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What is sex like for transexuals?

Asked by mineown (409 points ) November 10th, 2009

What is sex like for a man who became a woman and now has a vagina? Is it like being a girl? Does it feel like anything at all? I mean it’s not like they have a real vagina with the sensitive flesh. So what’s the deal?

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rangerr's avatar

oh my.

troubleinharlem's avatar

Good question!
Uhm… I suppose it feels better to them. I mean, they didn’t like the other alternative.

Dr_C's avatar

I would imagine the first time would be awkward, painful and probably quicker than expected… so most likely just like what a girl feels the first time.~

mineown's avatar

yeah but it seems like… its not the sensitive flesh, its just sort of it seems like…ok like if they cut ur dick off then fucked the hole wear it used to be. i dont think it would feel like sex to a girl. just like sticking ur finger in an open wound. you know?

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

@mineown I think we can discuss this topic without necessarily being quite that vulgar.

Lacroix's avatar

When their genitals are reshaped, all that’s really done is a folding and tucking of their original parts. So I’m told it’s just as sensitive as it was before. They must use a lubricant (having no natural lubricant of their own), but the experience is quite enjoyable for both parties involved. Orgasm can be achieved easily.

Dr_C's avatar

@mineown ok in all seriousness i think you better research what the actual gender re-assignment surgery entails before making these claims. They do not emasculate the patient… the penis is inverted and introduced into the abdominal cavity thereby PRESERVING the sensitivity of the member.

mineown's avatar

i guess that could be but the male genitalia isnt nearly as sensitive as the female genitalia.

oratio's avatar

@mineown How do you know that?

Dr_C's avatar

“Not as sensitive” does not equal “not sensitive”.... it’s a level of degrees. some men are more sensitive than others.. some women are more sensitive than others. It’s a relative scale based on personal experience and there’s no real way of quantifying the reaction in a large group. Just because they may or may not be as sensitive does not mean they are completely immune to pleasure and therefore cannot orgasm.

Dog's avatar

The topic of this question is not a debate over which gender is more sensitive.

Dr_C's avatar

@Dog have I told you how much I lurve you today?
ps.. did you watch the Chargers beat the Giants? I was screaming my head off! can’t wait for Philly!

mineown's avatar

what i meant is does it feel like you are being…penetrated, or just like its happening to your penis but inside ur body?

Dr_C's avatar

@mineown explain how that is different..
not trying to be difficult just trying to better understand your point

Lacroix's avatar

@mineown From what I’ve been told, it feels like you’re being penetrated. When your sex is changed to female, you are given a hole in your body, just like a female. So you feel the sensation of someone being inside you, but you feel it throughout the entire new genitalia, not simply the clitoris as with females.

mineown's avatar

Do I really need to explain it? A vagina is meant to be penetrated and the flesh is designed for it and to be pleasurable. But with a transgender it is external and it might feel as if it was just relocated and not the female sensation. And to Lacroix which i think is a seltzer water that i make fun of my friends mom for drinking that sounds plausable and i kinda wanna know what it feels like. lol

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Gah, get you all to an anatomy class or wikipedia at least.

rangerr's avatar

Does this actually make sense to anyone else?

mineown's avatar

I’ve tried looking it up. didnt find anything about sexual sensation.

Lacroix's avatar

@mineown It is entirely possible for you to experience what it feels like. At least to some degree. It requires an open mind and some lubricant, however.

Dog's avatar

@mineown I think the only way to get an accurate assessment of what it feels like you would need to ask someone who had experienced the operation thus knowing what the difference would be firsthand. Or you getting it done to yourself.
Anything else is going to be a logic-based speculation.

troubleinharlem's avatar

@rangerr ; nope. not very much, but I’m half asleep.

mineown's avatar

I would do it, but the problem is I’m straight. So even though I wouldn’t mind being a girl, if I was one, then I would be a lesbian.

Lacroix's avatar

@mineown Straight or gay has nothing to do with it. Girls can stimulate a man’s anus just as easily as another man, so it should not be regarded as “gay”. Gay men participate in oral sex, after all, but nobody accuses a man of being gay if it is given by a woman.

mineown's avatar

ok but im saying that there is no need for me to become a woman because am straight and a regular (to a short extent) guy

Tink's avatar

I don’t think anyone said you should become a woman.

mineown's avatar

oh well. I would like to try it though for a day. haha but not permanently.

nzigler's avatar

“Girls, Lisa. Boys kiss girls.”

-Homer to Lisa on the subject of Gore Vidal. I thought a confused understanding of gender norms was appropriate.

oratio's avatar

@mineown The Simpsons.

ccrow's avatar

@Tink1113 GA for the link :-)

fireinthepriory's avatar

Well, no one can be both born with a vagina and also be a MtF transgendered person, so a real comparison can never be made. However, MtF transgendered people enjoy sex and can orgasm, so by definition it must be pleasurable for them. I have never heard of anyone who transitioned and complained about sex not being pleasurable afterwards. In fact, in Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues there is a monologue from the point of view of MtFs and they talk about how sex is better after transitioning (I remember a quote about orgasms being jerky before, and now coming in waves, or something to that effect).

So yes, it is “like being a girl” considering they are girls now, and actually they do have a real vagina with sensitive tissue, since (as many above have pointed out) their new vagina is skillfully crafted from genital tissue.

sliceswiththings's avatar

@fireinthepriory You must be a graduate biology student familiar with GLBTA experiences!

fireinthepriory's avatar

@sliceswiththings Am I that transparent?? ;)

oratio's avatar

Interesting link about sex change procedure, MtF. #

airowDee's avatar

A man can’t become a woman.

A biological male can be a woman though.

Surgery does not make someone become a man or a woman suddenly. Transition is a gradual process , and it involves not only surgery , it might not even involved a surgery but just hormonal changes or both.

A trans woman who is born female can live like any other women, with or without a surgery. Many trans women live like women without surgery, as long as they are preceived by the society that they are women. Sex for a trans woman is as unique an experience as any other woman.

It is probably not a very nice thing to ask trans women how their sex lives are like, as if transsexuality is all about sex.

A vagina is not meant to be penetrated, transsexual women are not all heterosexuals who are attracted to men, just like non transsexual women are not all attracted to men.

Sexual pleasure is not only physical pleasure, but also physiological pleasure. There is no one answer to this question that can apply to all transsexual women. Most women can achieve orgasm after surgery and they do not cut the penis off, the penis is turned outside in.

mineown's avatar

The only thing I want to say about that is that a vagina is meant to be penetrated. Hence sex for reproduction then child birth.

oratio's avatar

@mineown That is showing a lack of understanding of human sexuality and trying to make it simple. Many of the functions animals have and the things we all do have multiple uses. Sex is no different. It is an important function where we create special bonds with each other. There are too many gay people out there showing that, every day for that not to be true.

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Lacroix's avatar

Actually, I would say that a vagina is definitely meant to be penetrated. Just as a penis is meant for insertion, a mouth is meant to be used to eat/drink, and ears are meant to hear.

Whether you choose to use those parts for their biological purposes, however, is entirely up to you. There’s always ping pong.

bambi27's avatar

Well, I am a post op transexual. I suppose to have been born male(genitalia), but i never, ever felt like that..as a matter of fact I don’t recall any moment in my life when i felt male, since my first memory I felt Female, so therefore at 21 I had the operation..How does it feel when having sex? it feels just wonderfull….i have read what some of you wrote regarding what involves the operation,,you know the repossition of stuff and all that..and i believe is true, but i am not much interested in what involved to be honest, for me it was really really important to have a vagine because that is

mineown's avatar

Do you think it feels the way it would if you had been born with it rather than having surgery to get it? (I am genuinely curious)

peterau69's avatar

Hi to all, I am male and have always felt that i should have been born female, due to the way that i was brought up and the general thoughts of what is normal and what is not, i have lived my stereo type life as a male, been with the usual share of genetic females, and a few preop ladies as well as a few post op ladies, and i can safely say that the girls that i have been with that have had surgical reconstruction not only look like the real deal but enjoy sex as much ,if not more than their genuine sisters,having said that, i have been married to my wife for close to 30 years and she gets no satisfaction from close intimacy, so does it really matter if the feelings vary from one girl to another, from what i am told by genetic females sex is only as good as you make it, and as far as the girl telling you who she was before ,i do not think that it matters, as you must have been attracted to her to have got to the point of having sex. and as any genetic female will tell you ,and any post op girl will agree they are not going to drop their knickers for just any one untill they know what sort of a guy you are.

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