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jewels's avatar

Should I have my breasts augmented?

Asked by jewels (105points) October 27th, 2009

39yrs old, small B cup, I’ve always wanted bigger boobs but have been too freaked out to get implants. My husband is no help, he just says whatever he is sure to keep him out of trouble.

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pinkparaluies's avatar

Thats silly. You have someone that loves you – and doesn’t even care if you have bigger boobs! Why the need to improve on something everyone loves already? Fake boobs are for women that need a raise in risque careers. Yuck

holden's avatar

No. Your boobies are wonderful the way they are.

jackm's avatar

No, women seem to think that men only want big boobs. I know lots of men, me included, who are turned off by large boobs.

trailsillustrated's avatar

I you really want them and have 5g laying around, go for it!

dpworkin's avatar

No. Breast augmentation is an oxymoron. The only thing they will ever be after elective (that is, non-reconstructive) plastic surgery is fake, and no longer you. Fake tits give me the willies.

SeventhSense's avatar

Unless they are seriously disfigured from an accident or something, I would say just enjoy what the Lord gave you.

Facade's avatar

Please don’t. Be happy with your B’s. I really really hate everything about fake breasts. They’re not like real breasts at all.

casheroo's avatar

I’ve been researching it, just to see if I’d ever really be interested in it someday. From my many hours of research of looking at boobies I’ve come to the conclusion that I would never get implants, but possibly a breast lift. A lift changes you completely, without adding fake implants. I’ve read many testimonials of woman who wish they’d only gotten a lift and regret the implants…so I’d do a lot of research and soul searching before deciding.

chyna's avatar

No, big breasts are a pain.

Likeradar's avatar

Only you can decide if you should.

If you’ve really researched the options and impacts and you want them for you and not to hold on to your youth or impress anyone and don’t think they’ll change your life, why not?

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

The question to ask yourself is “what do I expect will happen as a result of this?”

augustlan's avatar

Of course this is a decision only you can make. But being a woman with lots of boobage, I can tell you… bigger boobs are not all they’re cracked up to be. I would trade with you in an instant.

shared3's avatar

I would consider a breast lift but not implants, at least not until you have serious saggage later in life…then maybe.

Grisaille's avatar

I’d take shape and perkiness over gratuitous amounts of boobage any day. You’re fine the way you are, have a husband, and have just joined the greatest Q&A site on the planet. Sit back, and stare down at your glorious funbags with wonderment… for you are complete

Sarcasm's avatar

@pdworkin Augment: To increase, make larger or supplement.
@jewels If you’ve got the money, and it’s something you’ve thought about for a good portion of your life, I’d say go for it. My sister did, I’m too creeped out to ask her about it though.

timothykinney's avatar

I have several friends who have had their breasts enlarged and they are really happy about it. It’s not about having bigger boobs for anybody else- it’s about how it makes them feel. If you’re doing it for someone else, don’t. If you’re doing it for yourself, I say go for it after understanding the risks completely. The real trick is knowing whether you’re really doing it for yourself or not.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

I have one friend who did it for her 50th birthday, because she was a 34A. I worked with a group of women who all had them done at the same time. One went to a 36 D and she looked awful in anything fitted.

pinkparaluies's avatar

@PandoraBoxx Why does a 50 year old woman need bigger breasts?

SeventhSense's avatar

@pinkparaluies
Easy there you young chippy. She’s 50 not dead.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I like what @The_Compassionate_Heretic wrote- what do you think will be the result if you make them larger? Will you feel more attractive and comfortable in clothes and naked in front of your husband? Will you not care so much what you think but what others will think? Is it the size, the shape or both you would consider? I have to agree with the people who write if the shape is attractive to you then screw what size they are, you are so lucky your husband loves you the way you are. Where I live, most men are plenty vocal about preferring women with fake boobs and they don’t seem to mind the weird texture/feel of them. Damn woman, I envy you!

Parrappa's avatar

Go big or go home right?

Grisaille's avatar

@SeventhSense I lol’d. Well played.

pinkparaluies's avatar

@SeventhSense .... are you sure? :P

Likeradar's avatar

@pinkparaluies Hopefully, you and I will both still care about feeling attractive when we’re 50.

FutureMemory's avatar

I love big tits but only if they’re real. As strange as this sounds, if you have any friends that have had the procedure done ask her if you can feel her up, you might be able to decide right on the spot.

SeventhSense's avatar

Life begins at 40.:)

pinkparaluies's avatar

@Likeradar Nope. Once I’m married and have kids.. I’m letting it alllll go.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I’ve seen soooooooo many boob jobs but rarely any where the shape looks attractive. Most of the time they end up having a weird ‘pointing out to the sides’ thing going on, a too big space in between spread or they hang down too far before becoming huge and round. If I could be guaranteed to have the shape and placement of my boobs 5 years ago then maybe I’d consider but you’d better do a lot of research so you don’t end up with weirdly placed nipples or side rippling or surface puckers, etc.

SeventhSense's avatar

@pinkparaluies
..be careful or you might go also. :P

pinkparaluies's avatar

@SeventhSense Yeah, if I go.. I’ll be taking half of everything with me ;) I’m fine with that.

SeventhSense's avatar

You chicks should have a warning label

pinkparaluies's avatar

Not like men don’t let themselves go. Baldness and beer bellys aren’t attractive, either ;)

SeventhSense's avatar

I’m a stud. So I wouldn’t know. :P

AstroChuck's avatar

Kind of hard for me to answer this question without first seeing what you’ve got goin’ on. How about emailing me a snapshot of those bad boys (sans clothes, of course) and I’ll give you my best response.

Grisaille's avatar

Don’t do it, he’s six years old. Such act would be illegal.

FutureMemory's avatar

@pinkparaluies

Nope. Once I’m married and have kids.. I’m letting it alllll go.

I’m sure your husband will love that.

jewels's avatar

Thanks for all the responses, I would be doing it strictly for myself. I’ve never felt overly femanine or sexy and I would like to know what that feels like before I’m too old to care anymore. Would love to look in mirror and for once see cleavage without the use of a padded bra or to wear a sexy little number for my husband and believe it when he tells me how beautiful I am. Then I think damn how can I be so shallow!

drdoombot's avatar

It’s hard to say without seeing how you look now. I had a girlfriend with a small B cup and she was gorgeous.

Sarcasm's avatar

You should know that breasts are only one part of being beautiful, certainly not even a huge part.

skfinkel's avatar

No. You need to fix your self-image, and that has really nothing to do with how big your breasts are.

Get some great underwear (really, really nice stuff), and get your hair cut and spruced up, and find a pretty dress and some nice boots (all this being I am sure much less than an operation—and much more fun) and then take a picture of yourself. If you aren’t gorgeous, I would be shocked.

Jayne's avatar

I’ve never seen a boob job that looked good. Granted, that may be because whenever I do actually see a good set of implants, I just assume they are natural, but nonetheless, that’s not a risk I would want to take. In any case, many of the most attractive girls I know aren’t overly endowed in the chest department, so it’s not at all a prerequisite, and in some cases not even a bonus, when it comes to being beautiful.

nunoAfonso's avatar

hell no woman. natural over implants any time, any day.

kevbo's avatar

Haven’t read any of the above, but I have heard that women are generally happier following a boob job (although there is a freak out factor immediately afterwards). My gf had one a year ago because she was unhappy with her “pancake/tube sock” boobs. It’s taken a full year for everything to settle down, but she really likes them now. Changing her wardrobe has been a little bit of a hassle for her.

I like them natural, in general, but whatever… she’s happy.

nunoAfonso's avatar

and if your man does not appreciate you, well..he´s loss but don´t start thinking that the problem is your lovely B cup´s.

MissAnthrope's avatar

Given my liking the ladies, I have a vested interest in boobs and have seen and enjoyed my fair share. B’s are lovely, I think they may be my favorite size. Big boobs are a pain, trust me.. Mine are somewhere between a C and D, but I wish they were B’s! For me, I’d rather see a girl with natural boobs than fake ones any day. And I have to say, it’s very obvious to me when they are augmented.

If it makes a serious difference in your happiness, go for it, but keep in mind it takes a good surgeon to make them look real-ish.. I dunno if I’d want to risk a bad boob job, myself.

whatthefluther's avatar

Take the cash and treat yourself to a luxury cruise of the Mediterranean islands. Get a suite with a private balcony and go first class. The sea and the islands, as well as Greece and Turkey, are incredibly beautiful and you will be treated like royalty on the ship. After doing so, you will never second guess your decision. Boobs are boobs…..take a once in a lifetime adventure instead. See ya….Gary/wtf

ragingloli's avatar

i hate big boobs.

AstroChuck's avatar

Big, small, I love them all!

johanna's avatar

No! I am pregnant at the moment and my boobs have gone from B to huge and it is disgusting. They are heavy, and ugly and they get in the way and i cannot move normally and I cannot wait till they go back to being nice and small.

Besides…
what are you going to do with them once you have them. Seriously think about it? Do you think life will be all fine and dandy ‘cause you have bigger boobs? You are still going to be you. Nothing is going to change except that you have less money, pain initially and something artificial and weird right there, forever, smack on your chest.

Besides wouldn’t it be so much nicer NOT to fall into the trap of believing in stereotypical images of beauty? Why on earth should women put silicon or gel or whatever in their bodies just because someone else decided that it looks good? It is all about PR and marketing – someone invented fake boobs and now they have tricked you and many others into believing it is something worthy of attaining. It is simply silly. Give your money to charity – if you still want to support the cosmetic surgery industry there is a fantastic organization that has doctors operate on poor kids with cleft lips. THAT is a worthy plastic/corrective surgery….

filmfann's avatar

My daughter had this done when she was 26. She had low self confidence about her bust, and feels much better now. However, keep in mind she is single, and very self obsessed.
If you feel strongly about it, and can afford it, go for it. But, please, remember that B cups are very nice, and you may not want to appear too large in your later years.

aprilsimnel's avatar

If you put implants in, realize that your skin will sag and stretch as you age, and the elastins and bonds break down. I’ve seen old women with fake boobs at the gym, and OY, VEY! If you feel you must get them augmented and a lift won’t do the trick, don’t go higher than one cup size. A C-cup is plenty big. Consider your frame as well. There’s a reason why many people make fun of Victoria Beckham and why Anna Wintour refuses to put her on the cover of Vogue.

I’m a naturally biggish girl on top and I have to let you know, the girls are heavy. Sometimes it’s hard to buy blouses and shirts that are decent. All my oxfords must be purchased at larger sizes and then tailored down, which annoys the hell out of me. I can’t not wear a bra if I’m going out in public because they really move when left to their own devices!

People make a lot of assumptions about women with naturally large breasts, as if they have control over how big they get and that the size directly correlates to their sexuality, when such is not at all the case. Think this through carefully. Talk to other women before you make sure; it’s a big decision.

And remember also that it is surgery. Things may not go according to plan. It’s rare, but problems happen. Are big boobs worth the risk of serious complications? Nerve damage? Leaking? Good luck.

MissAnthrope's avatar

50 is the new 40.

Sarcasm's avatar

50 is old. Always has been always will be.

gailcalled's avatar

@Sarcasm : I presume that you have found the fountain of youth? 50 now is the half-life mark for milllions of people. Most of them are happy, productive and energteic.

To return to the question, there is also the issue of loss of or diminution of sensation and possible difficulties when wanting to nurse.

Given the issues that life can throw at you (Gary’s ALS, Cak’s CLL, bi-polarism, depression, diabetes, cancer, heart problems, obesity), worrying about an inch more or less of breast tissue seems frivilous.

MissAnthrope's avatar

@Sarcasm – You wouldn’t say that if you met my mom. (waits for the obligatory mom joke)

gailcalled's avatar

@Sarcasm: You wouldn’t say that if you met my mom either, who is 94.

Sarcasm's avatar

@MissAnthrope / @gailcalled Why wouldn’t I say that after meeting your moms? @MissAnthrope, I met her last night

Yes I’ve found the fountain of youth, and it’s all mine. And although some people may live to a hundred, the average lifespan in the US is 75 (varying by gender and race). 50 is the two-thirds marker for the average person.

MissAnthrope's avatar

@Sarcasm – She looks young, for one, but mostly it’s her energy and mindset.. she just has a younger brain for lack of a better term and it definitely comes across. She pays attention to current events, trends, and fashion (and doesn’t dress like an “old person”). Actually, her husband is the same age as she is and he looks and acts pretty young, too. He has so much energy and physical strength, it’s really impressive.

chyna's avatar

@Sarcasm 50 is only old if you let it be old. I have seen some 40 year old people that act 70 and look 70, but I’ve seen 50 year olds that are quite sexy and young looking/acting.

gailcalled's avatar

Sarcasm: Here’s my mother at 92 (she’s the one in red).

http://i36.tinypic.com/10713wo.jpg

It helps if you look like this at 19 and had a contract with Paramount Pictures.
http://i38.tinypic.com/2h34qz6.jpg

Sarcasm's avatar

You’re not helping yourself here. That first picture, she looks quite old.

gailcalled's avatar

She is quite old but still very beautiful. Note that there is no walker, no glasses and all her own teeth.

@Sarcasm: I will be waiting to see what you look like in your 90’s.

chyna's avatar

@gailcalled She is quite beautiful. I only hope to live that long and look that good at 92. (Bette Davis eyes? It should be Gails moms eyes!)

MissAnthrope's avatar

Awwwwww @gail’s mom!!

Sarcasm's avatar

I don’t want to live to my 90s. Anyway, who says that (if I get to 90) just because I’m 90, I’ll think 90 is suddenly young? Hell, that’s 15 years older than the average life expectancy. Objectively, that is very old.

I feel like we may have gotten a little sidetracked, from the question about breast augmentation.

gailcalled's avatar

@Sarcasm: You’re the one who threw the switch to sidetrack the train.

How old are you?

Sarcasm's avatar

I didn’t do it! Much earlier in this question somebody rose the topic of 50 being old, as someone before that person said they knew a lady who got a breast augmentation at 50. @MissAnthrope had only rekindled the fire! er, wait, we’re talking about trains, not fires. She uh…. Turned the train’s engine back on?

As we discovered in the Little black dress question, I was in my prime in the early 20th century (I believe the black dress affair happened in 1916. It then hit the rest of society in the 20s). I was about 22 at the time, so.. carry the eight… add the eleven… I’m now uhh… 115 years old. Quite old indeed.

gailcalled's avatar

@Sarcasm: Interesting. My mother was born in the early 20th century – 1914.

(The thumbnail of you is probably not the most flattering.)

gailcalled's avatar

@MissAnthrope: She is lovely; you must be, what, 14?

MissAnthrope's avatar

Hahaha. I’ll be 33 next month, but I inherited some good genes and get carded for cigarettes and alcohol constantly.

Sarcasm's avatar

What makes you say that?
It’s not like I’m saying “Gross! Old people, anyone over 22, make me want to vomit!” I’m saying nothing negative. I’m stating my opinion that 50 is old (and recently I think I’ve been arguing about whether or not 90 is old. I’m really not sure any more).

I’d really like to see what’s rude about my statements…

PretentiousArtist's avatar

I’ll tell you what’s rude! When people on the subway/bus want to get out first and ahead of you. And don’t get me started on people who don’t say “excuse me” when people purposely and clumsily bump into you!

gailcalled's avatar

@PretentiousArtist: If you had augmented breasts, and people bumped into them, you probably would feel nothing. (No one is planning on getting you started on any diatribe, I bet.)

timothykinney's avatar

@gailcalled Your Mom is gorgeous. Thanks for sharing!

FutureMemory's avatar

@Sarcasm You’re not helping yourself here. That first picture, she looks quite old.

You never, ever tell someone (or a relative of that someone) that they look old, especially someone you don’t know.

As you get older you’ll realize being “old” has far less to do with how much time has passed since your birth and the subsequent physical signs such as wrinkles or baldness, and much more to do with your attitude and willingness to try new things and stay active. I have a friend that plays paintball with guys 50 years younger than he is. He’s 70, but has a blast running around the field dodging and diving right along with them. This past summer we built a huge antennae on top of his roof, spending countless hours carrying heavy pipes and other materials up and down that damn tall ladder, yet he never lost enthusiasm for the project or complained about aches and pains. In fact, he was the one that did most of the roof work (“You better get down, you’re not in shape for this roof stuff!”) – I stayed on the ground doing the easier tasks. (I am 36 after all, at my time of life I need to take it easy and conserve my strength.) The man is twice my age but is so active and has such a great attitude towards life that it would never occur to me that he is “old”.

Just the other day I met one of my neighbors, a guy that walks 30–45 minutes every day at a fairly brisk pace despite his age of 82. Other than his gray hair and gravelly voice he acts rather young, because he still is young. He told me it had never occurred to him to “take it easy” until his 80th birthday, and only then because his doctor kept harping on it.

So you see, whippersnapper, age doesn’t have to be just a measure of time, or the number of hairs on your head or wrinkles on your face, but more so your mindset and willingness to get out there and still enjoy yourself as you try new things, whether it’s giving a new sport a try simply because it looks fun, or entertain the thought of getting bigger boobs (if that’s your thing), since despite your “age”, you still have the audacity to think about your appearance, and dare I say, enjoy it. Your (apparent) opinion that “old” is based on numbers only is rude, judgmental, and downright embarrassing. It’s understandable though, when I was your age (<30 I’m guessing?) I was the same way – I didn’t start learning much about life until I was about 31–32.

Now, forgive me, but I really must review these rest-home brochures before I settle in for my afternoon nap.

Jayne's avatar

I would like to point out that this is a question about physical appearance, plain and simple, and so no matter how you want to define age, and no matter how much you want to talk about inner beauty and vivacity, the fact remains that old people have old looking bodies, and might want to steer clear of the silicone.

timothykinney's avatar

That said, boobs are pretty cool.

blushes

Jeruba's avatar

In my “New Activity” list, this question is followed by the one that asks How do we know that all we see is real?

How indeed?

whatthefluther's avatar

@Jeruba….I prescribe to the touch and taste test, but that may just be me (and only with @sccrowell, of course).
See ya….Gary/wtf

Judi's avatar

I will be the voice of descent. After nursing 3 kids and loosing 80 lbs I rewarded myself with a breast lift (with implants) and a tummy tuck. The Doctor explained to me that the skin was not firm enough for a lift without implants to look good and I was tired of rolling them up from my knees to put them in my bra.
I absolutely love it. I wear the same size bra as I wore before, but it looks better, I feel younger and the most important thing is I AM HAPPY WITH MY CHOICE. To heck with what anyone else says. Find a good doctor. (I have a great recommendation if you want to PM me,) and consult with him and then decide what’s best for you.
No one even suspects that I have implants unless I tell them. They look very natural and my husband is thrilled as well.
Judging someone by this kind of choice is about as crazy as judging someone for their having tattoos or being pro choice. To quote the wise Ross Perot, “A woman’s body is a woman’s body. She can do what ever she wants with it.” (or something like that.) Who is anyone else to judge you for doing what is best for you.
I don’t like tattoos, but I don’t judge people who have them. It is YOUR choice. Perky boobies are the bomb!!

AstroChuck's avatar

@Judi- But daloon’s cheeks are the exception, right?

Samurai's avatar

I like small tits, so I don’t recommend getting them augmented.

MissAnthrope's avatar

I honestly never thought I’d hear anyone quote Ross Perot. Well played.

Judi's avatar

@AstroChuck ; I have finally gotten to the point where I am not shocked and disturbed by them.

jewels's avatar

Going for my first consult tomorrow.

faye's avatar

I lost nipple sensation- got it back when I had them removed.

Grisaille's avatar

Wh…what?

faye's avatar

Tis true, the doctor told me I might lose nipple sensation when he removed them [the old silicone ones]. loverly, loverly once I healed. I had forgotten….

Grisaille's avatar

Oh. Cool. And a bit peculiar.

Good for you :P

gailcalled's avatar

@Grisaille: Not peculiar but common knowledge that sensation loss is not uncommon in breast augmention.

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