with others; you sound like depression is the problem. (I’ve been dealing with since about age 13.) A lot of people think being depressed just means you are sad. That can be the case sometimes, but it can also make you hugely angry with everyone & everything, for no apparent reason.
@HLRE I don’t say ‘stuck’ in a negative way, but I personally haven’t been anywhere without my body. Nobody said all you need is food, exercise, etc. They are just parts of the whole.

Who here, has never said “I hate you”?

or ” I hate _______.”

@HLRE I appreciate your answer, and I thank you (: but please stop answering the question. You’re getting annoying.

I see. You are not looking for “my kind of ” help then. I hope you find THE truth. Not continue on in your own. If I annoyed you with all these I hope I did not further push you away. Forget I was ever here and delete the comments. Please.

@HLRE If you are going to use Henny Youngman’s lines, at least give him credit. Please.

@HLRE The truth to what? You’re being obnoxious. I took your advice, I listened and I thank you, but your last 4 comments are completely unhelpful. Don’t be a drama queen please.

There’s nothing you can do to make this change overnight. It is an ongoing process.

There will always be things that will upset people. The trick not holding on to the negative feelings.
Also if you want to feel good, do nice things for others.

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Can you give examples of your hatred? Like who or what or why you hate whatever it is you hate?

Depression leads to negativity and self-hatred. It makes you feel like there’s little point in life, or like life is too painful. But hatred? I’m not so sure. You have to take an active effort to hate, and usually folks who are depressed don’t have the energy for hatred. And if they do, it is self-directed, because depressed folks tend to think they are responsible for everything bad.

When you hate something outside of you, it is usually because you blame it for whatever is hurting you. You think that the malevolence of the thing you hate is the cause of all your problems. Usually your hatred allows you to believe that you are innocent of anything, and further, that you can’t fight it because there is nothing you can do.

You can feel picked on and hopeless, and I suppose that might end up in depression, but it seems to me that when the depression kicks in, you will lose your energy to hate.

Maybe I’ve over-estimated the effect of depression. Maybe you can be depressed and hate. Still, it seems to me that you wouldn’t do anything about it.

Anyway, I don’t think it’s normal to hate. I think that you can only hate if you’ve learned to think of yourself as utterly powerless, with no control over anything. Parents can teach this, as can schools. Racism or other discrimination can teach this.

But most people learn that they can do some things; that they have control over what happens to them in life; at least, to some degree. Most people don’t blame others, or see others or outside causes as malevolent. If they aren’t malevolent, then they are not worthy of hate. They just are. Really just things to work around. Most people just take what they’re given, and use it or work around it, but see hatred as pretty much useless.

All hatred does is turn itself back on you. All the hate you put out turns around and weakens you. People who hate die of heart problems at higher rates, and have high blood pressure at higher rates. It is destructive to hate.

Now, perhaps this is your mechanism for hurting yourself, while pretending you are hurting someone or something else. Maybe you feel a sense of satisfaction with your hatred. But for some reason you love it and embrace it and hold onto it. Not the smartest thing to do. The good news is that you don’t have to figure out why in order to stop doing it, but therapy will help.

@daloon thank you and GA (:

@AlyxCaitlin Your question was difficult to decifer, and ended thus: I’m tired of mood swings of hard negativity, hating and being happy.

Did you mean that because of mood swings, you are happy one day and mean the next? Could it be manic-depression? Have you been diagnosed? Perhaps you should just check it out, and get your meds plus therapy and join the club. You are seriously not alone! {{{hugs}}}

I’m tired of mood swings of hard negativity, hating and being happy.

@AlyxCaitlin, if you’re spending most of your time in the extreme ends of emotions, then you should should consider seeking professional evaluation. This is not “normal.” It’s not uncommon, but it’s not the way most people live their lives. My daughter is going through this right now herself.

no! hate should not be a part of anybody’s lexicon. turn it into somthing else. and that doesn’t mean it doesn’t have to be something satisfying. Hate is a self-fulfilling project.

Love yourself and love life. Hate yourself and hate life.

As others have said, feeling this way is not what most people feel. Since it is bothering you to feel this way you should start with your doctor, to be sure it is not the result of a physical problem such as low thyroid or a hormonal disorder. Then your doctor can refer you to a counselor or therapist or psychologist who can help you figure out why you feel so negative and what could help you feel more positive. Then finally, you can also be referred to a psychiatrist if you and your counselor agree that some form of medication might help you.

I take Zoloft with an occasional bit of Xanax, and my body has become much easier to live in.

I finally took my brother’s advice one day, after something made me so angry I yelled at my kid and he peed his pants (like 3 years ago, although just thinking about it makes me want to hug him and cry). He said to get angry at someone or something is to give them too much control over your life. Who are they to affect your happiness. Getting angry over an object? What is that object to me that it can affect my mood so much? I can finally not get angry at people all the time, and I just remember these things and think of the goals in my life and the vastness of the universe, and anything I’m going thru can get put into the proper perspective that way.

With the world at it is seemingly on the brink of something truly calamitous, i would think it perfectly natural to be depressed, have you considered travelling to a very different country? with a differing value system, you’d be surprised how unpleasant our lifestyle is.

@MrBr00ks Nice.

It will shorten your life